your 16 going on 17. Your not even done high school, you have your whole life to PLAN and have a baby.
You and your boyfriend have only been together for about 2 months. and by sounds of it, your boyfriend is not intrested in being a father anytime soon, and i dont blame him. he's a young man still, he wants to enjoy his teen life instead get into parenthood so soon and willingly. It floors me how many teens say they want a baby on here..
Dont be selfish, think about your boyfriend and his request other than just yours. And besides, how do you know he will stay with you? Like you said, he doesnt want a baby right now, and you two have only been together for 2 months, that does not mean he will stay and support you, i think its about 17% of boyfriends leave or deny the child is there's when there girlfriend gets pregnant, that means now the girlfriend has to do it all alone.

I will tell you from first hand experience as a 19 yr old with a 5 month old son, it is not as glamorous and all as you think. A baby does not mean everything is going to be fine and dandy, its a lot of work, alot of patience, when my son was born, he did not sleep through the night for almost 3 months, and he would cry alot, i still stay up with him through the night.
The average cost to raise a baby is about $40,000 and that number keeps going us as they get bigger. I go through a tin of formula in about a month and a half, and go through diapers in about a month, and clothes faster than anything! Then there's other things, plus needs for myself and my boyfriend, and house stuff etc. etc. etc.

Can you afford this? Do you even have a job? How are you going to raise a child you want so badly when your not even finished high school?
Have you talked about this to you family at all? How are you, a 16yr old financially able to raise a baby, do you live on your own or with your parents? You really should to see what there reaction is, because let me tell you, it will be just as big or even bigger when and if they find out your pregnant. They wont just accept it from the start.

Be happy your not pregnant now from those two pregnancy scares. It is not all dulled up as you think it is. And you should see what other teen parents say on here too, because i dont think anyone, at 16 would willingly plan a pregnancy.
And especially since your boyfriend does not want a baby right now and you both have been together for 2 months.

I feel that teen girls feel this way at times because there mind is very active, they dont know what to do with themselves. Get into an activity, get a pet, get a hobby anything, but respect your boyfriends request. he is being realistic.
about your depression, do something [other than getting pregnant] that makes you happy or talk to your mom about this and see a doctor, maybe you need counselling or therapy, its not a bad thing, i had it once a while back, it might help.

Enjoy your youth, dont purpously end it.

If you have any questions i would gladly answer them, you can always PM me.

I agree with everything ProudMommyof2008 just said, except for the 17% of boyfriends leaving. The number is actually MUCH, MUCH higher, at more than 80% that never marry the girl.

Having a child when the boyfriend does not want it and the girl is not an adult, has no education and no career, no money, and no home of her own is extremely selfish, and a cruel thing to purposefully do to the future child.

Maybe counseling would help you get over your feelings about this. Is there someone at school, like a school psychologist, that you can talk to?

aochiss : getting married is not the be all and end all. You can be amazing parents and notbe married.
I would say wait. I am 17 years old, i was pregnant at 15 while using birth control and gave birth to my daughter at 16.
Being a teenage mother is such a hard way of life sweetie,don't do it.
If your boyfriend had already said that he doesn't want to have a child now then why get pregnant on purpose? If he really doesn't want a child then he will leave you, hell alot of boys/men who say they do want children end up leaving! It is not fair to intentionally bring a child into the world knowing that the potential father doesn't want that.
If you have depression then i'd say that pregnancy is really not a good idea, your mind and body will have to go through a huge amount of stress, being flooded with hormones etc and trust me, hormones may only be chemicals but they can do A LOT.
A baby will not keep your relationship.
Iif you really want to have a child then how about you setup a bank account and save money for a few years time when you are REALLY ready for a child.

i agree, a marriage is not the key to having a sucessful relationship and child.
i know many people who have children and are not married, and are completely happy.

i hate how people think that you HAVE to be married in order to have kids, and live successful lives.

FYI i wrote me and my boyfriend have been dating for a YEAR and TWO months

which in allhonesty when a baby is involved is not long at all

and i'm already in councling, but thats not something i'm willing to talk about with my councler. me and my boyfriend have talked about it alot and he said if it ever happend that he would want the baby. you guys don't really understand what i said. and your negativity isnt making this easier for me..

i know but i was just saying it because proudmommy said me and my boyfriend have only been together for 2 months. when we've been together for 1 year and 2 months.

no we understand clearly, you dont.
you in your head think a baby brings the utmost joy into a relationship. but it doesnt.
my boyfriend and i had a few conflicts here and there, we dont get to do all the things we want to do when we want to do.
i didnt see year, i saw 2months so excuse me.

2 years and 2 months still does not mean that a 16 yr old should be bringing a child into this world.
how could we miss what you said? you said your boyfriend is not wanting a child at all right now. if you focus on what we all have said, rather than 'negativity' you'd see the truth instead of debate back what you have said. and its not negativity, its the truth!
Are you then just going to "accidentally" get pregnant so you boyfriend will want the baby, since he has stated that he does not want one right now?

You should talk to your counsellor about this, he or she can get to the route of why you want this so badly.

And you should talk to your mom about this too.

What does a 16 yr old have to offer to a baby? You didnt answer the questions any of us have answered as to whether or not you have a job, are in school, etc.
This is not negative questions, these are important questions and this is something you need to tlak about to a professional instead of acting on it.
Things just dont fall in your lap hun.
This is something big.
Its one thing to say you want a baby, and another to have one. So much goes into having a baby, depending on where you live you have to pay for doctors visits, hospital care, ultrasounds if you dont have insurance, and so much more.
This again, is not negativity, these are things you need to hear, and this is the truth.
Re-read what we all ahve said, and really think hard about what we all have said. These are things you need to hear. Some of us are teen parents, we know the struggles and how much it takes to raise a child as a teen.

