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Q: 17 and wanting a baby......
asked by: Aunt WeeWee on June 12th, 2008
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yea, ok, i know im crazy. i even tell myself that. i dont know why Im feeling like this but for the past couple weeks, ive been really wanting to get pregnant. My boyfriend dosent want a baby, not for a long time. When i think about it, I know i should wait, but then again i really want one soon. More then likely im not going to get pregnant anytime soon, but its like my body want to be pregnant or something. Confused It a crazy feeling. My sis-n-law told me that its just something my body is going threw, and a lot of girls go threw it.

has anyone else ever went threw this?
Why is this happening?

Thanks for any replys!!!
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Lorieb replied on June 12th, 2008
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Your not crazy. It's something that happens to most young women. It could be for many reasons. You just have to make sure you think about that long and hard before you act on it, because it is too late once you decide to have one. My personal advice, coming from experience is, be young, have fun!! Enjoy your freedom while you can. Before you know it, those days will be long gone and trust me, it's hard to get them back.
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Aunt WeeWee replied on June 12th, 2008
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Lorieb wrote:
Your not crazy. It's something that happens to most young women. It could be for many reasons. You just have to make sure you think about that long and hard before you act on it, because it is too late once you decide to have one. My personal advice, coming from experience is, be young, have fun!! Enjoy your freedom while you can. Before you know it, those days will be long gone and trust me, it's hard to get them back.



Thanks. Thats a very nice way to put it. Most people i tell i want a baby, they jump down my throut, telling me to wait. i know i should really wait, but i just have that feeling in my body. I know its a long precess to having a baby and a big responsibily. I have 9 nieces and knephews and plus i babysit. I know its not the same as your own kid, cause you just cant give tha kid back, but i know i would be physically ready to take care of a baby. Thanks again
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psyverson replied on June 12th, 2008
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babies
You're young, enjoy it while it lasts. I'm 29 and looking back I am so glad my girlfriends and I never got pregnant. You'll have plenty of time. Plus a baby isn't a toy, it is serious stuff. And can you pay for one right now?
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Aunt WeeWee replied on June 12th, 2008
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Re: babies
psyverson wrote:
You're young, enjoy it while it lasts. I'm 29 and looking back I am so glad my girlfriends and I never got pregnant. You'll have plenty of time. Plus a baby isn't a toy, it is serious stuff. And can you pay for one right now?



i think about that too. I know a baby is really expensive and me by myself i would have to say probably no, but with the help of my boyfriend and family we would make. But i do think about it a lot, and its about the only reason i give for waiting. i want the best for my baby!
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Aunt WeeWee replied on June 12th, 2008
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also forgot to mention i will be 18 in Aug, and i do work
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Rosie H replied on June 12th, 2008
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I felt like this when I was 15 & 16. Mostly because I though a baby would love me when I wasnt being loved by anyone else. I was lonely and it seemed like a good idea. My boyfriend and I did not take any precautions and easily could have gotten pregnant. But for some reason I never did. Then I stapped out of that rut and started taking care of myself. I am 21 and preggos with my 1st. I am soo glad that I never got pregnant that young. I have been able to accomplish a great family and home for this new baby....and thats something I couldnt have offered as a teenager.

So your feelings are normal, I too think most of us go through this at one point in our teenage years. But it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and will make the right choice. Its good that your sharing these feelings with people too.
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AyaMiyaki replied on June 12th, 2008
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Hormones. Wink

It's okay to want a baby... as long as you leave it at that. Be smart about it and recognize that you can't really provide everything right now that you want your child to have. You want to be living on your own, paying your own bills, not having to rely on others so that your baby doesn't go hungry and so your lights don't get cut off. You want to have a baby with someone who wants one just as much as you. You want your baby to not have to go without anything. Your baby deserves so much, and it's likely that you can't provide all of that right now.

