babysit. It will give you a bond and you will still be able to give the kid back in time to go to school and have a normal life. Its normal to want a baby at your age because hormones and everything, but brining a baby into the world at your age is not a smart decision. I suggest you volunteer to babysit or maybe at a library to read to children or something. That way you can have the contact without the 24/7 responsibility.

i have a little sister and look afta her as much as i can but it just makes me want my own baby even more!!!

your 13, a child.
you have so much to look forward to in life, a child would hold you back from reaching your fullest potential.
you have to think, how would you raise this child, where would you both live, can you afford your own health care and your future child's health care, can you afford a car, can you drive yet[no because you are not of age], can you afford to pay rent, food for your child, money for your child, a child costs about $40,000 to raise and that price goes up as that child gets older.
you are 13, you cannot work yet, you dont have your own place, you cant afford your own health coverage for yourself and your future child's, you would not be able to afford the basic essentials to raise a child due to the fact that you bring in no income. therefore, your parents would be the ones who would be the main caregiver providers for that child, and that is not very fair for them.
i think its harmless to have a want of a child at a young age, i think everyone at one point or another has felt the same, but wanting and acting on that want are very different.
babysitting would be good, but having your own is very different. its alot of work, and very stressful expecially at a young age.
my question would be, what is the root to this want of a child for you.
no one just gets the thought that pops into their head thinking ! i want a baby!
why do you have this want, what is going on in your life to make you want this now?

my advice would be, wait until you are much much older.
you are so young, have so many wonderful things to look forward to, so many goals to reach or pursue...having a child now is not the answer or best especially a child having a child hun.
hang out with your girlfriends, go to movies, have sleep overs, girl talks etc. occupy yourself and your mind with different things and activities so the thought of wanting a baby does not come out.

if you need to talk, PM me anytime

I no how yhoo feel im 13 aswell and i so badley want a baby everyone i see has a baby i cnt help myself i think im to young to have a baby but im hoping to ave a baby wen im 19-21 but i babysit my lil cuz whus like 3 weeks old now i look aftah her like shes my own but if yhoo think about it how are yhoo going to pay for its clothes food nappys dummys and all dat der not cheap but jus in hoy ur childhood for now as if yhoo ave a baby now it will fck up ur lifee but i no wat ur going thru loads of luv paiige x

I no how yhoo feel i so badly want a baby as they are adorable im 13 aswel Im in yr 8 going into yr 9 I no if i get pregnant i would love the baby but i wouldnt no how to pay for its food and stuff as yhoo cnt realy get a job as ur kindahh under age and i no my mum and dad wouldnt pay for anythin i really wnnah ave a baby thou but im gnnah ave a baby wen im 19-21 defo I keep having dreams that im pregnant and stuff does any wun no whyy x Lots of Luv Paiige xx


P.S im 13 aswell lol x

Hmm

There's not much I can add as most of it has been said. I have a lot of friends who have had babies at the age of 15/16. Trust me, they had the same dream as you, my how they wish they had waited until they were more mature.

It's such a big responsibility. Personally, I feel that you should get your education out of the way and done with first, so you can support your child financially, wouldn't you like to spoil your child instead of just being able to put a nappy on your baby's bum? Think about it!

Hmm

There's not much I can add as most of it has been said. I have a lot of friends who have had babies at the age of 15/16. Trust me, they had the same dream as you, my how they wish they had waited until they were more mature.

It's such a big responsibility. Personally, I feel that you should get your education out of the way and done with first, so you can support your child financially, wouldn't you like to spoil your child instead of just being able to put a nappy on your baby's bum? Think about it!

i know exactly how you feel i've been desperate to have a child since i was 13. im now 18 and its still in the forfront of my every thought i cant get i tout of my head. its such a desperation. you should really think long and hard about teh decision because theres no going back! do you have a stable relationship and good support network thier the most important things other than money of course:)

danni you should be doing the same as well.
you are wanting and acting out what you want.
i dont think youve thought this all through 100%
have you talked about this to your parents??
do you have money, support, a stable relationship, savings, your own place etc?

