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hi im 17years old and 21weeks pregnant with a babyhgirl.
The confusing thing about my pregnancy is that me and my ex haven't spoke to each-other since I found out I was pregnant at 9weeks , at first he wanted me to get an abortion , but i wouldnt because i dont believe in abortions (if that makes any sense)so then we stayed out of contact with each-other..... I miss him and love him so much Crying or Very sad ... when iwas 17 and a half weeks pregnant , he rang me n asked me how me n baby was (that really made me happy) and also said that he misses me and still loved me , and that he wanted to no how everything in my pregnancy was going.... but then at 19weeks and 3days pregnant ifound out that iwas having a babygirl and itried ringing him on his cell number and home number , but he didnt want to talk to me , then he decides to get in contact with me and tells me that hes changed his mind about wanting to be apart of his daughters life (now that really hurt me) , everything is so confusing for me and stressfull now , idont no what to do , sometimes iwish iwasnt pregnant because then everything between me and him will still be the same... but then again im excited as that im having a baby and that i have all the support of my family... My ex may not what anything to do with his daughter , but his family does , but iwish he would to .....
please somebody help me....
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replied May 19th, 2012
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you cant make him do anything & neither can anyone else
you just have to deal im sorry to say but dont work yourself
up about anything , just keep yourself and the baby in good health.
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replied May 24th, 2012
hey yea i no i cant make him do anyting , thats not what iwas meaning , but hes just so confusing right now... but thanks for that
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replied May 29th, 2012
im in the same boat my ex keeps changing his mind about being here for our son,and im 38 weeks and 3 days pregnant already and he still hasnt made up his mind, but i think of it like this hes the one who will be missing out not you. as much as we want the fathers to b there for our babys it sometimes wont happen but right now your little girl needs you more and eventually he will come around especially when shes born he will open up his eyes and man up.

congrats on your lil girl(:
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replied May 29th, 2012
So it's great to note you have the support of your family as well as his. He is young and might be scared to be facing father-hood right now. Maybe you could get an older male he trusts (preferably a man who is a father) to talk to him and see how is feeling about the situation. It must be a lil scary for you too not knowing exactly what to expect.

Don't worry too much about anything right now. Focus on your own well-being and try to be prepared for whatever his ultimate decision might be. Hopefully he will come around after the baby is born. Congrats on the lil girl!
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replied May 29th, 2012
My boyfriend is 393 miles away. We're both 17. He was forced to move to Sac. And i had even less support from his family. I live in a homeless youth shelter with my 7 month old baby boy. I was considering abortion or adoption but now im glad to have my little guy with me even thou things are hard. My BF is supportive and he freaked out when he found out but now he's okay with it Smile
Hopefully things work out for you I wish you the best! Congrats on your baby girl
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replied June 2nd, 2012
thanks so much every1
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