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i am 16 and pregnant., getting closer to 17.
I have no support everyone seems to want me to get an abortion but i know doing something like that would kill me
Nobody seems to understand telling me its "no big deal" but to me it is a
Potential life in my hands. I cant even kill a fly. Im scared i will be persuaded into an abortion and
Regret it the rest of my life. I just need some strength or re assurance
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replied February 20th, 2012
Hi, I know just how you feel. I was a scared pregnant teen also and had only the support of my mother. It was the hardest most gut wrenching decision to make but I refused to have an abortion. You might want to strongly look into open adoption, this is what I did. I placed my baby girl with a loving family and because it was open, I was able to know where she was at all times, see pictures, get letters and also see her in person while she was little. She wanted to meet me when she turned 14 and today she is 20! We have an awesome relationship and it was the best decision I could have made for both of us!! Placing a baby for adoption is the most unselfish decision in the world. Having an abortion or keeping a child you aren't able to raise, it completely selfish. You can save the life of this child. It is YOUR decision! I am here to talk to if you need anything at all! My name is Jennifer and I can also give you my personal email if you want it. Hang in there, I know how scary it is. You are a strong girl just for asking for help and advice. I will help you as much as I can.
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replied February 21st, 2012
Hun I know exactly how you feel. I was in a situation like that last year and I had the abortion. Now I regret it everyday because I know that child would have been loved very much, however a kid should not raise a kid. Regardless if it wasn't your fault at all or if you did take part in the sex, if you keep the baby you will have to put away ur dreams and goals and live only for the child. You can also keep it but give it up for adoption. There is no easy answer. I was 15, when it happened to me. I wasn't whoring around or anything but either way I had a big responsibility. Do what YOU want to do. There will always be someone who wants to help, an example is a worker at a local Grass Roots or someone on here.
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replied April 11th, 2012
I hate that u have no support with ur family. It's a very hard thing to deal with alone. My opinion is defiantly not abortion I agree with the lady about adoption if u r not wanting to keep the baby. I can say from experience being a very young mother if u do decide to keep the baby it is a very hard road. It can b done tho. Takes a lot of determination and hard work on your part. I got pregnant at the age 14 and gave birth at 15 she was planned as dumb as that sounds but I lived up to the responsibility I married her father and had 2 more children by the time I was 19 and then got divorced so I was left a 19yr old single mother with 3 small children to care for. I did have help from my family thank god! But for the most part I have raised my children on my own! I am now 30yrs old and that baby I planned is 15yrs old and we r the best of friends. Life is still hard at times with teenage children it never gets easy. But I do not for one minute regret the decision I have made 15yrs ago. U r more than welcome to email me at anytime for words or encouragement or even if u just need to talk. Ill be praying for u and that ur family comes around and stands behind ur decision!
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replied April 11th, 2012
i no how you all feel i 17 and i dont have noone but my grandmother my mother and father are gone and its very hard to think how can i do this i will having twins nov 27,2012 and everyday i think whats the next step . but just always remember you are never alone long as yhu have god in your life you wouldnt have to worry about nothing
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replied April 11th, 2012
i no how you all feel i 17 and i dont have noone but my grandmother my mother and father are gone and its very hard to think how can i do this i will having twins nov 27,2012 and everyday i think whats the next step . but just always remember you are never alone long as yhu have god in your life you wouldnt have to worry about nothing
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