I understand how you feel but just realize all the things you have now im 15 and i have a 10 month old baby boy and believe me i wouldn't trade him for the world but now i cant leave my house whenever i want to go party and be with friends i stay home and take care of my son. When you have a child you have to grow up quickly and im 15 i have alot of growing up to do but between school and a baby is hard. Just realize how much a baby effects your life and the responsibility you have to have.
And, you need to talk to your parents about this also your going to need there help no matter what you think.

i don't want a baby just to hold my relationship together. i know that i'm going to be with my boyfriend forever. i don't understand or know why i want to have a baby so badly. no i do not have a job, i am in school, and i just got my lisence today! there is a new hannaford opening up this summer and i'm puting in an aplication next month, and if i ever did get pregnant i would drop out of school. i would do all of that just for my baby. i know you all must think i'm sick in the head =/ but i really feel as though i wont be able to have kids when i'm older..

i just want a child of my own that i can care for and love and show all the great things in this world =/..

having a baby does not make the world go round.
and how will you show your baby the world? you wont be done with school, wont have a job to support the baby, that does not sound like a fulfilling life.
and how do you know 100% that you will be with your boyfriend forever?
if i had a nickle for every girl that said that...how will you support this child without having any savings, not having at least a high school diploma and not being financially stable?
maybe the reason why you want a baby so badly is because you are lacking something in your life, maybe lacking attention, maybe you need a little more attention and think you will get that by having a baby.
sometimes a baby does not bring joy or love into ones life. many new mothers end up with post partum depression.
i would not have a baby solely to make things feel better in my life, that is not the reason for bringing a child into this world.
and they should not have to just barely get by with what you have.
talk about this to your boyfriend a little more, and honestly, bring this up with your parents and counsellor. these are not reasons to have a baby. stay in school, get a job, open a savings account and save to have a child. did you know a child costs roughly $40,000 and that number keeps increasing as that child gets bigger. can you afford that without a school diploma? working in a clothing store or a fast food joint really wont cut it..you need to talk about this with your counsellor, family and boyfriend.
i have a 5 month old, and he does not always bring out the best in me. sometimes i just want to have time alone, hang out with my best friend and go shopping, or sleep! but a baby is demanding. they dont always bring out love they can bring out frustration..but its alot of hard work to get by, i love my son with all my heart, but there are some days when i wish i could just be a regular 19 yr old.

i don't want a baby just to make myself feel better, i just want to have a baby now, not when i'm older.

your missing the big picture.

how will you raise your child? what minimum wage job do you think you will get that will offer benefits[health, dental, insurance etc.]
how will you afford this baby?
how will you afford the hospital bills, doctors visits, pre-natal care, maternity clothes, a place to live, house bills, car bills, food for you, baby clothes, baby food, baby essentials, etc. etc. etc.

do you realize that so much goes into having a baby? or are you just to self centered and selfish to think of all these things?

all you are thinking of is yourself. not your boyfriend, not where the money is going to come from, not what you parents will think or possibly do, not about the care and health of the baby, just about what you want and what you need. so clearly it is to make you feel better or you would take all these things and then some into consideration.

seriously, you need to talk to your counsellor or therapist and parents and boyfriend about this.

you and are are in two different situations.
1 i did not plan to have my child.
2 i had and still do have savings for my child.
3 my boyfriend was supportive from day one
4 i was not thinking of myself only about getting pregnant
5 i did not disregard anyone elses concerns or opinions about getting pregnant now[your boyfriends thoughts on this are? he does not want a baby now.]
6 i stayed in school and graduated.

hand me downs are fine, i have them too, but you and i are way different. you are preaching about wanting a baby, you need to have this baby now, have to have a baby.
i did not plan on having a baby now.
and i never said teen pregnancy is bad, we all here are telling you to think about this before diving into this because you have no clue what you are getting yourself into.

who will raise your new born when you are out working? where will you live? who will hire a high school drop out?
you think you know it all and have all the answers, but there is so much more to this, is all im going to say.
your boyfriend could end up leaving you, and dont say he wont or you know he wont because no one has that knowledge to say yes he will stay or no he will leave. you dont know that for sure.

what i learned from having a baby at a young age, is that you can never be fullly prepared for what is about to come. so many twists and turns can pop out at any time.
you should really think this through and talk to family and your counsellor.

woah chill out. don't preach to me that teen pregnancy is bad, when you are one to talk.

i'm not self centered nor am i selfish.
i have actually thought about everything and what i would do it it were to happen.
i am on 2 different types of medical insurance so i plan to put my child on one of them. i have a neice and a nephew who both still have their old clothes that are in very good condition. i have baby jackets, hats, mittens, socks, blankets, every type of clothing that i need. i also have a playpen.

if it were to happen, i would drop out of school and get a full time job. i would also later on do adult ed to get my highschool diploma. my boyfriend is getting a full time job anyway, not for this reason.

so ACTUALLY i do know what i would do if it were to happen.

i just replied to what you said above you.
you replied to this under two names.
so read what i said above.

well if it does happen, i know it wont be planned. its not like i can force my boyfriend to not use a condom. but if it does happen i know i will be happy and excited about it.