go out and get condoms or stop having sex. you are 13.. help your mom look after her baby, but you can give that baby back. dont go out and have a child. it would completely be a mess for you. your too young to work, and if your mom has a baby too its going to be hard for her to help support you. your in 8th grade with your whole life ahead of you, just babysit or something. You may not think about it now, but you dont have the means to financially support a child and you will have to miss so much that you can tell yourself now that you wont care about.Im 18 and had a baby, and i can work and everything and its still harder than anything. My babys dad told me he loved me and everything and was a nice guy too and he still left. he was 20. think about it seriously, you might want a baby to love,but if you think your underpressure now, a baby is that times about 5 million. Enjoy growing up and when the time is right im sure you will have a beautiful child.

Your in a very hard stage of life right now..your caught between being a child and turning into an adult. But 13 is too young to put your body through a preg. At your age it could kill you. Having babies around you I'm sure you feel the urge but your not ready in any way shape or form to be a mother. Sure right now you think your in love..that he is the best guy you'll ever have in your life...ect. But your 13...you haven't even been to your 1st class in high school yet. Your not een old enough to have a min. wage job other than babysitting or walking dogs.
Do you have a hs diploma? NO
Do you have a job that will support you and your baby without having to look to your parents or the state for help? NO
Do you have any kind of life experiance yet? NO

Having sex is just that it's hormones of barely teens running the show. You want to wait to bring a life into this world until you have at least started towards your own dreams, Have a loving, stable, supportive MAN who is going to be there for both of you and you know 100% he's going to be in it for the long haul.
Babies don't stay babies long...they grow up extremely fast. Just ask your mother how the time flew by since she held you for the first time.

You have so much yet still ahead of you, Dateing, parties, hanging out with friends, doing all the things a teen should be doing plus you have really hard years ahead just copeing with all of the issues that come with being a teen and growing up.
Your only a child once...don't rush it. Those years...you'll never be able to live them again there aren't do overs or reset button's to push. You want to be an adult then think like one......Do you honestly think being a mother at 13 yrs old is smart? I don't...not even .000000000001% think in any way that shows you as being mature or responsible. I think it proves that your still a child who can only think of herself and what she wants. Once a baby is in the picture there is no more I, Me, I want. All of your time, energy, money, and life will revolve around their wants and needs. And while your so busy doing that your going to be missing out on everything it means to be a teenager and have or do those things a teenager does.

Well that is if the preg. doesn't kill you or damange you so bad you'll never be able to carry a life inside you again.
I mean sure 100 years ago 13 yr old girls were married off...but do you know how many lost their lives giving birth. Sure med. has come a long way in 100 years....But women still die during preg. and giving birth.
Having sex doesn't make you an adult nor does it make you a woman at that age. What it makes you an easy mark for scum who come along through the years. You've both got a whole lot of growing up yet to do. Protect your future and your body. Your not ready for a baby and this talk of having a baby ...your not ready to be having sex yet either.
Get on bc pills and make him use condoms. If he loves and respects you he'll agree and if not let him go. There is NO love without respect in any romantic relationship.

OMG I feel the same way I want a baby sooo bad but I don’t know what to do. I have alot going on in my life but I want a baby so bad.

Destsne.. babysit. It will give you that part time feeling of being a mother and you will be able to give the kid back. Once you have a child, your life is not the same and not everything is good. Especially at your ages you are way to young to be thinking of purposefully having a child. My son was not planned, I didnt go out trying to get pregnant. Trust me, you dont think youll miss anything about your life until it is impossible to do it and then its all you wish you had.

