Take a pregnancy test, but it sounds like you had your period.

Hun, I'm not going to judge you but you need to be extra careful. There are a lot of extra risks involved with genetics and anti-depressants so you need to be using as much protection as you can if this is something you're going to continue to do. You need condoms with spermicides at least.

I know we should have been more careful. It just happened and we didn't really have time to think about it. It's not something we planned. I might wait till I miss my next period or if things stay the same to do a test.

I know, but you have to think about it because of the extra risks.

It really does sound like you have a period, and if your period for this month would otherwise be late then you can test now.

Thanks for the help

okay.

1. take a test if you want to go get a blood test aska dr.
2. not to sound mean but when and if you are pregnant and you go in with your cousin as the father of you child [unless hes your 1st cousin if im not mistaken] they will most likely be arresting him. its called incest and its not legal in the states!!!!!

please be careful and yes anti-depressants can harm the child.

He is my first cousin. I live in Australia though and he lives in the UK. If I am pregnant, I don't think I could tell my family who the father is. I might loose their support. I haven't done a test but I think I'm going to wait and see if I get my period next month.

well if i was in your situation and i told my family they would def. disown me and most likely be highly pissed i was "keeping it in the family"

We had unprotected sex August 3rd, 4th and on 6th we used a condom but he didn't put it on till half-way through.

Using a condom makes it protected sex. Precum is a risk, but if you got your period a week later, it is unlikely you are pregnant. Bleeding is not indicative of pregnancy.

People have unusual periods all the time. Putting off taking a pregnancy test is not going to change the outcome. You are concerned about it today, why not put your mind at ease and take a test, within 10 minutes you'll know whether or not you should continue to waste time and energy worrying about this.

My answer: you are not pregnant.

I see your logic but I'm scared. He left to go home to England tonight. I never told him I thought I might be pregnant. I don't have anyone I can tell really. My best friend wasn't supportive of our relationship. I really think the only thing for me personally to do is wait.

some women end up giving themselves pregnancy symptoms when they are not actually pregnant because they stress themselves about thinking if they are pregnant, to the point where their body starts to show signs even if they are not.
just relax and stop stressing yourself out about this because that does not help things at all. it just makes them worse.

Wait? Is that because you'd like to hold onto the possibility of being pregnant for awhile longer?

I don't know. I guess I'm scared about what people will say and whether I'll have hve the support of my family if I am pregnant. I guess I also like thinking a little part of him is still with me.

vintagetrash, alot more than support goes into having a child.
i mean, it is a very expensive job.
do you have a good paying income? a part time jobs really dont cut it very well, and if you are not financially stable it makes it that much harder to afford the basics and then some for a child plus taking care of yourself.
i think people would say or judge a little more if you are just having this baby to feel closer to your cousin, and not looking at the seriousness of this situation.
if you cant take care of yourself fully, meaning have your own house a good paying career, school finished or extending your education to get a higher degree or start a career, pay rent, all the necessities, have a car, pay the insurance, health insurance etc.
if you dont do and cant do all these things, how will you be able to provide for a child completely on your own without financial support from your family?

i think you should really think this through, and think about this child's future rather than your want right now, because in the end that child could and probably will be the one suffering.
and you also have to think about whats best for you, like getting a good education good paying job etc.
if you want to feel closer to your cousin, there are other ways to go about it rather than keeping a child you cant afford..
you should look up what adoptions offer these days

if you need to talk PM me anytime.
good luck

I would never give up my child. I've always wanted to be a mother and if I am pregnant I'll be over the moon. It's not about having a part of him. That does play a factor but it's more than that. It's about bringing life into this world. About having someone that truly depends on you and loves you unconditionally. I have a part-time job an I'm in my last year of school. I'm home schooled so I can still study with baby. I've known for as long as I can remember that I want to work with children. I have aspirations. They might not be to have a 6 figure salary or be a doctor or lawyer but they're all mine and they include having a baby. I'd never give up my child and I'd never have an abortion. I may be 16 but I love this baby even though I don't know if it exists yet or not.

