if you don't want to do it than don't. naturally only the vagina is for sex, but if you decide to do it than use some extra lubricant and condom because if you don't it would be very paintful as there is no natural secrets in the anal. also very often girls bleed so don't panic, it's nothing serious

ok ok ok this is how i was and i expected excrusiating pain!!! it is not bad at all use a lot of lube and he has to be gentle if its ur 1st time lets say extra gentle depending on his size! and also once he has inserted it he has to hold da base of his penis and make sure u tell him not to go crazy and just hump u! ur anal is not a vigina! tell him dat and please use lube or else it cud really hurt.

I was worried about it too. Use lube and lots of it! Make sure it's just a plain lube though nothing fancy (i found out the hard way when i didnt read the pack properly and it was mint, ouch). Take it slow and relax, if you're tense then it will hurt. The first time is uncomfortable i'm not going to lie but it wasn't painful at all

I was agianst it for forever until a boyfriend talked me into it... it can be good and bad but when its good its great!

You just have to be relaxed and into it, if youre stressed or tense its not gunna be fun or fulfilling..

I agree only do it if YOU WANT TO. But its very pleasurable and gives me a different type of orgasm. Its hard to explain.

But it will not hurt of you do it right. It may uncomfortable until you get the hang of it, but it shouldnt hurt. The 1st step is: you have to want it. If you dont then your body will be tense and it will hurt.

I recommend getting familiar with fingers first. let him insert one or two fingers and see how that feels. Use lots of lube. Pay attention to your own body and how it responds. The natural reaction is to tense up, well try to focus on loosening up...kinda when you are going #2. (go to the bathroom before)

This allows you to relax your muscles at will. Once you are comfortable with that try inserting his penis. I recommend inserting his head 1st. Get used to that. If its uncomfortable or hurts then stop and try again when you are ready. It can take some time to get your body used to something going in instead of out. But practice these moves and you can have a blast.

But do not go from anal sex to vaginal sex. You do not want any bacteria from your anus going into your vagina or urethra. And the condom idea is great. It allows easier friction the 1st couple of times.

can u get an STD from anal sex? and what are some symptoms?

I have very perverted friends, friends who are addicted to sex, friends who have kids, etc...I hang out with a variety of people to be honest.

Anyways, the things I have heard from my friends (which most of them are couples) are as follows.

For the first time:

1) Go Number 2 if you are the girl
2) Get lube condoms
3) Water based lube (NO WARMING STUFF!!!! I have heard it burns like the dickens, and it will make your first time uncomfortable if you do)
4) I have heard "Doggy style" works the best. Depending on the height of the guy, the best bet is to put yourself (if you are the girl) on the end of the bed, and let the guy stand.
5) Relax
6) Make sure to move slow. Let the guy control it, and make sure you tell him (if you are the girl) to move slow.

I keep hearing if I ever wanted to to take is slow...I have lots of friends who push me to have sex with my fiance. I get lots and lots of advice. My fiance and I have been together for 4.5 years and have never had sex (amazing I know) but we both get plenty of sex advice we have not used or have no use for...What I said has been repeated by many friends...

wow..someones gonna have a nice honeymoon to look forward to haha 4.5 years and no sex..thats pretty amazing, props to you guys

I disagree with the water base lube. It bad with anal. I prefer silicone lube for my girl. It's the best for anal. It works better. Less friction with that kind of lube. Use as much as it takes.
And you shouldn't do it until you remove the bad image in your head that it will hurt. If you keep thinking that then your body will tense up and yeah it will hurt.
I say you should be on top for the first time. That way you're in control.

I was not for it at all! but i fell into it. I think its different for every1. 2 b honest with u it hurts soooo bad at 1st. definately lube up real good! after awhile it does start 2 feel good. once my guy was doin it way 2 hard and i felt like i was gona go2 the bathroom!! how embarrassing! just b careful and tell him 2 take it easy lol