I'm 14 and had a baby just before i turnt 13... i went through the stage of wantin a baby so bad and then i had one trust me yu have yur whole life ahead of yu dnt do wat i did. i have no way of supportin my baby and had to give up school so i have no qualifications to get a job. my babys dad also told me he loved me and he was sweet and caring but now he dnt want nothin to do with me or my child

a child is a tremendous strain on a marrige or relationship. you r only 13. mayb u feel more mature than that, mayb u r but i know when u look back in a few yrs u wil realise how u were not as mature as u felt at the time. u have your whole life 2 look 4ward 2. enjoy every step. u shouldnt even b having sex, it's illegal at ur age but if u r at least use contraception. when the time is right u wil hav a baby but 4 now focus on ur education, having fun with your friends and leave the baby idea on hold 4 a good few years, at least til u r old enough 2 work and take care of him/her financially.

- Teenage births are associated with lower annual income for the mother. Eighty percent of teen mothers must rely on welfare at some point.
Teenage mothers are more likely to drop out of school. Only about one-third of teen mothers obtain a high school diploma.
- Teenage pregnancies are associated with increased rates of alcohol and substance abuse, lower educational level, and reduced earning potential in teen fathers.
- In the United States, the annual cost of teen pregnancies from lost tax revenues, public assistance, child health care, foster care, and involvement with the criminal justice system is estimated to be about $7 billion.

As a pregnant teenager, you have a higher risk of:
- Premature labor and/or delivery (going into labor before the baby is fully developed)
- Anemia (low iron levels in your blood)
- Preeclampsia (swelling, high blood pressure and protein in your urine)
- Having a baby with a low birth weight (less than five and a half pounds)

Babies that are born prematurely can develop problems for life such as cerebral palsy or learning problems.

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Preeclampsia
Preeclampsia (also called toxemia or pregnancy-related hypertension) is the development of swelling, high blood pressure and protein in your urine during pregnancy. Pregnant teens have a greater chance of developing preeclampsia during their pregnancy. Symptoms include:

- Swelling of the hands or face when you get up in the morning
- Quick weight gain (more than two pounds per week)
- Headaches
- Having less urine when you go to the bathroom
- Feeling sick and/or throwing up
- High blood pressure
- Changes in your eyesight (flashing lights in your eyes)
- Pain in your lower belly

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Low Birth Weight Babies
Teen mothers are much more likely to have low birth weight babies, which can result in serious medical problems, including underdeveloped organs leading to lung, vision, intestinal and other problems.

Smoking during pregnancy is the most common reason for a low birth weight baby and is one one of several habits that you need to control. Not eating right, not gaining enough weight and not taking regular multivitamins are some other reasons teen mothers have low birth weight babies. Drinking alcohol and taking certain drugs during pregnancy can also result in a low birth weight baby.

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A girl can become pregnant even before she begins menstruation. For most girls, a regular menstrual cycle will begin between the ages of 11 and 16. During these formative years, bones are not mature, and over all growth is not yet finished. Becoming pregnant as during the teen years pose some serious health risks, not only to themselves, but to the unborn child.

Many soon to be teen moms neglect to seek care during the first 4 months of the pregnancy because they are either scared or in denial. Not seeking care puts not only the teen mom in danger, but the unborn child as well.

Teen moms are more likely to have a baby that is premature and low birth weight. A premature baby is one that is born too early. Some of these babies do die. The ones that make it tend to have problems later in life, mental and physical problems are included. A low birth weight baby is one that is born with a weight of less than 5 1/2 pounds. These babies have a greater risk of being born with major birth defects.

The risks for the teen mom are great as well. Pregnancy and birth can put a tremendous strain on a teenager's body. If bone structure is not fully developed, she takes the risk of injuring her spine and pelvic bones, altering her life forever. It is also well known that the irresponsible behaviors some teens exhibit may put them at risk for sexually transmitted diseases. These diseases can be easily spread to an unborn baby. If untreated, disasterous consequences can occur.

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High teen birth rates are an important concern because teen mothers and their babies face increased risks to their health, and their opportunities to build a future are diminished.

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How does a teen mother's health affect her baby?
Some teens may need to change their lifestyle to improve their chances of having a healthy baby. Eating unhealthy foods, smoking, drinking alcohol and taking drugs can increase the risk that a baby will be born with health problems, such as low birthweight (less than 5½ pounds).

