Well i like honesty but dont you think its a little late for i told you so's???? and quite frankly i think that your post could have been put in a much nicer way.I gathered from your post that your not yet a mother and whilst i applaud you for that how can you judge this girl on something you know nothing about???.She made a choice and now shes going to make the best of it theres nothing else she can do and what she needs now is encouragement not a lecture on how silly shes been.She has a tough road ahead and if you really understand how tough then please do your best to help her out with some useful advice

Ok this is for the ignorant little "toasted trash". I have EVERY clue of what I am getting myself into. I have taken care of children since I was 6 years old, and RAISED my little brother from birth. You do not know me, you do not know WHAT I have gone through. And don't judge someone and make accusations without every detail of my life. I have a boyfriend with a ten dollar an hour job, but I also have parents and my boyfriends parents who I will be living with, who are WILLING to help me out until I get through college. I have my life planned out, child included. I dont need to read negative feedback from Mrs. "I have alot of smart comebacks, like Jamie Lynn wanna be".. you know, I dont have a teenage life. Never did. I stay home, EVERY DAY, EVERY WEEKEND, taking care of my siblings, having a job and giving every one of my checks to my neglectful stepdad just so that we could have something good in our life. Having to take my little infant brother with me just to stay the night at a friends house. NO PARTIES FOR ME HUNNY. I dont NEED a teenage life. Nor do I want one. I have taken all my experience and hardships and put them to good use. I have taken them and turned them into motivation to do better. I understand teen pregnancy is hard, but I basically went through the "teen mom" thing without even giving birth. I WILL be a good mother, and you can compare your life to mine saying I cant handle it, but Im here to do my best, not to prove you wrong, but to bring my child up in this world to be a successful person. And Im sorry if it takes you a while to accept that. I appreciate your negative remarks. because its people like you, who keep me wanting to be the exact opposite of you. I am sorry if I have been rude, but its a little hard to contain anger on someone so ignorant.

and I thank you DarkDesire, for being respectful, regardless of if you agree with my decision. And also, people like you keep me positive, knowing that at least someone in this world has confidence in me. again, your response is GREATLY appreciated =]

She wouldn't have needed to 'make the best of it' if she hadn't purposely gotten pregnant before she is even liberated from being legally a child.
I just re-read my post and I stand by it. It really is quite immature of you, OP, to throw a hissy fit over my point of view when a) it's an OPINION, b) I didn't insult you, make sarcastic comments, imply that you'll be a bad mother, or make a SINGLE comment that could be considered ignorant, c) you CLEARLY didn't listen to a word I said besides the fact that I didn't agree with your decision, and d) you make yourself sound like a complete hypocrite by saying you appreciate my negative comments because they make you want to be the opposite of people like me . . . which sounds a heck of a lot like you're judging MY character without knowing me. I'm just going to assume you're currently pointing at the screen and saying, "Well, you started it!", so I digress.
To the poster who said that I could have been 'nicer', no, I couldn't have been. I'm being harsh because this is a WAKE-UP CALL (and a preemptive intervention to stop other girls from doing the same as OP did).
Despite the fact that you keep attempting to defend yourself by a) having a complete fit and b) citing your difficult life as proof that you can handle a baby, all you're doing is reinforcing my point.
Let me be clear . . . the problem I have with your situation and your decision has less to do with your age, lack of independent income (FYI, your family's and the boyfriend's family's money is NOT YOURS, even if you choose to exploit their generosity by deciding that now is the perfect time to have a baby because they're footing the bill, which they won't do when you become a nurse), and more to do with the reasons you're using to justify your decision. You raised your siblings? Congratulations. I have great respect for children who have to pickup the pieces because of negligent parents, don�t get me wrong. I have a single mother who works full time, and when my first younger sibling came along when I was seven years old, I can guarantee you I wasn�t at slumber parties on the weekends. I worked to help make ends meet since I was twelve years old and I have two baby sisters and a baby brother who call me �Mommy�. At the same time, I�m not the one deluding myself that because I essentially single-handedly raised three small children with minimal help and guidance from my overworked mother since I was seven years old, I am somehow qualified for parenthood, or entitled to having a baby whenever I want, just to prove I can because, why not, I already did it, didn�t I?
My family is in a stable financial position, but the money that my mother and stepdad make is not mine, even if they were kind enough to offer some to me to help me if I ever got into the unfortunate situation of bringing a child into the world who would be loved to no end but who would be raised by an inexperienced seventeen year old mother who has not even begun life yet. That money belongs to their family, which includes me until I�m eighteen, graduated, and starting a life of my own, but SHOULD NOT have to include a baby that doesn�t belong to my parents.
Are you seeing what I�m getting at? Are you actually hearing these words, or are you going to make some clever comment about how I�m �Mrs. Ignorant-and-Judgmental-and-Disrespectfulà ¢ï¿½ï¿½?
You�re probably furious that I implied that you and your �fiancé� are taking advantage of his parents, and I apologize for any ill-feelings you have. And trust me, if anyone understands baby fever as a teenager, it�s me.
I never said you need to �party�, so don�t put words in my mouth. And with all your good intentions and motivation to do better, WHY OH WHY did you EVER feel the need to have a baby right now? You have a life to live, and nobody said it had to be the teenage party life! Something you don�t seem to understand is that at seventeen, we�re not even people yet! We haven�t even begun to live! Do you think I�m spending thirty minutes of my life typing up this massive post because I have nothing better to do? You�re a stranger, and for all we know, you�ll be mother of the bloody year. But don�t say that growing up with neglectful parents makes you ready to be one . . . it doesn�t. Don�t say that having to raise your siblings from birth makes you ready to become one . . . it doesn�t.
I am extremely disturbed that you so clearly feel entitled to have a baby because of what you went through, and I want you to understand how childish that is. Because no matter what you argue against that, that is what you�re essentially saying. I respect your passion to be a mother, I respect the difficulties in your childhood, particularly because I shared them; what I don�t respect is your willingness to distribute the financial burden upon people other than yourself and your boyfriend � I don�t care what ANYBODY says, I find that inexcusable � as well as your conscious decision to get pregnant, which, I also maintain, is an extremely childish decision. I would have a lot more respect for you if it had been an accidental pregnancy, which happens to 1.5 million American teenagers a year, and not a calculated plan.
All that being said (I understand that few people are going to want to read all this, but I feel better having written down all my feelings on the matter), I wish you the best of luck with your relationship and with your baby. Take good care of yourself and your body, and get ready for your crash course into adulthood.

