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Q: 19 and still single
asked by: UpACreek on September 22nd, 2008
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I'm sure these topics pop up here all the time. I don't see myself as completely void of confidence. I am overweight but I'm told I'm funny, have a great personality, and that I'm fun to be with.

To dispense with the pleasantries, I like this girl. We developed a friendship online and through texting this summer while I away at an internship. I have had a crush on her since math class last semester, so I told her I liked her a couple months ago and she said no...she had just gotten out of a long relationship and couldn't comment on it at the moment. I was confused as she had been given me tons and tons of signs but thats fine...I'm probably stuck in the "friendship zone" but whatever. I dig talking to her.

I've still harbored a crush on her but kept it out of my mind. I've noticed I started to distance myself a little bit and acted a little more nonchalant...not on purpose though. Anyway last week, I didn't hear her text me at our school's football game and when I saw I missed 5 messages, 3 saying the same thing (can't tell if it was sent acidentally or what since the times were 10 and 15 minutes apart) and that she was sad and disappointed I hadn't answered. She had never sent anything remotely like that before so it was baffling.

One night she had said her friend was trying to take the phone away because her friend was afraid she would say something she'd regret after she had taken a couple sleeping pills before bed. It may be nothing but enough to raise suspicion. She came over to watch a movie the other night. We hadn't really spent that much time together in person so it was a tad awkward, my feet and hands couldn't stop sweating but I feel like I was laid back and not acting weird. She stayed huddled up in the corner of the couch. I was getting the feeling she was either nervous, uncomfortable, or didn't want to be here. She left after the movie was over and we had talked for like 5 minutes to finish a paper. I can't tell whats going on and I think that fact that I've never had a girlfriend despite a few chances may be clouding my judgement.

I know sh*t usually develops out of friendships...do I even have a chance or am I just fooling myself?
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sooner8200
replied on September 25th, 2008
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Even if there is a chance it sounds like this isn't the right time. It sounds like she has some issues or some stress going on and it is just as well that you don't become her crutch or end up getting your heart broken. I say don't force anything. Just go with it. You're 19 and you have ample time and opportunities to fall in love with a best friend Wink
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PokeyM
replied on October 2nd, 2008
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Don't worry about being 19 and never having been in a relationship. I'm 20 now, and just entered my own first relationship 4 months ago, so you're not alone! I think you just need to let the situation work itself out. Don't push too hard to make something happen or else whatever does happen probably won't be good. These things need to be natural, not forced. If you're both forcing yourselves, maybe it's just not the right thing for you two.
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greekjohn
replied on November 5th, 2008
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I turn 19 in a month and a half and I've never had a girlfriend. Well there was this one girl but it never turned into boyfriend girlfriend thing. I wouldnt date her cause she was fat, but now I am starting to wish I had had date her.

Right now I am lonely. I hate it, all my friends are moving on with their lives and they all have girlfriends and I don't. It makes me sick. For me no girl is really interested in me. So what I've learned ain't no fallin no next time I meet a new girl. I've also started to come into reality and realized if I don't meet a girl soon then I'm most likley going to end up lonley for the rest of my life. No kids, grandkids, no nothing. I guess it probably wont be that bad, I'll have all my money to myself.

Anyways take thing easy if you can make this work then go for it. Don't turn down the opportunity.
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