Teens are more likely than women over age 25 to smoke during pregnancy. In 2004, 17 percent of pregnant teens ages 15 to 19 smoked, compared to 10 percent of pregnant women ages 25 to 34. Babies of women who smoke during pregnancy are at increased risk for premature birth, low birthweight and sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). Women who smoke during pregnancy also have an increased risk for pregnancy complications, including placental problems.

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS)
Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) is the sudden, unexplained death of an infant younger than 1 year old. SIDS is particularly worrying because it can occur without warning in a baby who seems healthy.
SIDS is the leading cause of death in infants between 1 month and 1 year old. Most SIDS cases happen in babies between 2-4 months old.

Because most cases happen when a baby is sleeping, SIDS is sometimes called "crib death." Cribs do not cause SIDS, but other sleep issues can increase your baby’s risks:
- Sleep position: Babies placed to sleep on their tummies or sides are at higher risk of SIDS than babies placed on their backs. Since the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) started the "Back to Sleep" campaign in the 1990s, SIDS cases in the U.S. have dropped by more than 50 percent.
- Smoking: Mothers who smoke during pregnancy are three times more likely to have a SIDS baby. Being around people who smoke doubles a baby’s risks.
- Bedding: Sleeping on pillows, soft surfaces and soft bedding are linked to a higher SIDS risk.

Other potential risks include:
- Drinking or drug use during pregnancy
- Poor prenatal care
- Premature birth or low birthweight
- Mothers less than 20 years old
- Overheating of the baby during sleep

Placenta
The placenta is an unborn baby's life support system. It forms from the same cells as the embryo and attaches to the wall of the uterus. The placenta forms connections with the mother's blood supply, from which it supplies oxygen and nutrients to the fetus. The placenta also connects with the fetus's blood supply, from which it removes wastes and returns them to the mother's blood. The mother's kidneys dispose of the waste.
The placenta has other important functions in pregnancy. It produces hormones that play a role in triggering labor and delivery. The placenta also helps protect the fetus from infections and potentially harmful substances. After the baby is delivered, the placenta's job is done, and it is delivered as the afterbirth.

The mature placenta is flat and circular and weighs about 1 pound. But sometimes the placenta:
- Is structured abnormally
- Is poorly positioned in the uterus
- Does not function properly
Placental problems are among the most common complications of the second half of pregnancy. Here are some of the most frequent placental problems and how they can affect mother and baby.

What is placental abruption?
Placental abruption (sometimes called abruptio placentae) is a condition in which the placenta peels away from the uterine wall, partially or almost completely, before delivery. Mild cases may cause few problems, but severe cases can deprive the fetus of oxygen and nutrients. Severe cases also can cause bleeding in the mother that can endanger both her and the baby.

Placental abruption increases the risk of premature birth (birth before 37 completed weeks gestation). Studies suggest that abruption contributes to about 10 percent of premature births. Premature babies are at increased risk for health problems during the newborn period, lasting disabilities and even death. Abruption also increases the risk for poor fetal growth and stillbirth.

How common is placental abruption?
Abruption occurs in about 1 in 100 pregnancies. It occurs most often in the third trimester, but it can happen any time after about 20 weeks of pregnancy.

What are the symptoms of abruption?
The main sign of placental abruption is vaginal bleeding. A pregnant woman should contact her health care provider if she has vaginal bleeding.

The pregnant woman also may experience uterine discomfort and tenderness or sudden, continuous abdominal pain. In a few cases, these symptoms may occur without vaginal bleeding because the blood is trapped behind the placenta.

