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Q: 14 and pregnant
asked by: beccaboo on May 27th, 2009
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i found out i was pregnant a few weeks ago. and only me and my 2 best friends know. and school is about to end for summer and somehow a lot of people know that im preggo. im about 4-5 weeks along and when school starts again ill be 18 weeks along(4-5 months) and ill be in 10th grade but im afraid about what other people will say. an also how am i suppose to tell my parents???
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Meaghan19
replied on May 27th, 2009
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Hey,
I'm 19 years old and 16 weeks pregnant. If you only told your 2 best friends one of them must have said something to someone, which doesn't make them a very good friend. I'd be careful who you confide your secrets in, especially at such a young age because you never know who you can trust. I've known about my pregnancy for a month and a half and hardly anyone knows, unless I've told them myself.
If you plan on keeping this baby, how are you going to go about school? You could maybe take a year off and then start grade 10 next year. I do highly recommend staying in school though even if you do have to take a couple years off. I just finished my second year of university and since I'm due in November I'm taking 2 semesters of and then returning in the fall of next year. School is definitely important for your future, and for that baby's future.
Don't worry about what other people think. Especially at your age, people will judge you because they don't know what it's like. Do NOT let them get to you because it will only make you look weak. Know that there's plenty of people that you can turn to for support.
I know telling your parents can be a scary thing, but you might be surprised by how they react. I was terrified to tell my parents and I was sure I knew how they'd react. To my surprise they were both excited from the minute I told them, shocked but excited. My entire family knows now (Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, etc.) and everyone is excited for this baby. Though I do NOT have the support of my boyfriend (the baby's father), I have all the support I need from my family. You just need to be strong and tell them sooner instead of later. I chose to tell the parent that I felt most comfortable with first, so I told my mom. My mom then decided that it would be best if she told my dad, and it worked out really well. Maybe you and your mom could do the same thing? Just stay strong, I'm here if you ever need to talk.
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kyrafaith
replied on May 27th, 2009
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definately sit your mom down and talk with her. Maybe there are options you havent looked into, like a transfer to a school for teen mothers where they provide daycare and support. Dont worry about other people, all that matters is your health and that babys health and the stress you are feeling is going to the baby too. talking to your mom is going to help relieve that hopefully. Sure she may be dissappointed but she could also be the biggest ally you are going to have. My parents were dissappointed and even kicked me out (worst case senario here, but it was for more than the pregnancy) while i was pregnant but they also were the ones in the delivery room with me holding my hand while my son was born. You need to tell your mom and have her take you to the doctor and help you set up a plan if you are going to keep this baby, or help you with other options if you are not. And if you ever need to talk, feel free to pm me. I know its scary right now but once you get the stress off things are going to seem a lot less to deal with because youll have someone you can trust to talk to.
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Mabel
replied on May 27th, 2009
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Re: im 14 and pregnant
beccaboo wrote:
i found out i was pregnant a few weeks ago. and only me and my 2 best friends know. and school is about to end for summer and somehow a lot of people know that im preggo. im about 4-5 weeks along and when school starts again ill be 18 weeks along(4-5 months) and ill be in 10th grade but im afraid about what other people will say. an also how am i suppose to tell my parents???


The dates are wrong. If you have known you were pregnant for a few weeks, then you would be much further along than 4-5 weeks. When you first miss your period you are considered 4 weeks along. When was the first day of your last period? That is how many weeks you are.

OK, now onto the harder parts. Someone told. This is common. Teenage girls, even besties, can seldom keep a juicy secret to themselves. You need to tell your parents before they find out some other way, from someone else. Also, your mom probably buys your tampons/pads and is maybe wondering right now why you aren't using any. It will be easier if you tell them, rather than have them hear it from the school or someone's mom that they have confided in.

You need medical care - especially being 14.

Did you skip a grade in school?
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aochriss
replied on May 27th, 2009
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beccaboo , why in the world do you want to have a baby when you are too young to care for it?
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lalanicxx
replied on June 29th, 2009
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I was 15 when i got pregnant, and i didnt want to tell my parents either. but someday for real you will be surprised on how they take it. yeah taking care of baby is hard, but i go to school and take of the baby. maybe you should have though about what people would say before you had sex cause you should have known that this could of happened.
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Codicrunk
replied on July 10th, 2009
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Im the same age, except that like Idk if i am yet. Im absolutly terrifyed and i am telling my twinsister today after lunch. Sad She helps me though absulutly everything.
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