Well I think your crazy!! A baby at 17????????? What?? I can see where your coming from with your lifes history and there are always gonna be people out there thats been through alot worse, this is just really selfish forget what you want think what your baby is gonna NEED not want. You dont NEED a BABY you want one and there to very different things. Take peoples advise, people on here dont say things to hurt other people or to pass judgement they do it to help and make sense of a bigger picture as you've asked for the advise.
If you've had to take care of other people all your life, then maybe just maybe you'll think about the child your trying to have its not fair on the child!!!
Living of someone else for the rest of your life cos all you want is a baby hahahahahaha. Think about it.
I hope you wake up and realise its not all about what you want when its another life involved that you'd have brought into this world.

I had the exact childhood. 5 Siblings drunk mother. I still take care of all of them. But I had my son at 21. I could have waited. But I married, had a vehicle, a nice apartment, 2 steady reliable jobs. ANd it is still hard. When I was 3 months preggos...our car was stolen and And totaled. Daniel had bad accident and was out of work for a month. His job fires him and we were evicted. Thank GOD we had time to save money, build credit, and get great work history. We got back on our feet within months and didn’t have to ask anyone else for help. We have had ups and downs since then,, but our son can rely on his parents to pull through. Would you be able to provide your baby with this? I don’t mean to talk down on you at all. I know how you feel. I was in your shoes and so lonely I could have died. But you know what? You go from caring for everyone else then your child and now your husband…YOU never get taken care of. It can feel as if you have been robbed. My sis is 17 and pregnant. They planned the baby. She has had a harder life than me. She has no idea how hard its gonna be once her baby comes. She has no job experience, no diploma, no home of her own. I pray for you.

And if I am totally wrong I am sorry. I just remember feeling like you feel. SO alone and unloved. Your baby will need you always,,buy what about what you need?

I make 17 an hour. My hubby used to make 15 an hour. That was just enough to have a 1 bedroom apartment, computer, car, car insurance, health insurance, food, utilities, cell phones, and ALL the baby stuff.

That is really good money and it was hard. 10 an hour is going to be close to impossible.

Now im the only one working. Daniel stays home to watch the baby. We have a 2 bed house. We never got our car back. We got a home phone and eliminated our cell phones. No more computer. Child care is too expensive so he stays home. Mainly cause I make enough to support our family and he cant find a job for more than 8 an hour. But we live comfortably. Well most of the time. So even for us its hard, no one else helps us…I think its unfair to expect your parents to carry your weight. Having a child means your grown up enough to do so….it also means taking care of yourself.

i really love this advice from you. It makes alot of sense to me. Its just that this thing started out as an accident, and then we just got really excited. I think that if I am, we cant do anything about it. But we talked it over, and preparing would be a good way to get ready, and still ahve the excitment! Again, I thank you.

you should probably prove YOUR OWN immaturity, and not laugh at the matter. Because its not a joking one. Im sorry that you dont have enough in your life you keep you happy, that you have to satisfy yourself, by making others feel bad. I take lost soul87's advice. But your advice, went in one ear and right out the other, just by your attitude in your response. I suggest that If you want to help people, dont put them down. Im sure many people would appreciate this. =]

"maturity" mis-spell. my mistkae. ^^^

No problem!! Im really glad I can help. I know how you feel..when me and my ex thought that I was possibly pregnant we felt worried but quickly warmed up to the idea and got excited even tho neither one of us was ready at all. Im glad I didnt fall pregnant because theres no way I could afford a child right now. Also, its hard for me to watch my best friend struggle, and she hasnt even had her baby yet The best of luck and have fun preparing!

I couldn't continue wasting my time with other people trying to coerce you into not exercising your reproductive right to reproduce.

If you've been emancipated you are responsible for you and if not and this turns out bad they don't have to deal with it, you do. People should live and let live.

ANYWAY you want to start taking prenatal vitamins now to ensure that you are completely healthy enough to carry a baby to term, young busy people (I read you mention being a student and working) often dont have time to eat right, you must for the sake of a conception and a healthy pregnancy. If you have been trying for 6 months or more without a positive pregnancy test you may need to start watching your ovulation and time it. After a year you should definitely see an open minded fertility doctor.