It's okay. This can be your inspiration to succeed in life. Continue in school, get a degree and establish a career. Live on your own, pay your own bills, get some money in savings, find someone you want to settle down with who also has a career and shares your life goals. Get your own car and car insurance. Health insurance is also very important.
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rcw2989 replied on June 12th, 2008
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It happened to me when I was 15, and it is normal. It seemed like everyone in my family was pregnant, I felt left out and they seemed so happy. I wanted that, and yeah, to some degree it is feeling like you'd have someone to love you back if you did. But, I am 19, married and we have a stable income and now we are trying, just be careful.
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Aunt WeeWee replied on June 12th, 2008
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Rosie H wrote:
I felt like this when I was 15 & 16. Mostly because I though a baby would love me when I wasnt being loved by anyone else. I was lonely and it seemed like a good idea. My boyfriend and I did not take any precautions and easily could have gotten pregnant. But for some reason I never did. Then I stapped out of that rut and started taking care of myself. I am 21 and preggos with my 1st. I am soo glad that I never got pregnant that young. I have been able to accomplish a great family and home for this new baby....and thats something I couldnt have offered as a teenager.

So your feelings are normal, I too think most of us go through this at one point in our teenage years. But it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and will make the right choice. Its good that your sharing these feelings with people too.


Awww congrats! how far r u? hope everything goes good! Thanks for the reply
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Aunt WeeWee replied on June 12th, 2008
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AyaMiyaki wrote:
Hormones. Wink

It's okay to want a baby... as long as you leave it at that. Be smart about it and recognize that you can't really provide everything right now that you want your child to have. You want to be living on your own, paying your own bills, not having to rely on others so that your baby doesn't go hungry and so your lights don't get cut off. You want to have a baby with someone who wants one just as much as you. You want your baby to not have to go without anything. Your baby deserves so much, and it's likely that you can't provide all of that right now.

It's okay. This can be your inspiration to succeed in life. Continue in school, get a degree and establish a career. Live on your own, pay your own bills, get some money in savings, find someone you want to settle down with who also has a career and shares your life goals. Get your own car and car insurance. Health insurance is also very important.


Thanks! Getting a career and being able to provide for a family is stopping me from having a baby right now. I start college in the spring, Im going to nursing skool!
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Aunt WeeWee replied on June 12th, 2008
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Mrs Rebecca Wright wrote:
It happened to me when I was 15, and it is normal. It seemed like everyone in my family was pregnant, I felt left out and they seemed so happy. I wanted that, and yeah, to some degree it is feeling like you'd have someone to love you back if you did. But, I am 19, married and we have a stable income and now we are trying, just be careful.


Awww! Good luck, i wish you the best! Thanks for replying
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Roberta777 replied on June 12th, 2008
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You Are Growing
Into the woman that you will become. With that are your emotions and desires to express more and more of life and love.

A baby is forever.

As another poster so wisely put it, enjoy being young and beautiful. Youth is a precious thing and only comes around once in your lifetime.

I look at this as just a young woman entering the stages of becoming a woman, which is a beautiful thing for you.

It is wonderful that you can express yourself so eloquently. Good luck to you and your boyfriend sounds nice. Take your time. Get your degree and you will both have a better life well prepared for the life out there.

Bobbie 2thumbs 4you angel respect voices wave
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Aunt WeeWee replied on June 12th, 2008
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Re: You Are Growing
Roberta777 wrote:
Into the woman that you will become. With that are your emotions and desires to express more and more of life and love.

A baby is forever.

As another poster so wisely put it, enjoy being young and beautiful. Youth is a precious thing and only comes around once in your lifetime.

I look at this as just a young woman entering the stages of becoming a woman, which is a beautiful thing for you.

It is wonderful that you can express yourself so eloquently. Good luck to you and your boyfriend sounds nice. Take your time. Get your degree and you will both have a better life well prepared for the life out there.

