You need to sit down and talk to him about your situation. What do you two plan on doing? Chances are, he is just as afraid and confused as you are.

Give him a little time, he is probably shocked about this whole thing right now too.
He probably in his mind, wanted to get married before having a child or getting the woman that he is with pregnant. So i bet he just needs alittle time to adjust to things right now.
Maybe try talking to him, explaining that you dont want to lose him, and if there is anything that he wants to talk about. Let him know that this is hard on you as well as hard on him too.

Do your parents know?
Are you taking your vitamins now? materna..folic acid..
have you seen a doctor yet?

thanks I really think that might be it, because hes still like making plans with me and telling me he loves me and everything. Perhaps, it is because we havent been together long... 2 months only. and Yes my parents know, i think they told the whole world because like everyone knows im pregnant. And no im not taking any vitamins yet, i dont have health insurance yet so im planning on seeing a doctor at a clinic out here until my paperwork goes thru. i think my bf is going to take me next friday, we only found out on monday and im only about 6 weeks along. I just dont want to think about losing him right now, so thank you for your tips. <3

You can go to Walmart and buy the prenatal vitamins they have there. You need to start taking them, the sooner the better.

Your parents don't have insurance on you?

they do but it doesnt cover the baby, i know its weird but its thru my dads work. My prenatal care isnt covered until i get this stuff called healthy start insurance and it takesz 4-6 weeks to get. <3

Your dad can check and see if it covers you.

do you need a perscription to get maternaand folic acid in the U.S.??
i just walked up to the pharmacy counter and said i need the materna vitamin please, and they handed it to me no perscription or anything.
it costs about..15$ or a little more maybe.
you gotta take care of that baby hun, it doesnt sound like your bf is going to leave you, just in a little shock

Materna is just a brand name. There are TONS of different brands of prenatal vitamins. You don't need to take folic acid in addition to your prenatal vitamins. Prenatal vitamins already have folic acid in them. And, if you go to walmart, they are much cheaper than $15, more like $5.

thanks for the advice, my dad did call and i am not coverd on his insurance. and tonight was better for me and the boy. i still dont know all thats going on with him, but we were talking and laughing and he told me he loved me a couple of times. It made my day a lot better. Im hoping when he gets to hear the heartbeat it will help a little. and thanks for the vitamin advice, i will definately look into getting some vitamins. I know i have to take care of this baby. i just hjave a lot on my plate right now and its hard to find people to share that with that actually get it or can help. thank you for the help so far. <3

i was just wondering if she would take it, because even though it has folic acid in materna, its not a bad idea to take extra.
I am doing that, and some other women i know have done that.
Also my doctor asked if i was taking both.

So was just wondering if she would consider taking both too..

It sounds like its still good with you, he's probably still adjusting.
I remember when my fiancee heard out baby's heart beat on Valentine's Day, he shed a few tears. He was really happy.

thanks for all the advice.

Same thing happened with my baby's daddy. He went from wanting to spend forever and a day with me, to barely remembering to call all weekend, though my bf was a lot younger then yours, but he left me at 8 weeks along, accusing me of all kinds of things. Though being older I'm sure your bf might just need time, but be sure to let him know, that while he may feel he deserves time to run off and think about it, you don't get that. Your pregnant, its always with you, you can't run off and think about it and do whatever.

I think( hope ) hes coming around a little. His attitude is back to normal and hes still telling me that he thinks im gorgeous and that he knows hes lucky to have me. He also tells me he loves me and hes in love with me. and then last night he dropped kind of a milestone, and told me that hes sure were going to have a beautiful baby and that he already loves it. Im hoping these are all good signs. what do you girls think?

Definitely, your lucky to have a guy who loves you enough to stick around and love your baby. I think its totally a good sign.

onestly hun, I have a few things to imput...

First of all, I know you love your boyfriend... but you should start focusing on the positiives! Focus on yourself and the child you are carrying, making plans, getting your pregnancy in order and your plans for th future vs. worrying whether your boyfriend is manning up.

Sit down with him and have a blunt face to face conversation about his past and current actions and the way he is making you feel. How he reacts to you bluntly telling him how you feel and what you would like him to do, will show you the type of person that he is.

Also you do not need insurance to purchase prenatals... they even sell them at walmart... People who arent even pregnant take them for different reasons so they are readily available.

If you having insurance is what is holding you back from going to the doctor, then apply for temporarly medical until you get insurance in order.

Goodluck

even if he did leave you, you could still do it. im 18 and am 33, almost 34 weeks, and my partner of 14 months left me on thursday, its hard and stressful, but you could do it. the main thing to focus on is that beautiful baby growing in you, and your health. worry about him last. If he did leave it would show you what kind of person he is, and it would be better to find out now than a few weeks before you were due.

well you all were right. He did leave me... but things have been looking up. The baby is healthy and im still almost 6months pregnant. Im getting so nervous about being a mom. I met a great guy who knows that Im pregnant and even took me to the ultrasound. My parents kicked me out and Im living with him but he has told me that hes not planning on leaving me and the baby so that is good news. It has been stressful because none of my friends know what im going thru but in the end its all been worth it and i cant wait till i get my december baby !

Its ok though, I'm in my 6th month now and doing just fine without the dad. You really don't need him at all. My biggest thing, was that I didn't want to do it alone, I always thought being a single parent would be so overwhelming and lonely. But so far its not so bad. I don't mind being single and pregnant. But its so awesome, you now have a better guy who wants to be there, I haven't found a guy like that yet, but I'm hopeful.