In your first posted reply you said you wouldn't judge anybody but you're obviously judging...No she doesn't know you but remember you don't know her either. Give respect to receive it...

Im sure that you took this thirty minutes to convince me. And I thank you for your time. And I did not mean to judge you. I am just saying that its hard to sit here and take things like that from people. I got myself into this, theres no way I can take this back. I understand that I am only 17, but that is something I HAVE to deal with. I have supportive family. I will be fine, im sure. But this right now, what you have posted, is simply an online post.

It's simply an online post? Meaning what? Your passion to be a mother that you've expressed to us was an online post as well, what are we supposed to understand by that?

I appreciate your situation and that the critcism is hard to take, but in all honesty, you might as well get used to it. After making the decision that you did, you are going to be judged left, right and center for a long time, whether you like it or not.

I have told my family and friends, and none of them have critisized me. They know I will make a good mother given what they know about me. Even if I dont have the money to support, I will get it. If I dont have what I need, I am determined to get it. I said it was simply an online post, because I am sharing my experience with people, and in return I get a lecture about what a mistake I am making. I should get that from my mother. But she told me she knew that I could do it. Even my boyfriends parents are happier than ever. They said they will guide me as well as they possibly can, and I appreciate it. I appreciate your opinion too, even though I was quite angry in my first reply to you. For that, I am sorry. I understand you were just trying to explain to me that it will be hard, and it was a foolish move. But in all reality, i cannot take it back, and I will live with my consequences whatever they may be. I hope that maybe we can still talk about this throughout my pregnancy, and I can update you on how things go. ~Mariee2009~

im 18 and also trying for a child.my fiancee is 21 this june. we live with my parents in a smal house n britain. I suffer from empty craddle i was preganct two years ago but unfortuniatly misscarried i never got over it and crave a baby is this wrong??

Hiya, im seveteen and have been with my boyfriend for the past five years. We have now decided to try for a baby since we have been living together for a year now. If your going to try and put me down on having a baby 'so young' then i would apperciate if you didnt bother. I am here purerly for help and adive on how to fall pregant fast and would also enjoy chats with people in the same boat as me? x

I read your profile and i see your working and on your way to a good career which in itself shows your maturity,you and your man are clearly comitted to each other 5 years is a long time ive been with mine 7 lol feels like my whole life though.Also you've been living together a year this is the most important thing for me because living together for the first time can be so hard in the first year all those annoying little things that eachother hates lol can break a couple without a baby so with one what a nightmare sleep deprivation not fun i can tell you.you have the your own income you wont be relying on others to provide for you So in your case i dont really think your age is much of a problem.The biggest piece of advice i can give you is try not to obsess about getting pregnant as it might delay you getting pregnant (Im pretty certain thats the reason it took me 3 years with my first)Secondly you can chart your ovulation using tests they are pretty inexpensive for the cheaper ones which do the same job Have you been trying long??