thank you to everyone whos replied i've thought and thought about it \and have decided to get my eductation and a stable job before having a child as it would not be fair on my baby...thanks for all your comments and your help xxx

i have wanted a child since that age as well it has sent me through some mad searches as i am now 18 almost 19 i have not lived at ho,e since i was 14 i moved in with a guy who was 8 years older then me abused me n i got out of that relation ship a while ago. Now im in a relationship with a guy who treats me right we are engaged boTh wanting kids. what i did to pass the time n not think about having a baby was set goals for myself
GOOD LUCK

...what the hell kind of advice is this??^^^

i no how you feel at 13 i wanted a kid so desprite too i looked after my nefuew from him being a day old to 2 year old i relaised that i dint have a job and a house of my own to do this (im now 17 and still want a kid i have a job and have saved up so far £400 but still need more i am in a stable reltion ship my fiance has just got a house and also has a job we are trying for baby cos we no we can afford it and are mauture i got to collge i have finshed level 1 hairdressing guna do level 2 if i get pregent my fiance agreees to look after the child wile i contiue at college for a year

hunny, hunny, hunny
im 17 years old and believe me, i have wanted a baby since i was 12. however, when you are thinking about this.. there are 3 main questions you need to answer;
1) Could you support it financially, emotionally??
2) Have you got a bf that won't LEAVE you when things get tough?
3) Have you got any support?

The main thing you need to think about darling is whether you have the mental capability of having your own child. At 13 i wasnt even ready to have sex let alone bring a young life into the world. What have you really got to offer another child, when you are so young yourself?

At least when tennagers at 18,19 have a child, they have finished their COMPULSORY education, and they have 5 years more life experience then yourself.

Bringing up children, is the hardest most stressful job you will ever have to do. Do you honestly believe that at 13 years old, you are ready to take on such a huge responsibility?

I understnad that having your own child, will be fun and very good. because i have been in exactly the same position as you.

Im 17 years old and am seriously thinking about babies myself. I hvae been with my boyfriend for along time, and we still are not sure if this is a great idea. However, im finished at school, and am going to uni soon.

Please think about what i have said and im here if you need any other support.

Good luck

Lucy xx

i knoo exactelly how you feel... its hard when you cant get somethign you want .. im 15 and i want a baby .. me and my boyfriend are planning.. but that thing im worried about id ppl judging me too... its horrible and they dont think you would be able to cope.. if you read this before monday the 20th .. theres a thing on Bbc3 at half 8 about underaged and pregnant .. im goin to watch it too see if it helps... but if you ever need anyone to tlk to im here .. i need someone who i can relate too... but just got to make sure ..

1) you have someone who would be there for you
2)you have enuff money... or culd get a job to earn money
3)you have thought about everything.. even a pregnancy culd go wrong .. Misscarrage etc...
and just remember
if you want something soo bad in life GO FOR IT! x

I Feel Wat chu goin threw im 13 and my mom is a coo person but my dad is very strict and they have been off and on wit they relationship and i get stuck watchin my 3 sisters 7-11 my brother is in jail and he has a gorgeous daughter who i s now 9 months and i have alot of friends that are boys i almost gave my virginty to a 21 year old who sells drugs i barely knew.and i thought he liked me but good thang i didnt.i still like him but it seems like every where i turn some has a baby or is getting ready to have 1 and i want a baby real bad and i figured if i do have a baby that i would run away but then i thought what will happin to me and my baby and how will i be able to provide for my baby will i be able to keep a roof over our head how will we eat and will the father be around to help me support the baby.and i realized that most drug dealers dont take care of they kids and me and tha boy still talks everyday but i asked him if i ever gave my virginty to him and i get pregnated will he still be with me or not and he said he would but idk if he is jus sayin that jus to make me give it to him so one day i decided to give it to him and we did it a couple times and i did have a baby a beautiful one and she is my life and my baby daddy cashes me out every 2 weeks to help support me and tha baby and i stay with his mom and my mom dosent know about the baby so my advice is please think about it if you want a baby see where life will take you with you and your baby i mean everythang happens for a reason.

hiyah im 13 and i fell pregnant at 12 i now have twins jami and mcenzi i realy wanted kid soo i went aginsed wah me parents sed i now live with my 19 year old sister cuz my mum sed it was stupid i dont blame her i go to a speashle school but it takes a lot of time and efffort i have had to grow up quik and it's hard but at the edn of the day i look in to there eyes and think it was the best desition i ever made