What causes placental abruption?
The cause of abruption is unknown. However, the following factors can increase a woman's risk for abruption:
- High blood pressure
- Cocaine use
- Cigarette smoking
-Abdominal trauma (such as may occur with an automobile accident or abuse)
- Certain abnormalities of the uterus or umbilical cord
- Being more than 35 years of age
- Pregnant with twins, triplets or more
- Premature rupture of the membranes (bag of waters)
- Having too little amniotic fluid
- Having certain inherited disorders of blood clotting
- Having an infection involving the uterus

Teens are least likely of all maternal age groups to get early and regular prenatal care.

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A teenage mother is at greater risk than women over age 20 for pregnancy complications, such as premature labor, anemia and high blood pressure. These risks are even greater for teens who are under 15 years old.

Premature Labor
Babies who are born preterm are at higher risk of needing hospitalization, having long-term health problems and of dying than babies born at the right time. Preterm birth is any birth that occurs before the 37th week of pregnancy. It is the cause of many infant deaths and lingering infant illnesses.

Some studies have found that certain lifestyle and environmental factors may put a woman at greater risk of preterm labor. These factors include:
- Late or no prenatal care
- Smoking
- Drinking alcohol
- Using illegal drugs
- Exposure to the medication DES
- Domestic violence, including physical, sexual or emotional abuse
- Lack of social support
- Stress
- Long working hours with long periods of standing

Certain medical conditions during pregnancy may increase the likelihood that a woman will have preterm labor. These conditions include:
- Urinary tract infections, vaginal infections, sexually transmitted infections and possibly other infections
- Diabetes
- High blood pressure
- Clotting disorders (thrombophilia)
- Bleeding from the vagina
- Certain birth defects in the baby
- Being pregnant with a single fetus after in vitro fertilization (IVF)
- Being underweight before pregnancy
- Obesity
- Short time period between pregnancies (less than 6-9 months between birth and the beginning of the next pregnancy)

Women younger than 17 or older than 35, and poor women are at greater risk than other women.

Anemia
Anemia occurs when the number or size of a person’s red blood cells are too low. Red blood cells are important because they carry oxygen from your lungs to all parts of your body. Without enough oxygen, your body cannot work as well as it should, and you feel tired and run down.
Anemia can affect anyone, but women are at greater risk for this condition. In women, iron and red blood cells are lost when bleeding occurs from very heavy or long periods (menstruation).

Anemia is common in pregnancy because a woman needs to have enough red blood cells to carry oxygen around her body and to her baby. So it's important for women to prevent anemia before, during and after pregnancy. Women will probably be tested for anemia at least twice during pregnancy: during the first prenatal visit and then again between 24 and 28 weeks.

Iron Deficiency
Usually, a woman becomes anemic (has anemia) because her body isn’t getting enough iron. Iron is a mineral that helps to create red blood cells. About half of all pregnant women don’t have enough iron in their body (iron deficiency). In pregnancy, iron deficiency has been linked to an increased risk of preterm birth and low birthweight.

Illness or Disease
Some women may have an illness that causes anemia. Diseases such as sickle cell anemia or thalassemia affect the quality and number of red blood cells the body produces.

Signs of Anemia
Anemia takes some time to develop. In the beginning, you may not have any signs or they may be mild. But as it gets worse, you may have these symptoms:
- Fatigue (very common)
- Weakness (very common)
- Dizziness
- Headache
- Numbness or coldness in your hands and feet
- Low body temperature
- Pale skin
- Rapid or irregular heartbeat
- Shortness of breath
- Chest pain
- Irritability
- Not doing well at work or in school

High Blood Pressure
Blood pressure is the force of the blood pushing against the walls of the arteries (blood vessels that carry oxygen-rich blood to all parts of the body). When the pressure in the arteries becomes too high, it is called high blood pressure or hypertension.

About 8 percent of women have problems with high blood pressure during pregnancy. There are several types of high blood pressure that affect pregnant women. Some types start before pregnancy, and others develop during pregnancy. All types of high blood pressure can pose risks to the pregnant woman and her baby.