I got pregnant within the first month of trying. We tried right in the middle of my cycle. It was 15 days after the day I started my last period.

Just reading your story shows that you are not mature enough to have a child. If you do not know the most responsible way to even get pregnant, what makes you think you will be able to deal with the MUCH more important details of having a child. Why are you trying to have a child so early? Whats the rush? A better question would be, can you provide for a child properly before you concieve?

Thats not my life story. Not the half of it. I would love to share my story with everyone, but it would be a whole lot of typing. Ive been through alot. But I havent shared even the half of it. So its really not enough to judge me for motherhood =] id appreciate an answer to a question, not an insult =] Thank you.

Dont do it- live your life now and enjoy it, you have plenty of time to be tied down!! From someone that would know.

Wow! I have been reading through the posts and some of the advice is good, but wow, you ladies need to stop beating this girl down. She hasn't commited a crime, she wants to have a baby and it's her business. She's been forced to grow up really fast and I'm sure she's going to be a great mother. Everyone's path in life brings them down different paths. What may be good for one 17 year old may be the right decision for another. She's already pregnant so there is not point in badgering her, but if you are capable of offering her a congratulations on turning into a wonderful, intelligent young lady after so much turmoil in her life. Mariee, I think you are a real sweetheart and anytime you need some advice from an experienced mom; all you have to do is ask. You asked about pre-natal care. Yes, planned parenthood would be a good start. You should give them a call and get in there for a check-up as soon as possible. It's so exciting when you hear that first heartbeat. Good-luck sweetie and have a beautiful baby. Also, I commend you for getting through these posts without running off screaming. You're very respectful and mature for your age.

Thank you for the support Wendyrs. I expected to be criticized and whatnot. I am perfectly fine with it. Its typical for a person to do this. Its hard to explain my life, really it is. lol. So its hard to make people understand where im coming from. Im not too worried about it though. Like you said, Im already pregnant, no point in try to stop it?? lol. but thank you for the encouragement. I know Im not an adult, and I admit I have alot of growing up to do, but I have grown up pretty fast, and even though I have taken care of children, I never went through the birth or Financial part.. which is a huge part. But things happen for a reason, and Im sure things will work out perfectly fine. Im not resting on luck, im just hoping for the best, and trying my hardest.

Ok, after reading some of these posts and understanding both point of views I am going to put a 21 year old opinion in here. (a.) If I were you (which I am not) I would want to wait to get pregnant. 17 is so young. Trust me girl, I was in love at 13 and I'm now married to that VERY SAME guy. We have been dating since 7th grade and I am now 21 and have my associates degree. Thats a long time and I for one wanted to marry him long ago and I am wanting to get pregnant myself. But... I know how hard going through college was when i was just a married 18-21 year old. And now days, not having a degree makes it really hard to make it in this world. Do I think you could do it, absolutely. Because I am positive I could have. But Seeing as you had to raise your siblings and never had a chance to just be young... there is absolutely no reason to run and jump into the same routine again. It seems to me that you have been used to having that responsibility all your life so the void of it might be hard to cope with- hence making your desire to get pregnant heightened. I can completely understand and respect that. But you need to have some YOU time. You should step back and breathe for a bit and give yourself time to relax before throwing yourself into being a mommy all over again. I'm going to say it which I am POSITIVE you do not want to hear but "You have your whole life ahead of you to get pregnant". I know those words suck because I heard them too. but I also know that Im glad I didn't get pregnant when I was 18 because I did not have my own home then. I am now a homeowner and have 2200 sq ft to grow into with new additions. My husband and I also make good money in which to care for our children with. I'm absolutely not saying your decision is wrong... only that you wouldn't know how much of a difference waiting until you have your own place and a very secure job would make. That would take such an emmense amount of stress off of you. You're going to do what you want to do and really this whole forum doesn't change your ideas I am for sure... But this is just my opinion and I think it might be helpful because I've been there. Good luck!

I think everyone is giving Marie good advice but she is already pregnant. All we can do is wish her luck and offer some online support for any questions or concerns she might have. There is a baby on the way and I think he/she will get lots of love. Yes, realistically if she were a little older, a little richer it would be much easier but the child is already on its way.

I do appreciate all the advice, but I am pregnant now. Advice is still happily accepted though =] I actually do have a question I have already asked someone else. Does anyone know anything good to eat to get rid of morning sickness! SOmething light flavored.