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15 and i want a baby but scared to tell my parents

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im 15 and i have wanted a baby for over a year now i have thought it all through and know this is what i want my boyfriend wants this as well we have a flat together and he has a full time job and i have a part time one so we have most things sorted but the only thing im stuck with is im scared to tell my parents im trying to get pregnant or if i should just tell them when it actually happens and i am pregnant help!!!
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replied August 2nd, 2009
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What is wrong with waiting just a few years? Why do you want a baby right now?
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replied August 17th, 2013
its her life im 15 an want a baby if I want one an my parents do say yes I will have one
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replied September 9th, 2010
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im 14 and i wont a baby atleast when im 15 so i would just go for it if you think your ready thn do it xx danielle xx
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replied April 12th, 2011
did you get pregnant in the end? imbox me if you like:)
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replied April 12th, 2011
i'm confused.. your 15 and want a baby? you have your whole life to have kids...seriouslly youll wanna enjoy the rest of highschool and college! just try and wait.trust me im 17 and im afraid i may be...its not a fun feeling
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replied April 12th, 2011
i'm confused.. your 15 and want a baby? you have your whole life to have kids...seriouslly youll wanna enjoy the rest of highschool and college! just try and wait.trust me im 17 and im afraid i may be...its not a fun feeling
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replied May 16th, 2011
i can relate to you i am also 15nd want1but im scared2tell mi parents nd also mi bf wants2wait but if while havin sex it accidently happens he said he will love the bby nd me nd take care of use idk wat to do either
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replied May 17th, 2011
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cktaterbug wrote:
also mi bf wants2wait br

Then respect that.

You are 15. What can you offer a child? Do you own a home? Do you have the financial capability of giving a child a decent life? Do you have your own career?

Wait. Wanting a baby isn't enough reason to have one.
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replied November 29th, 2011
I am in a similar situation. I mean the only thing me and my boyfriend of nearlly 2 years don't have is a flat or our own, a car etc and i'm scared to tell my parents i mean my mum, dad, his mum, etc basically everyone know we want kids but they don't know we want to have them. We have been thinking about it for like a year and half + and i know i am mature enough because i am always involved with children under the age of 5 years family members, friends babies, work experience. All i need is finace but i have a job and from january i will have two my boyfriend has one working at wear 'm' out and although he earns less than me an hour he earns more than me in a day and if we save we can most definitely get everything we need and we have a huge family if we put all sides together. I don't know what to doo.. But i know we definately want a baby together. xx
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replied December 6th, 2011
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I understand wanting a baby.. its exciting life changing experience I wouldnt change for the world. I have two children myself -- I had them young and the mean the world to me... That being said I would never be able to forgive myself if ihad brought them into the world and not been able to give them what they needed... It breaks my heart when I see children suffering because their parents cant afford a decent place to live, because they cant afford to get them decent cloths or because they never see their mom/dad because they are stuck working dead end jobs etc.... I would never tell anyone not to have a baby but as a previous poster mentioned.... what do you have to offer a baby... do you have a house... a car... money for their cloths, food , and education? Are you educated yourself... what kind of role model would you be for daughter or your son? whould you want them to make the same descions when they are in HS? Just dont let having a baby be a decsion that you take lightly or make impulsively... its one thing to mess up your own life but a whole nother thing to do it to your child.
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replied November 30th, 2011
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As others have said, wait. You are only 15 and there is plenty of time for you and your boyfriend to think about having a child together.

Are you prepared to wake up every few hours for feedings, changings, or just because you have a fussy baby? Do you really want to think about losing most of your friends? They say they'll be there but when the time comes most of them will turn their backs.

Have you got the house, car, insureance also? What happens if you have a child with mental or physical disabilities would you be able to cope with that? It's not all fun and games. And babies are expensive even if you think you can get all the baby stuff you'll need you still need to provide for that child until they are at least 18 and pay for them to go to college.