What forms of high blood pressure occur in pregnancy?
There are four main forms of high blood pressure in pregnancy:

- Preeclampsia: This potentially serious disorder is characterized by high blood pressure and protein in the urine. It usually develops after the 20th week of pregnancy and goes away after delivery.
- Gestational hypertension: This form of high blood pressure develops after the 20th week of pregnancy and goes away after delivery. Affected women do not have protein in the urine. However, some women with gestational hypertension develop preeclampsia later in pregnancy.
- Chronic hypertension: This is high blood pressure that is diagnosed before pregnancy or before the 20th week of pregnancy. It does not go away after delivery.
- Chronic hypertension with preeclampsia: About 25 percent of women with chronic hypertension also develop preeclampsia.

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Of 19 million new cases of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) reported each year, more than 9 million affect young people ages 15 to 24. These STIs include:
- Chlamydia, which can cause sterility in the affected individual and eye infections and pneumonia in the newborn.
- Syphilis, which can cause blindness, maternal death and infant death.
- HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Treatment during pregnancy greatly reduces the risk of an infected mother passing HIV to her baby.

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A baby born to a teenage mother is at higher risk than a baby born to an older mother for premature birth, low birthweight, other serious health problems and death.

Babies of teenage mothers are more likely to die in the first year of life than babies of women in their twenties and thirties. The risk is highest for babies of mothers under age 15.

Teenage mothers are are more likely to have a low-birthweight baby. Most low-birthweght babies are born prematurely. The earlier a baby is born, the less she is likely to weigh.

Babies who are premature and low birthweight may have organs that are not fully developed. This can lead to breathing problems, such as respiratory distress syndrome, bleeding in the brain, vision loss and serious intestinal problems.

Very low-birthweight babies (less than 3 1/3 pounds) are more than 100 times as likely to die, and moderately low-birthweight babies (between 3 1/3 and 5½ pounds) are more than 5 times as likely to die, in their first year of life than normal-weight babies.

Life may be difficult for a teenage mother and her child. Teen mothers are more likely to drop out of high school than girls who delay childbearing. Only 40 percent of teenagers who have children before age 18 go on to graduate from high school, compared to 75 percent of teens from similar social and economic backgrounds who do not give birth until ages 20 or 21.

With her education cut short, a teenage mother may lack job skills, making it hard for her to find and keep a job. A teenage mother may become financially dependent on her family or on public assistance. Teen mothers are more likely to live in poverty than women who delay childbearing, and more than 75 percent of all unmarried teen mothers go on welfare within 5 years of the birth of their first child.

About 64 percent of children born to an unmarried teenage high-school dropout live in poverty, compared to 7 percent of children born to women over age 20 who are married and high school graduates.

A child born to a teenage mother is 50 percent more likely to repeat a grade in school and is more likely to perform poorly on standardized tests and drop out before finishing high school.

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I hope this makes you change your mind about having a baby so soon in your life. It's not very hard to wait until you're old enough. And trust me right now you're not old enough. Every girl goes through the stage where they really want a baby, I even went through it. But you know what? Think about waiting. Think about all the things you can get for it if you wait awhile. Get all your education accomplished and an awesome job that makes you happy. Get all these goals before having a baby. Then you'll feel more accomplished and less stressed when you can easily support this child. If you have it now terrible things will most likely happen. Just fight the urges and wait.

i think , if you think that you a mature enough to have a baby and think you will go through with it. then do it. i'm only thirteen too .. i said i wanted a baby at one time but i'm not too sure about it anymore..
because the guy im with right now is bad person. but he wants to have a baby too . but serisouly..if you wanna have a baby , just letting you know it's a big reponibility. thanks.

Your life will change so much in the next few years that it makes no sense for you to have a baby now. It is a full time committment for the next 18 plus years. I just had my first child and I am 30 yrs old...I had no idea how much work having a baby or how expensive it is. I love my new baby and have already dedicated several years to my career and education. You cannot even be financially responsible for yourself yet, how could you support a child. Go to planned parent hood and get the pill!!!