17 and wish to become pregnant

I'm a 37 year old mom of an 18 year old girl and a 16 year old boy. I felt the same as you did at your age and had my children. Unfortunately I was unable to complete my college education until just a few years ago. Your question is a very hard on to answer as there are both pros and cons to having children at such a young age.
I wasn't able to complete my education and had to work at low paying jobs in order to support 2 growing children. My relationship with their father was great at first, but the stresses of raising 2 kids was very hard on our relationship and it very quickly broke down. I was unable to save for their college educations, as supporting them took up all the money I made. My daughter is now in college herself, and will be paying off student loans for years to come.
And now the upside. I am 37 years old and reasonably healthy. My children are independant and I'm able to enjoy my late 30's with very few responsibilities.
Every mother wants the best for her children and you should ask yourself, is this what your mother wants for you?

I am 17 and my boyfriend and i want a baby also we are in our last year of high school now i figured it out by the time school lets out for summer i'll have my baby and he will be going into the air force his family is ALOT better than mine his mom loves kids just like i do so we were thinking if we have a baby while he is in basic i can go to college while his parents helps us with the baby...Its probably not a very good idea but i dont want my parents into the babys life as much because they smoke drink curse and are never home for thier kids i dont want them leaving my child with someone that i dont know

hope this helps you and maybe we can talk sometime

why dont you finish college completely, get your degree or diploma and start your career, save up a TON of money, get your benefits from a job-health insurance etc.
get your own place, pay your rent or mortgage, your own health insurance, car insurance, utilities, bills etc.
pay off student loans if you have them,
be fully responsible for yourself, before you start having or planning kids.
because in the end, the parents you live with now, will end up being financially responsible for that baby.
because when your boyfriend goes to the army, how are you going to support a baby by yourself because i am sure he is there for more than a week long stay or month long stay.
so how would you support this baby during the months or years that he is away if you only have a year of college under your belt and no career or stable good paying job with benefits and all?

you have to think more about just having this baby, you need to be fully responsible for yourself first, because even though i am sure you do not want to hear this, something could happen where you two do not want to be in a relationship with each other-as hard as it is to grasp that or believe that it CAN happen,
and then what are you to do being a single moher?
plus you boyfriend will be in the army, so during the months or year(s) that he is away, you need to be financially responsible for this child, physically responsible for this child and more.
and if you dont have a good job or career, savings of your own and more, how are you going to raise a child?
is it fair to burden your family with the financial stuff for something you want?

the mothers-to-be or mothers who already have their children make it look easy in the public eye, because we dress them up cute, we oo! and aa! and play the silly games and we laugh off a tempertantrum at a store more, but you do not see the actual reality behind closed doors. you dont see the sleepless nights, or maybe you do but i doubt you are up every 2-3 hours or every hour with a crying baby and then sitting up for 3+hours while a little baby cries or just wants to be up for the night and then your physically drained from exaustion and more.
its fine to want and want and want a child, but it is 150% different once you have your own baby.

I strongly suggest getting all these things organized like your own financial savings and responsiblities, getting your own place, car insurance etc.
and really finish college with a diploma or degree in hand, do that not just for yourself, but for the future child you have. it is alot harder to go,get or finish college once a child is born.

there is no rush this either because you are only 17 years old.
and i dont say any of these things to be rude or criticise you.
if you need to talk, PM me anytime.

I understand how you feel, wanting to become pregant at a young age. I am 17 and pregnant, and heave everyone here for me, but I know things are going to be hard. With the fact that your boyfriend is going into the Army, I would maybe wait until he is done with that. It is very hard to have child and not have a father there to help you. Truth is, when the child is born, they immediately need to bond with the mother and father. I think that if you have this child while he is away, it will affect him later in life. If you need anyone to talk to about this though, I am willing. Whatever choice you make is YOUR choice. Dont let anyone tell you how to live. Sure they can give you advice, but its really you who has to live this life. So, make sure you think hard about the decisions you make. Just remember, if you plan on becoming pregnant, start taking prenatal vitamin NOW, it helps soooo much. Taking them cant hurt you. If you need any help with when to try conceiving, you can message me! Good luck!!

Im 17 going on 18 and wish to be pregnant ive done research and would have no problem going to school while pregnant. i think its a beautiful process. my family would support me. ive even had a baby for a weekend to take care of cause i kept telling my mom i wanted a baby. i still do. i dont have a job and im gonna be graduating from high school this year. as of right now i dont have a boyfriend and mom knows im sexually active. lots of friends and family tell me to wait but im growing inpaicent and frankly i dont care that they dont want me pregnant ive thought some of it threw. anyone with opinions?

Being an Army Wife and young mother(15 with daughter and prego @ 21 with son)I can tell you from experience you should wait to have a baby. You dont have to wait till you get done with school because there is always online classes. But what you should wait for is for him to get out of basic and AIT, go to your 1st duty station and be married without children for awhile. Marriage is a very bumpy course alot of young girls myself included think that they are going to be something out of a fairy tale. Starting a new marriage ontop of joining the Army life will make things tuff. Your husband depending on what MOS and duty station will not be home all the time. My husband spent more time in the field than he did @ home for the 1st 1.5 years of our marriage. Then he spent the 3rd year of our marriage over in Korea. If you want to talk message me.