Bobbie 2thumbs 4you angel respect voices wave


Thanks! That really encourages me to wait and do the right thing!
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Lorieb replied on June 12th, 2008
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Aunt WeeWee wrote:
Lorieb wrote:
Your not crazy. It's something that happens to most young women. It could be for many reasons. You just have to make sure you think about that long and hard before you act on it, because it is too late once you decide to have one. My personal advice, coming from experience is, be young, have fun!! Enjoy your freedom while you can. Before you know it, those days will be long gone and trust me, it's hard to get them back.



Thanks. Thats a very nice way to put it. Most people i tell i want a baby, they jump down my throut, telling me to wait. i know i should really wait, but i just have that feeling in my body. I know its a long precess to having a baby and a big responsibily. I have 9 nieces and knephews and plus i babysit. I know its not the same as your own kid, cause you just cant give tha kid back, but i know i would be physically ready to take care of a baby. Thanks again


You are very welcome. I'm sure it's a confusing time for you, and at least you are reaching out for advice. I hope you decide to wait. You will see why once you are a bit older. Best of luck hon!!
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lrigykeeg replied on June 12th, 2008
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you're wanting a baby
This comes from my heart as a divorced woman with no children yet... there is no love like the love of Jesus. Cling to Him, and everything else will fall into place.
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Aunt WeeWee replied on June 13th, 2008
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Re: you're wanting a baby
lrigykeeg wrote:
This comes from my heart as a divorced woman with no children yet... there is no love like the love of Jesus. Cling to Him, and everything else will fall into place.


Thank you! Actually everytime i pray i do pray for him to lead me in the right direction about this situation! So i know what ever happens will have a reason behind it. Im a strong believer in "everything happens for a reason" and "whats meant to be will always find away"! Thats just me thou! Thanks again!
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StacyHoll replied on June 13th, 2008
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I think that its a normal feeling.- I felt like that too.. Until I had a pregnancy scare at your age.. then it became more of a reality.. So, its much better just to wait and live your life. When the right time comes you'll both be ready.. I would listen to your boyfriend.. Wait it out..- because if he's saying he's not ready.. You could be possibly on your on trying to raise a child. Get prepared by going finishing school, buying a house saving up etc etc... Then you can be a positive example for your neices and nephews.. Also for your own child Smile I am 24 now. Expecting a baby girl. I was with her dad for 4 years before I got pregnant.. He ended up leaving. So, just make sure YOU ARE ready, because its a huge responsibility.
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Aunt WeeWee replied on June 13th, 2008
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StacyHoll wrote:
I think that its a normal feeling.- I felt like that too.. Until I had a pregnancy scare at your age.. then it became more of a reality.. So, its much better just to wait and live your life. When the right time comes you'll both be ready.. I would listen to your boyfriend.. Wait it out..- because if he's saying he's not ready.. You could be possibly on your on trying to raise a child. Get prepared by going finishing school, buying a house saving up etc etc... Then you can be a positive example for your neices and nephews.. Also for your own child Smile I am 24 now. Expecting a baby girl. I was with her dad for 4 years before I got pregnant.. He ended up leaving. So, just make sure YOU ARE ready, because its a huge responsibility.


He left you once you got pregnant? Thats messed up. Im sorry about that, but congrats on your preganacy! Are you happy about being pregnant?
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Marianne0558 replied on June 13th, 2008
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Ever since I joined ehealth forum, I have been reading about other womens' pregnancies. The stories about their bumps, their due dates, what they're craving, the changes and all.... it all made me jealous. I wanted a baby real bad for the longest time after joining.
I already have a daughter who will be 2 next week. She is such a handful and so expensive, but the times and memories are priceless.

Just wait it out. I have a hard time managing the expenses of a child at 24, I can't imagine how a 17 year old would manage-especially if your boyfriend isn't ready to be a father. Take some time and enjoy your young adulthood. I wish I had sometimes. I got to experience being 21 for 6 months. I wish I had more time to just enjoy my life instead of now-I am working all the time and barely have any time to myself to take a bubble bath-let alone go out dancing!
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