just after i turned 17 (i'm 17 and a half now...) i had my first sexual encounter.. i was kissing a girl and was hard as hell as far as i remember.. and then she went to give me head and i went floppy.. She said 'this has never happened to me..' i didn't know what to say or do so we just called it quits and forgot it. i then started to think it had to do with the alcohol.. so with the same girl we went to have sex and once again i was V. drunk so i can hardly remember it but i do remember not being hard enough for penetration... i then fell out with this girl and didn't speak again..
ever since i have been scared about it.. and now i'm with a girl who i love A LOT.. he has given me head a few times.. iv cum all 3 times. my erection felt kinda weak. like it was standing at a 90 degree angle from my legs.. but if i tense i can get it to the normal 110-120 (ish) degree angle and hard as hell... but that only comes when i tense so obviously i cant do that the whole time. we have had a chat about it and i don't want to have sex before i get this problem fixed..
i remember being really hard at around 15 maybe 16 whilst masturbating (like when i tense to a 110-120 degree angle now) but that has totally gone now.. when i masturbate it have a the same old 90 degree angle but i still cum as per usual.. but if i stop stroking for like 10 seconds i can see and feel it going down slowly..
i dont think it is ED but it is scaring me that it might be.. which also makes me think it might just be psychological?? im not nervous about sex in the slightest, i'm dying for it, i'm not conscious about my penis size or anything. my girlfriend actually loves its size (around 6 and half inches at the 90 degree state) - i know a lot of erectile problems are psychologically based but i don't see why it would be if i'm not scared or anxious about it.. might it be that i am sub consciously thinking about if i can get hard or not?? im sure that would go with time if so..
i hear using viagra can help get rid of this kind of thing.. i really dont want to rely on V to get hard every time i want sex which is a big concern of mine.. should i go ahead and see what its like with the V and if not - go see a doc??
any advice would be appreciated.. whether it be past experience and solutions or similar problems and thoughts.
Sounds like you are preassuming you are going to have a problem before you actually do based on your first experience with the first girl, having said that,please go have a urologist do an examine and run some tests just in case.
Hi there Faded rose, I see what you mean.. Iv been wondering recently if I'm just gettig a bit paranoid.. Maybe I think that my erection should be as hard as a pole and NOTHING else.. But surely when she is giving me head I should be hard throughout?? The first time I went floppy mid way and we gave up.. She tried it again with a more stimulating approach which seemed to work fine and I was able to cum in 8-10 mins (although I could have easily held it in and kept it going)
maybe Viagra will show me what a full erection is meant to be like then?? I mean I get hard.. And I think that it would be great once inside but I have got my gf concerned now.. I really what good first sex with her so Im not sure I want to test it out and end up going floppy half way through or something..
Yeah I will book with the urologist asap.. What do the tests include??
You're obsessing a bit to much about your erection. You will have firmer erections when you're a young teenager and poisoned with obscene amounts of testosterone. Now that you're becoming an adult your body has changed, perfectly natural, perfectly normal. If you are achieving erection and sustaining it to ejaculation you're not suffering from ED. Worry about being in the moment with your girlfriend, worry about protection, don't worry that there's something wrong with you because you lost your erection while drunk.
May be there's other problems behind this . Do you watch a lot of porn ? And anyway , stop concentratind on the "penetration" , why don'd you try 69 , or mutual masturbation . ANd yes Yoga will definitely help ...
your going through what a hell of alot of guys go through at your age, your just one of the few who admits it.. its just first time jitters, your mind in a way is stronger than your penis.. i know people who have been convinced for years they cant get an erection and they didnt. turns out it was all in there head they didnt have ED.. i know easier said then done, but dont worry as much. dont read too much about ED, dont masturbate too often, dont just think about 'sex' with her, just enjoy everything and youll be fine mate