Having a baby is a life-altering decision. And once you have a baby, it is PERMANENT, no take-backs. I got pregnant at 17. My situation is NOT the norm of most teenage girls. I graduated high school early, had a job, was attending college, and had my own place. I did not rely on the Government to pay for myself or my son, however, being adopted, I was on Medicaid, which transferred to my son when he was born, but it was a temporary situation. As soon as DH (at the time, he was still my boyfriend) joined the Navy, we booted Medicaid and opted for Tricare Prime. Because of my job, I did not qualify for WIC. All that being said, pregnancy is NOT all fun and giggly. Morning sickness, fatigue, cramps, back pains, PRETERM LABOR (which I had), complications (which I had), and possibly death of the fetus or baby (which I have also had) are ALL very realistic scenarios that CAN play out. Delivery is no day in the sun, either. 16 hours of back labor, and a quick delivery of a baby boy SUNNY SIDE UP resulted in tearing. Stretch marks are impossible to get rid of, unless you can afford a tummy tuck. And then there is the "little bundle of joy"...colicky, always hungry or wet, teething, falling down the stairs when learning how to balance, running into walls, parenting is NOT EASY. Doctors appointments for well-baby check-ups. Doctors appointments for sick children. ER visits. And don't get me going about the COST. For the first two to three years of life, expect to be buying yourself AND your new baby a complete new wardrobe every month to three months. Formula is not cheap, breastfeeding is an option, yes, but NOT for everyone (let me tell you, leaky breasts are not attractive, soaking those little boob pads every time you hear a baby, even if it is not your own, make any noise, be it a sigh or scream), diapers, regardless of the type you choose to use are not cheap. Medical care is not cheap. Not to mention, the "school" thing...you may have someone who could watch your baby, but is it someone you KNOW? TRUST? A good income is NEVER something to rely on, jobs and wealth are lost easily. Do you have any way of preparing for that type of emergency? Heard of SIDS? Not meaning to scare you, but could you handle the death of your own child? Girls, you need to be realistic. Think it over, look at it from EVERY angle. Life happens, and in life there are good and bad things. I am not saying that having a baby is the worst experience ever (it's actually overall, nice, but worth the wait), it is just a LOT tougher than some of you seem to realize. I know some of you may think "who is she to comment" but I have been there, done that. My pregnancy was NOT on purpose, though, just a miseducation on birth control and antibiotics.

just out of school years ago there were many couples then that are not together now. alot of them have children together, and believe me i have known alot of men who have went away in to the service. they come back a different person sometimes never comming back. im sorry if this is blunt but it is the truth. take your time you are young and why not wait the option will still be there. i hate to see people get into situations that in the end are not the best.

no your not insane, i just turned 17 and i want a bay too! i just want an answer. sum1 reply to me! please! seriously out of all the forums i join, no one answers my question. have i got something wrong with me, is it like a chemical imbalance or is it the fact that i never got a childhood and was forced to be an adult straight away pretty much

no your not insane, i just turned 17 and i want a bay too! i just want an answer. sum1 reply to me! please! seriously out of all the forums i join, no one answers my question. have i got something wrong with me, is it like a chemical imbalance or is it the fact that i never got a childhood and was forced to be an adult straight away pretty much.
its like a craving, if i could stop it i would. is it like a condition, or what? can it be fixed???

i am 17 and expecting my first child with my fiancee and i have to tell you i felt the same way you did for a very very long time i had tried many many times to have a little one from the time i was 16 and i have been pregnant 2 so far ( lost the first one ) it puts so much stress on you no matter how much you make me and my fiancee have been living together for just about 2 years and its putting a mayjor toll on us i would have to say be careful cuz if ur fiancee is in the military you dont want ot get pregnant and then him get sent away and have to do this by urself cuz you will need him there throughout your pregnancy not just once the babys born i do not htink ur insane alot of girls are just born to be mothers and i think you sohuld just make sure you can handle it b4 you go ahead with things pregnancy is not all fun and games ur sick and ur back hurts and my god if you get heart burn like me it is hell and you are going to want to just skip outa skool and sleep but you wont be able too anyway good luck with everything

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I feel the same way I was prego in nov but I had gotten the news I had lost it just three days after I found out and I've been tryin to concive ever since and nothing yet but just be takin prenatal vit. Si your body can be ready that us what my doc told me to do and that will be easier and healthy for u n the bbt u want I'm here if you need anything

I would strongly recommend you to get pregnant as soon as you can. You can get degree later. Get pregnant first. After high school, I went to college and got my degree and couldn't find a job. I have so much student loan to pay off and I have no job. I am close to 30 and I couldnt find a guy either. I am running out of time to have a baby. I wish I got pregnant when I was 16 or 18 so i wouldnt have to worry now. If I were you I will definitely get pregnant and not to wait to get degree. I am telling you dont waste your time in college. There are plenty of jobs outthere you can get to raise baby. You can also get government support for medical and for food housing and etc if you are single and pregnant. You have plenty of help to get pregnant. Please dont wait. Get pregnant now. Otherwise you will regret later.

I really hope you are not serious, kavv. Please don't pay attention to this person.

i am 17 years old and me and my boyfriend are ttc and idk if its going to happen its been 10 days after he has let it out in me and i pray to god i am!!! ): but idk when should i take a test and i really love babes i really want one i hope god hears me out and helps me please because i really want a baby!!!! we have done it 10 days straight could i be prego???

Im 17 and pregnant, the pregnancy wasnt planned but i strongly disagree with abortion and couldnt live with myself if i did. I honestly think you should wait. You might not want to hear people saying this to you but sometimes you have to go by whats best for you and your family and ignore what you want. Maybe wait to see if he decides to permanantly stay in the army - i know if i didnt have my boyfriend close to my side even through the pregnancy never mind the birth and the baby that i wouldnt be able to cope. Just think things through and consider all angles to the situation from all perspectives and THEN make your decision. If you truly believe u are ready then go for it, just dont mistakes most of us here have done and learn from them.. I dont regret getting pregnant but i wish it could have come along a few more years down the line. Wishing u luck Ps if u do get pregnant feel free to message me if u want to chat with someone going through the same stuff. xx