17 and trying to conceive. (Page 1)

I'm not okay with this but try charting and taking your temp in the morning right after you wake up. Use fertilityfriend.com. You need to pinpoint ovulation and observe you cervical mucus trhough out your cycle.

Sorry but at 17 your really really shouldn't be trying to have a baby. What happens if there are medical issues with the child, Im sure there is no way you are prepared to handle that. Are you married and live on your own??? You need to go to parties and have fun.
Sorry but I had to comment on this, its just crazy.

i agree...you're 17..do you 100% know for sure what you're asking for...this means that you're going to give up your life for the next 18+ years...you're not even in college yet..and getting a successful stable job without a college degree these days is nearly impossible...and supporting a child let alone yourself is going to be HARD...dont count on the dad...choosing to have a child at 17 is a rash and immature selfish decision..think twice about this

Im pretty sure she said she did want your input as far as that goes

Well to be honest i think you being more selfish to yourself than anyone else.I know that right now you know what you want and your going for it and in most cases thats fine but not with a child im affraid.I started trying for my son when i was 18 but luckly for me i didnt concieve until i was 21 and i really mean that i was very lucky indeed because even at 21 it was hard work.I had been out every weekend enjoying my life and didnt even consider that this wasnt going to happen anymore once i was a mum.Although there are many many upsides to it too .I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life and i know that your going to go ahead and do it anyway so all i would say is dont chart ovulation just keep doing what your doing so that you MIGHT have a bit more time for fun and stability good luck what ever you decide

but you guys have NO idea what I have gone through. Since I was 6 years old, I have not had a childhood, no social life at all. I was forced to stay home and take care of my brothers because my mom and dad were off doing drugs. I did all this until I was 16 years old, and was placed into a foster home (i was once when I was 12 too) and I have learned the hard way of life. All I know is taking care of children. I am everything but selfish. I have devoted my life to taking care of my family and brothers, and I will not stop and change who I am to go and "party with my friends"... Im real glad that you guys can sit there and tell me to go party. Im not gonna grow backward and act like an immature child. I will live my life to the fulllest, and not hold back. I will have a baby now. I see that no one would like to give me any help. I believe that is what this forum is for. Not put people down and make them feel like crap, when you dont even know a thing about them. I have filled you in on my life... and no I am not married, but I wear a ring on my finger, and am very devoted to my significant other. I will prove that Im not just another teen. I know surely I am not.

Im 17 and trying for a baby and i do not have a social life my life is work and my fionce we are 100% sure that it is the right decision so i 100% suport ur decision. You will have to keep track of your periods and ou can go online and find the ovulation calculator and enter in the dates of your period try having intercourse about 2 days before you ovulate and if u can have intercourse pretty much every single day before and while you are ovulating hope this helps and goodluck

I have a family doctor, and live RIGHT down the street from an emergency room. I am also currently taking classes in nursing, and will attend KCC next fall in the medical field to become an RN. My boyfriend and I live with his parents, the nicest most caring people I know, and I will live there through college while they help as much as they can with the baby. So, I really have my back covered, and I know that I can do this. Regardless of your opinion of the "typical teenager"

But I do thank you for your guidance through this. But I feel like I dont want to waste my years. I dont want to party. I dont even have parties or weekend fun. Every minute of spare time, I spend with my fiance talking about how our life will be. I just wish people could see that

I'm sorry you think thats what i was trying to do i was not putting you down in any way i was trying to tell you at 17 i felt exactly the same as you do now but by the time i reached 21 i was very very glad that it didnt happen so soon for me.And i have no doubt that when you feel the pressure of being a parent you are going to feel the same way.And i tottally agree that me having my normal teenage years of fun were immature but i have news for you at 17 everyone is immature.You show your immaturety by thinking we are critising you when we are only trying to give you some GOOD advice.As i said you are going to do what you what to do anyway i know that but at least i know for myself that i did my best to help you and i am sorry you felt bad at what i said but i know in a few years you will be saying it to someone else.I wish you the best of luck and hope you get what you desire im sure you will be a great mother i was only thinking of the life your giving up a little too early

Please, peopel here are not trying to judge you, just trying to. keep you from making a mistake. COnsidre this....would it not be wiser to already have that nursing degree, have a HUSBAND, a HOUSE 2 steady incomes...stability. You are trying to get pregnant and you are in school.....You live with your boyfreinds parents.....do you have ot pay rent or utilities? Diapers do not grow on trees. I am telling you what I would tell my own daughter who is 25 and is waiting until she is financially ready to support a baby. She wants to be able to send her child to college. Please think about it. You may be very good at taking care of people, how about letting soemone take care of you? Please PM if you wish!

