14 and ready for kids ? (Page 1)

If you're really nervous about it, you could always write a long letter to her and talk later. I think that she needs to know this information as soon as possible.

you are 14? PLEASE...for the babys sake reconsider this...
problem 1) you're still in school..you haven't even graduated
problem 2) you dont have a job, because you aren't even of legal age to work yet!
problem 3)because you dont have a job how are you going to support yourself and this baby? and if its sick how are you going to get it to the dr? bc you cant drive thats for sure
problem 4) how old is your boyfriend? at this age boys horomones are RAGING..they will say almost anything to get what they want and when you do fall pregnant..most likely he will ditch

I'm not trying to be negative I'm just trying to open your eyes..you REALLY need to consider EVERYTHING...do you really want to bring a life into this world with no way to support it? thats a horrible thing to do...what kind of life do you want to provide for your child? I can tell you, I'm 22, working 2 jobs and in college and I couldn't afford a kid right now for sure..working TWO jobs...i think you should tell this to your mother asap and PLEASE do not rush into this decision..personally I think you're way too young to even be having sex, but if youre going to, use condoms...this is a decision you will regret...

think of all you'd miss out on by becoming a mother this young...experience life while you can...you have MANY year yet to have a child..and i'm sure that years down the road you'll be a fantastic mother...but my advice to you is to wait, and talk to you mother about it so she can help you figure things out and explain to you how life changing this can be

I am 32 years old, i had my son at 20. my mom basically kicked me out. it was so hard paying rent, buying baby things, i didnt have a lot of clothes or money to buy it. i would always cry to god. i couldnt go to work unless i had money (for babysitting). having kids is like a 20 year death sentence.
you are crazy!!!!! your not thinking about the hard part. statistics show that your boyfriend will wind up walking away while your stuck with talking care of it.
your crazy!!!! are you trying to feel some empty void in your life. get a puppy!!!!

a puppy is a nice suggestion first try taking care of the puppy..mom and dad wont mind helping out with that...if you think taking care of a puppy is hard(which my boyfriend and I found out when we adopted one a few months ago) then you are for sure NOT prepared for a child...oh and since you REALLY want to experience how it would be taking care of something, maybe you should fork up the money for all the vet bills...last visit for my boyfriend and I was $150 bucks...that was for flea meds too though...it is NOT cheap...and a baby requires 24 hr care..a puppy can stand to be alone for a few hours...seriously..think about it hun..

memeber a time lik that you really have to ope nyo eye an here wat you sayin your 14 teen and you ready for a baby you luck you don have one hard wrk i telling you i don think you wanna be in some thing lik that

Please don't think that any of us is being mean. we just "been there done that".
the right way is to wait until your married, with a house, and a job. if you do it the right way you can have so many people look up to you as if your they're roll model.
please consider this.\!

Holy crap...you are a kid. Please don't get yourself pregnant and have a baby...you're only 14! theres a reason kids like you can't vote, drink, or even drive. Getting a puppy is a good idea, or babysitting, or a kitty, but please don't bring an innocent child into this world with no posetive female role model...let alone a male one( don't be fooled, he WILL leave you)

You are only 14 years old.....lets just say you get pregnant....lets say your boyfriend decides hey, I don't wanna do this and leaves you. Sure, he'll have to pay childsupport for the baby...but....where are you gonna live? Do you have a job? Do you have an apartment? DO you ahve a babysitter lined up? You can kiss your single life GOODBYE! Its not fair to think you can go running back home to Mom and Dad and live in their house and expect them to pay for your room and board and help take care of the baby...You have your entire life ahead of you. As the others said above.....please take into consideration this baby.....what chance in life will it have? Who's gonna pay for its college education? You are barely in HIGH SCHOOL? What about college? How old is your boyfriend? And girl, don't think he won't leave you.........Please reconsider this. Its a BAD BAD BAD Decision. Just keep n it real.......F*GM

You can't have a baby...you're 14!!! Wait till your married, wait till you're with the right one, & if this guy is the right one...you're still 14 & 14 is too young to have kids or have sex...in my opinion. I know some people will disagree, but that is the last thing a 14 needs...Please wait till your older. That would be the right thing to do...trust me.