Mariee2009, I just read where you posted this all started out as an accident...therefore, there is a chance you are already pregnant,which this was not planned for, but you are asking advice for? If you are, then yes you have been blessed from God. If you are, you will make one hell of a good Mother. I jsut want you to not loose yourself....just becuase you may become a Mom, you still need to remember who YOU are. You are going to get an RN degree, you have a plan and i am so very proud of you at only 17 with goals in life. I wish you nothing but the very best. Please keep me posted. My little girl turns 26 this year, but she will always be my baby. I try to tell you as I would my own daughter! Big Hugs! FGM

I guess i am one of the people you are talking about and i would like to defend my advice.I totally agree that the mariee2009 has the right to choose her own life BUT if it does go bad we do not have to deal with it she and her BABY do.I have no doubt she will do her absolute best to be a great mother to her baby and i truelly hope she suceeds in this.I was only saying that having a baby is the BIGGEST responsibility i have ever felt in my life and i was 21 had my own home money and a father to help me.For a girl who is currently studying hard and relying on others to get by it is going to be twice as much pressure.I know she will do what she feels is right for her anyway i just couldnt pass this post without making her aware of the huge pressure having a baby right now is going to add to her life

i agree with you that yes it is perhaps better to be financially ready, but you cope the best you can, and if its all you ever wanted then why shouldnt she have a baby, if her partner and his parents are going to be there to help and support and are happy to do so then money really is nothing. if you want a child have a child, i know i would if i were her if i knew i could and had that support and if its all you want why wait.

Im still not sure if I am. we are getting another test because yesterday I did not start my period. I know it will be hard. I will have help from others, and I know that it is not good to rely on others, but If I am pregnant, I will try my hardest to learn that relying on others will not last forever. I refuse to go downhill. I have lived my life telling my self I will not fall into the same rut the rest of my family did, struggling with no education. I will no matter what provide what is best for my child. I am taking prenatal vitamins, I was already fully aware of them, and aware of the risk on a teen and the unhealthy habits. But I have improved my diet, and am taking care of myself. I do not smoke nor drink, so there are no troubles there. And I will keep posting on this same forum so that everyone knows how I am doing and can give me advice! I thank you ALL very much ~Mariee2009~

well everyone. Turns out I am! Took a test today (monday) and I got a faint, but visible sign =] Im pretty excited!

Congratulations i wish you the best of luck,It wont be easy but there are lots of good things about it too and i meant what i said im sure you will make a great mother to your little one

I just hope to get as much encouragement, no matter how much of a "mistake" people may say this is. I have told only 3 people, I dont want too much attention right away, dont want to bring to much stress to myself right now.

Yes im 14 weeks right now and ive told no-one in my life as i have had 3 misscariages so im a little scared to tell anyone but i have a scan on friday if all is well i will tell all my friends and familly good luck

Do you know of any centers that will give me prenatal care without going to a doctors office [example: planned parenthood]

actually you can buy them at the store, like walmart, walgreens, any place like that. They have lots of neat and safe healthy things to take now for pregnancy. you know you can even take regular childrens vitamins too. I was reading what everyone was saying and I just want to say congrats! Welcome to the wonderful thing called motherhood! I got prego when I was 19, married my now husband at 20 and had my baby at 20, then 13 months later my second daughter was born lol yes I do have my hands full, but I love every moment. You learn alot along the way, and there is nothing wrong with having a little help, once in a while you will need it, even your doctor and your babys future pediatrician will tell you that. But enjoy this experience its amazing! If you ever need any advice just Pm me I am glad to help! Good Luck and Congrats again!!!

Yeah, i am very nervous/excited/every emotion possible. I am a little scared of the pain of the birth, but I know that it will all be worth it =]

You are a silly young girl. I'm seventeen as well, and you have NO idea what you're getting yourself into. Absolutely no idea at all. Good luck to you, my darling, because you are going to need it when you're up every half hour at night and your boobs hurt and you can't figure out what the baby wants and you have to make sacrifices to buy diapers and your 'fiance' starts realizing that maybe there were a few other things he wanted to do with his life before having to support a kid for the rest of his life (a child costs an average of a million dollars to the parent during the first eighteen years of its life).
Girls like you watch Jamie Lynn Spears get pregnant and think it's soooo cute and fun and glamorous. IT'S NOT. I wish I could make you HEAR this, you and all the other girls who are TTC when you should still be dating and having fun. Trying to get pregnant at 17 and pledging to sacrifice your life for this baby at a young age does not make you a hero, it makes you naive!
Trust me, I'm not being rude, but I will speak my mind. You have absolutely no idea what the decision you made is going to do to you. It has nothing to do with what you went through when you were young - although I empathize - it has everything to do with the mental, emotional and physical strain it will be. The financial burden that is even MORE of an issue in this economy. I'm your age and I know perfectly well that what all of us are saying is going in one ear and out another, but I hope you can look back on this and know that nobody told you 'mommyhood' on a $10/h income (which isn't an income for a household ready for a baby) was going to be like playing house, sweetie.