Im not trying to seem like im taking it like critisism. Its just frustrating because every single person I have ever tried to talk to about this, has said I am not immature enough for it. I am not like normal 17 year olds. I have been through too much to let someone tell me that I have to be a teenager. I grew up when I was 6 years old, and through middle school and high school, having to stay home from school to take care of my infant brother and toddler brother, and 7 year old brother, and make sure my 12 year old brother didnt get in trouble. I had alot of weight placed upoin my shoulders. I just recently got taken out of the home my brothers were in. I was being abused by my dad. I am only considering pregnancy so early because I don't want to have kids too late. I dont have anything else in my life! Everything has been taken away from me. My brothers, who were my life, who I practically raised. My boyfriend and I have been with eachother since I was 13, and he has been with me through all of this. He has a stable job, he gets about 10 an hour, and works through the week and tries hard. I know we can do this. Please dont see me as immature, just as... hmm... who wants to grow up now.

I totally agree with FGM...you should have a stable job already...its absolutely fantastic you're going into nursing! I too share the same passion, i'm starting nursing school this fall! Can i just tell you..my best friend and i BOTH are going for our nursing degrees...by accident last year she fell pregnant...she loves children and has always wanted to be a mother...but she has had to sacrafice her dream and put it on hold...her priority now is her child, I am starting nursing school in the fall..and she is taking care of her baby...she says she will eventually go back to school but right now..its way too hard...shes 21...you're only 17..maybe you ARE mature enough to be a mother but do you have a steady job? health insurance? money to support yourself and your future child? Honey justifying having a kid at 17 bc you "dont want to have kids too late" doesn't work...what is "late" to you? Give yourself another 4 years..finish school..even then you'll only be 21!!! thats not old at all! also..having a kid bc you dont have anything else in your life isn't a good reason either...get a puppy if you wanna take care of something..my boyfriend and i adopted a pup..hes a handful! I couldn't imagine actually having a kid!

I know a lot of young people (under18) who have had to GORW UP FAST....myself being one of them. Taking care of my 2 little brothers cause my Mother had 2 jobs. NO one is questong you being OLD enough to give birth and be a good Mom....we are trying to open your eyes to the real world. The economy SUCKS OUTLOUD now. How old is your boyfirend? DId her graduate from highschool? Does he have plans to further his education? D you plan to get married? YOu ahve to sirt down and look athte big picture. Not.....I', in school, my boyfriend works $10 and hour....that is not gonna pay rent, utilities, food, car/insurance do you ahve insurance? How would you plan to pay to have this baby? How would oyu plan to pay a doctor for well baby routine care? Formula, diapers and cnescessities cost money. It would not be fair ot his parents to ahve to foot hte bill. They already ahve you and him living there. YOu have so amny good years ahead and plenty of time to have a baby.....do you ahe money set back for this baby's education? WHat if htey want to take Karate lessons or piano lessons or need braces? Dentist bills, medicines and clothing. I am sure you werer not implying on mooshing off your boyfreinds parents at hteir expense just ot have this baby? Or, go and file claim for welfare, get subsidized housing, food stamps etc? You are smart....don't make a regretful mistake......this baby you will eventually have, I think it deserves everything in life...can you, as the parents alone provide this? Do you know what an RN makes in salary?????????

Listen I have been in your same shoes. I raised my 2 younger brothers from the time I was 12. I had to get a job at 13 to help support them. I missed many days of school to stay with them and almost didn't graduate. I always wanted to have a baby as well but really glad I didn't. I had my first child at 23 and let me tell you I was married and had a house and 2 full time incomes. It totally threw me for a loop. I got severe post partum depression which I NEVER expected to have. And one of the most difficult children on the face of the earth. Then at 27 I had my second. He is partially deaf from chronic ear infections and has surgery coming up for her throat. Mind you she is only 19 months old. She has therapy 2 times a week and we make weekly visits to the Childrens Hospital in Philly. I NEVER thought in a million years I would have not just one sick child but 2. My 1st is a whole other story. My point is you never know what is going to happen once the baby comes. You really have to be able to make it on your own and not living with your boyfriends parents who pay the mortgage and all the bills for you, plus health insurance, food, diapers the list goes on and on.

So yes I do know what you are say because I have been in your exact same shoes and I am praying that you will take this advise to heart and just wait a few years.

