Okay, so I got pregnant while in an abusive relationship when I was younger. He forced me to get an abortion. Everything went as "normal" as to be expected. But since then I've had 4 miscarriages. My first question, did the abortion have anything to do with this?
My second question, is there any way for doctors to know if you've been pregnant previously? Or to know that you've had an abortion? I see a very religious doctor right now, and he's amazing so I don't want to give him up, but I'm so embarrassed to admit to him that I had an abortion or even that I'd been pregnant and miscarried.
I've been seeing him for 6-7 years and have always denied the fact. But is there any way for him or any other doctor to find out?
I don't think you should be so hard on yourself. There are a lot of reasons people get abortions and I don't think you should fault yourself. All of the studies show future pregnancy and fertility is not affected by abortions... even though in your situation, I am sure you feel like its a punishment for having an abortion. I'm a religious person and I don't think God punishes you with 4 miscarriages just because you have an abortion. I also don't think you should have to feel guilty for admitting to a doctor you have had an abotin or miscarriage. Even if you don't want to share with him you got an abortion, you have to share that you have had 4 miscarriages. And it might be time to see a fertility specialist. You never know... this could be happening for other factors... his sperm, genetic profile from the both of you... Don't let yourself feel so guilty and that its all on you.