I found out I was pregnant yesterday, it took 4 pregnacy test before it finally sank in and now I don't know what to do.
My boyfriend didn't want the baby when he found out and his first reaction was abortion, he's 20 and a full time worker. Where as I'm 17 and studying at Tafe, with no current employment.
He is starting to come around to the idea of having a baby, but I don't know what to do. I have been told by a doctor recently I might never have children so this is what I would call my mircle baby, but as a couple we think we could handle a baby.
But I am scared, we live together with his parents, though I think I will be asked to move out when this happens, I scared of how everyone will react.
I still have so much in life I want to do, I knew I might never have had children and I was going through the process of dealing with that, but now being pregnant feels well amazing and I really do want to keep the baby, but what about my future? I am not sure what to do.
I understand some part to the fact that the future may hold the baby and you and sometimes it is difficult to make these kinds of choices and even more because consciousness is stupid when it comes to finding the best option for everyone, but I advise you to think of you and your baby; which could be your choice to become a great mom or your not ready for this challenge. For example I gave my baby up for adoption because I was not ready for this, you can not imagine how hard it was the whole process but ultimately it was the best option for both of us and for my mental and spiritual health. Besides the advantage I have is that it was an open adoption and I can see my baby when you can. I hope you choose the best option that deep inside you, comfort you, I wish you the best!
Honestly if you werent ready for a child you should have acted accordingly. Your little boy or girl is on the way now and judging by your post you may not get this oppurtunity again... at the end of the day you have to do whats right for you but I would encourage you to keep you child or find he or she a better family... but to totally deny he or she and chance because of your mistake isnt the right thing to do and given your situation something you would most likey regret.
There is always adoption, it could be an open adoption so that you can share info and still be a part of the baby's life, while giving yourself and your little one a life you both fully deserve. With children there is no time for selfish acts. Things happen for a reason, yes. Look at the bright side you were told you couldn't and look what you accomplished. The future is yours, no one can tell you what to do only suggest and help the best way they can, advice will either clarify or add to the confusion of a decision. Best of luck. here to help