Listen I have been in your same shoes. I raised my 2 younger brothers from the time I was 12. I had to get a job at 13 to help support them. I missed many days of school to stay with them and almost didn't graduate. I always wanted to have a baby as well but really glad I didn't. I had my first child at 23 and let me tell you I was married and had a house and 2 full time incomes. It totally threw me for a loop. I got severe post partum depression which I NEVER expected to have. And one of the most difficult children on the face of the earth. Then at 27 I had my second. He is partially deaf from chronic ear infections and has surgery coming up for her throat. Mind you she is only 19 months old. She has therapy 2 times a week and we make weekly visits to the Childrens Hospital in Philly. I NEVER thought in a million years I would have not just one sick child but 2. My 1st is a whole other story. My point is you never know what is going to happen once the baby comes. You really have to be able to make it on your own and not living with your boyfriends parents who pay the mortgage and all the bills for you, plus health insurance, food, diapers the list goes on and on.

So yes I do know what you are say because I have been in your exact same shoes and I am praying that you will take this advise to heart and just wait a few years.

Listen I have been in your same shoes. I raised my 2 younger brothers from the time I was 12. I had to get a job at 13 to help support them. I missed many days of school to stay with them and almost didn't graduate. I always wanted to have a baby as well but really glad I didn't. I had my first child at 23 and let me tell you I was married and had a house and 2 full time incomes. It totally threw me for a loop. I got severe post partum depression which I NEVER expected to have. And one of the most difficult children on the face of the earth. Then at 27 I had my second. He is partially deaf from chronic ear infections and has surgery coming up for her throat. Mind you she is only 19 months old. She has therapy 2 times a week and we make weekly visits to the Childrens Hospital in Philly. I NEVER thought in a million years I would have not just one sick child but 2. My 1st is a whole other story. My point is you never know what is going to happen once the baby comes. You really have to be able to make it on your own and not living with your boyfriends parents who pay the mortgage and all the bills for you, plus health insurance, food, diapers the list goes on and on.

So yes I do know what you are say because I have been in your exact same shoes and I am praying that you will take this advise to heart and just wait a few years.

My boyfriend is 20 years old. He has a steady job, and a steady income. We dont worry about rent because his parents let us stay at their place. I know about health insurance and everything else, and my boyfriend gets this through his job, there is no worry for this. Im not ignorant to any of these things. I know that you may think its best for me to wait. But everything happens for a reason, and if God blesses me with a child, I see it as another struggle or blessing that he has set for me in my life. Getting through the hard things can only make you stronger =]

I am also seventeen and trying to concieve and nobody else knows except my fiancee. He is 19. We have been trying for three moths and I think this time it worked. So kkeep trying. If you have regular menstrual cycles you should ovulate on day fourteen. Just google a ovulation calculator and keep track of everything. Good luck!

I am also seventeen and trying to concieve and nobody else knows except my fiancee. He is 19. We have been trying for three moths and I think this time it worked. So kkeep trying. If you have regular menstrual cycles you should ovulate on day fourteen. Just google a ovulation calculator and keep track of everything. Good luck!

hey there...
disregarding what everyone else is saying
i would like to get your email off you or recieve an email from you.
im also 17, 18 in june
my boyfriend is 20 and we are trying to concieve
i would really like to chat with you

just a quick word. First way does everyone at 17 think they want a baby. Go get a dog or a doll. If God is going to bless you with a child that means you DON'T plan it or chart it. If he wants it, it will happen on its own not you planning it. You girls really need to find something better to do than have kids.

I understand what you girls are going thru. Im not here to judge or criticize for you, I know exactly how that feels. I felt that way too when I was 17. Im 21 now and still feel that way. Its Like you need to feel needed and wanted and loved...because you feel you serve no other purpose in life...right? Its perfectly normal to have this feeling to mother a child. I too have had a really tough life, even tho I didnt raise my siblings. My mother, on the other hand, was in the same position as you. She mothered her siblings. I cant tell you how many stories or times she tells of how she had no choice but to grow up, and how she missed out on her childhood. I know...you dont like to party or hang out with your friends, thats a good thing.

Instead, why dont you just prepare for a baby. It takes a lot of time! Do what everyone else has been saying. Dont rush into it so fast...prepare yourself. Get married first, get your degree first, get a house first, SAVE MONEY!!! ppl are expensive ...theres so much to do before a child should enter this world. We are not calling you immature so to speak, its just that we are ppl that are actually experiencing the REAL WORLD...and its crucial. Do you really plan on living with his folks forever? Dont you want some privacy and dont they want some privacy? How about you just baby sit and work in childcare for a while...while ur getting ready. PLEASE just have an open mind to what all of us are saying...we are the real deal telling you how it really is. Also...maybe just maybe..the fact that you cant conceive right now is a sign from God that you arent ready...? Something to think about Good luck to you sweetie