Having a baby will put a huge strain on your relationship with your partner. If you want to go out with your boyfriend you have to arrange a baby sitter which isn't that cheap either. Everything will revolve around the baby.

I think you should go to college and get a decent career so that you and your boyfriend can stand on your own two feet without having to rely too much on either set of parents for a place to live, use them to get to medical appointments, financial help etc.

Being only 15, you have plenty of time for kids your biological clock isn't running out yet. And have you considered the physical strain pregnancy will place on your bodies? It's hard for someone in their 20's, 30's or 40's let alone in their teens.

Wait and live life as a teen, you might not think so now but you will be glad you waited when you are older. My mum was a teen mum and I believe that she wishes she had waited even though she loves me and wouldn't change anything. She lost out on a lot of things as a teen and I think she's living that life now in her 40's because she missed it when she was younger.
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replied November 30th, 2011
i think you should wait...im 15 and i know i don't want a baby at any time because its hard enough with just school work and other things. Waiting is the right thing because if you think about it if you have a baby and your friends ask you 2 hang out what you going to do wher is the baby going to go? so its best if you just wait a while.
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replied December 1st, 2011
i kinda under stand what you are going through. my b/f and i wamted a baby really bad, however, we were 18. just out of high school, just becoming adults. i got pregnant and here i am with a beautiful 3 year old son! being a pregnant teen SUCKS!!! you get looks, talked about, all of your friends ditch you. you say that you are ready for it now, but when it actually happens, it is not as great as you think. fortunetly for us, we have family that really supported us. will your family be there for you? will his?i it is alot of strain, mentally and physically. and alot of hard work, especially on your relationship. if you and your b/f want a baby, then wait until you are at least considered an adult first. and if you still want a baby then, dont let anyone stop you. it was the best thing that ever happened to me!!
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replied March 19th, 2012
Im 14 and want a baby but I'm so scard to have sex.I don't know if I want to have sex with my boyfriend.If you want a baby in you think you can do it then go for it girl
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replied May 11th, 2013
you guys are thinking in to this, a baby isnt just all fun and games. did you ever think about what you will do when you want to go to college. or go to a party. or go out with friends. or how do you know you and your boyfriend will last that long. please think it out first before making such a huge decision that can change your lfe dramatically
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replied May 16th, 2012
Hi I'm 16 I have twins I aways wanted a baby then wen I was 15 I fell pregnant and was so scared even scareder when I was having twins it was great I don't regret not finishing school I wouldnt cange my babies for the world I have a job so dose my boyfriend. And if you want a baby you have to think exactly how your going to do thing you have to have a plan. Hope you have a baby one day but make sure you and your boyfriend read book Internet see the things you need to do Smile
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replied November 13th, 2012
15 and want a baby
im 15 and ive been with my boyfriend for about a year,we both want a baby,i know its stupid,but we really do his mum had him when she was just turned 16.
i cry all the time just thinking about it,ive looked after kids and my brother since like 11 or maybe abit younger.
if i ever got pregnant my mum and dad would make me have a abortion,it really upsets me that i know i have to wait but its making me depressed where i wish everyday i could have a baby and a life away from pregnants just look after myself and the baby and boyfriend.yes i know everything that comes with a baby.
i just feel so depressed and nothing seems to be helping me.
someone please help.
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replied May 11th, 2013
You need to fully think about this, because you want to have a baby at this point but then again when you want to go out to a party or want to go to college who is going to be there to take the baby. no one becaue its yours and you have to take care of it, its not like the baby is a doll you cant just throw it away or return it if you dont want it anymore. so i think you should defiantly wait. and also youre going to need help from your parents because its not like your partime job or his if he sticks around for long will be able to support you and the baby and all the things the baby will need. so if you are serious about having a baby even though i dont suggest you should talk about it with your parents first
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replied August 17th, 2013
if u want a baby I think u should go for it I want a baby an so does my boyfriend its up to u if u want to im still trying to find out how to tel my parents that I want a baby so u an your boyfriend think an talk about it first
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