having a baby is a BIG deal!
and your only 14 years old.
like many people have said, your not done school, you cant work, cant drive, have no savings, your boyfriend could just be trying to get in your pants without wearing a glove, etc.
so many things go into having a child, and as prepared or ready as one may think, there are always twists and turns that no parent can be ready or prepared for.
im 19, and i have an 8 month old son. i did not plan to get pregnant, i wanted to hang out with my friends, my boyfriend do regular 19 year old things! but as soon as i got pregnant, i had to say good-bye to my freedom, good bye to sleeping in until however long i wanted and be a parent.
i to this day wish i had spare time, me time, i wish i could go to a party with my best friend or sleep over and have a girls night..but that is all in the past.
i at least, got to enjoy my youth i got to go to concerts, sleep overs, parties, hang out with friends and what not when i was much younger like your age. a baby was the last thing i was thinking of.
I really think you should re-consider this want for a baby. many times after a girl gets pregnant the boy leaves or denies that the baby is his, and then the girlfriend is all alone to raise this child.
its good that you want to mention this to your mom though, hopefully you have not engaged in the process of having a child yet, and can sit down and talk to your mom about why you feel the need to have a child now, and why you feel that at 14, and a child you feel your ready to have a child.
children should not raise children.
enjoy your fredom, because as soon as a baby comes into the picture that is all gone hun.
a baby is a huge responsibility, bigger than what you think your ready for. and expensive!!! say good-bye to shopping for yourself at the name brand boutiques!
its a real grown up thing to tell your mom about this, you should do it soon. and dont get angry if she gets well, frustrated or a little loud because in the end, shes a parent, she knows first hand how hard raising a child is even though it is rewarding, it is not sunshine and butterflies all the time. people only see the glamorous parts of parents with their children when their with friends, they dont see what goes on behind closed doors and how hard it really is. shes looking out for your best intrest and in the end, shes trying to knock some sense into your head so you dont do something that will change your whole life, and do something that you are truely just not ready for.

like i said, rethink this, enjoy your youth, enjoy your freedom, its a grown up thing to do by telling your mom, but enjoy your freedom and wait! you have forever to have a child hun!

if you need to talk, PM me anytime

I would not go so far as getting a puppy...chances are a 14 year old will leave it outside and forget to take care of it....its not the puppy's fault that an irresponsible CHILD can't provide it with love and shelter....get a goldfish or a plant. To the OP...Something is VERY wrong with this picture...and I think that maybe you need counseling. The level of your immaturity is evident in the fact that you are even able to conceive the possibility of having a child at your age. Please seek help before you ruin your life or...god forbid...a child's.

ARE YOU CRAZY? 14, how do you know your boyfriend isn't going to leave you while your pregnent. What would you do if your mom kicked you out, you haven't even finished high school, you haven't finished middle school, you can't get a job and you can't get a house, you have NO money, how are you supposed to get the babys needs, like a crib, food, A SHELTER. Wait until your older, don't ruin your life. Go out and have fun.

I think that you are just to young to have a baby. I have to say that you are a baby yourself and the way that the economy is going right now I believe that it is best to wait a few years. I have a niece that just had a baby almost 2 Months ago and she is 16 years old and struggling. she dosen't even have a job and her boyfriend does not even want to help her out with the baby because he still wants to go out and party. If it weren't for my sister helping my niece with diapers and formula I really don't know where she would be at. she has admitted to her grandmother that she misses going out with her friends and all but she now has a big responsibility of taking care of her baby. so maybe you should think about it more before you make that big decision.

i agree with everyone above ..honey you are too young live life have fun while you are still young then when you graduate have a career and a man who will love you and devote his time to you then think about having kids ok...please dont have kids yet for the baby's sake wait about ten years

Where are your parents.. please honey talk with them.. You are still a kid yourself. Children require money.. you don't have a job, because you are not legal.. and even if you work, who is going to care for it while you are there, and the job wont be good because you have not graduated highschool (you have barely entered) so how are you going to take care of it? How long have you and your BOYFRIEND been together.. he can leave trust me.. I was a mother at 19, I am college eduacated, very nice income, wonderful kid... but it was still hard doing it alone.. how will you do it at 14? oh my God this breaks my heart, my daughter is 13.. she is still asking me for dolls..

ure 14 girl worry about school first you have so much ahead of you once you get through school first then start daiting... when you can find a guy that you will be with for a while who plans to love and support a baby then think about it.. you need to get your diploma first go to grad night walk at your graduation and you will never get to go to prom with a child. i work with a girl that had a baby at 16 she is now 20 and the worst mother i have ever seen she still wants to party and have fun while the child stays with the grandma... not cool

i think its become more of a trend to be the teen parent rather than a consequence these days. i mean ever since the young celeb jamie lynn got pregnant at 16 most girls idolize her and think and want to do just like her, be the teenaged mother at 16 yrs old. yet they fail to realize that even though, yes jamie is young to have a child, she has the money in order to raise one! it still does not justify her getting pregnant at a young age, but she can afford everything and then some for that child.
as for sex at a young age, i think most kids are pressured into having sex now from friends or boyfriends and have forgotten about their morals. beliefs and self esteem has gone out the window along with it all.
kids only have one thought in their heads when they want something, how they will get it, and they are willing to risk everything to get what they want. they dont think of consequences that go along with what they want, in this case raising a child as a child- they dont weigh out all the negatives, or hardships, they only focus on their want.

i can proudly say that I was never pressured into doing anything as a teen...maybe I was stubborn? but I realized the reputations these girls who slept around were getting and I wanted nothing to do with it...I respected myself and my body..I can only hope that my child will do the same...my mother did well in raising me i think, she did once when i was 16 offer to put me on birth control(if I wanted) which I thought took alot for her to even put out as an option...I made it clear that it wasn't necessary at the time...I think that was a relief to her...sex is a big deal and should be discussed to our kids...too many parents trust their kids TOO much! They're kids! they need to be watched!!! dont let your 15 year old son go into his bedroom w/his 14 yr old gf! WATCH them!