thats great that you want to do all these things, but you should know that the percentage of fathers who stay with the young girl they get pregnant is pretty slim.
which is why im asking, can you now, at 16 care for this child completely on your own without the financial help of your family, if your home schooled, that means you do not provide completely for yourself.
a child does not love back right away.
im not saying you need to rake in a 6 figure salary, but a good stable paying job goes a long way when having a child.
it costs about $40,000 to care for a child financially..and at a part time job that pays at most..$7.30 im guessing, it doesn't go very far.
all im saying is to look more at the seriousness of this rather than the want that your getting, which is to have a baby and be a mother.

I know what you're saying but I still don't think I could ever give up a child. My step-dad was adopted and he had a pretty rough childhood. I don't want to do that to a child who has no choice in the matter. My family found out about my cousin and I today. I'm still waiting for a big talk with my mum. My dad seemed supportive though. I think things will be ok. It's like a giant weight lifted off my shoulders. There's still one more there though. I need to know what I'm facing. If I'm pregnant or not.

I understand that concern you have, but times have changed. adoption has changed completely too.
now you can have open adoptions, recieve photos and updates on that child and decide how involved you would like to be in that child's life with the adopted parents.
either way, this child has no say in the matter, be it you keeping him/her or not.
when you have the talk with your parents listen completely to them, this is not the time for teenaged arguing, this is serious.
have you even taken a test?
you should see a doctor and ask for a blood test to be done. Pregnancy tests done by blood test are 100% accurate.
think fully about this choice, once youve made it, there is no turning back and its not like a dog where if you dont clean up after it or feed it, someone else will.
that child depends fully on you. and its not an easy job to do. believe me, i got pregnant at 18 had my son at 19 and at first the only thought running through my head when i had my son was'what did i get myself into' it is EXTREMELY hard, and the child does not love back right away, its stressful, theres no time to yourself, no going out when you want to..im 20 and my son is turning 1 soon and things just started to get easier..but this is always a constant job with no days off or breaks.

if you need to talk, again PM me anytime

I talked to my mum tonight. She going to take me to the doctors. I know what you're saying. Now you have you're son could you imagine your life without him? He's a little person that you made. Did you ever think of killing him? It's real for me now and I know with all my heart that there is no way I would ever hurt an unborn baby.

Although i cannot imagine my life without my son because of how much i love him, i can imagine how things could have possibly been if i had waited to have him.
I would have been more prepared, more organized had things set in motion instead of doing it all as i go along.
i would not have been going to school to graduate high school while pregnant, wouldn't have burnt a hole in my savings and now am looking for a job to make money, could have possibly graduated from college and gotten a degree in interior design instead of applying for college now, and balancing on a thin line of, if i dont graduate from college im not just letting my son down, i will be wasting thousands upon thousands of dollars.

i could have gotten married to my boyfriend, and gotten a place of our own instead of having a place with his brother inlaw and his wife who we pay rent to.
i could have gotten to be a kid for a little while longer too.

and yes, although i do not regret my son, i do think about all the things i could have done to make my life now, a little less stressful and a little more enjoyable now being a mother.
yes the thought of aborting or adoption came up, because myself and my boyfriend did not know if we would be able to afford to raise a child now, we did not know if we would be able to give all that we could and if it would be good enough for him, so yes the thought of aborting a fetus came up, as did putting him up for adoption.
but we decided against both, when my boyfriends brother told us we could stay with him until we get things settled and we pay rent to him.

this is not just about putting a child up for adoption or aborting. this is thinking hard as to if you can give all that you can and more, and if that child really has the best possible outcome with you.
i could never abort as well, but if i knew that i financially could not do this, i would have put my son up for adoption when he was born.
i would not want to have my family raising a child that i wanted, and i would not want to have that over my head.