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I am concerned if I am the father of my girlfriends baby. We lived together until nov 30th and were sexual active during that time. She moved out nov 30th and had, so she says protected sex with a friend on dec 3 or 4th. She also slept with him new years eve but was so drunk doesnt remember if it was safe or not. We also had unprotected sex around the 14th or 15th of dec. Her last normal period started nov 4th. she did not have a normal period in dec. she told me around the 20th that she was late so she took 2 at home tests both neg. Then around the 24th or so had a light period. As of jan 28th via vaginal ultrasound she is 7 weeks give or take a few days. So according to the charts baby would have been conceived between the 20th to the 31st of dec. Is this really a 50/50 thing? The friend says he used a condom new years but she cant say as to she was to drunk. the whole thing has me scared, pissed, happy, and everything else in between. please offer any advise, opinions you can.
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replied February 11th, 2010
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if I have my math right she was ferital between the 14 and 18 of dec. so if it is right u are the father. i dont know were u got the math at but go back to the last day of her last monthly and go from there. or go to parents.com. there will help u do the math.

I hope that helps
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replied February 14th, 2010
her last normal period was nov. 4th she didnt have one in dec other then a light one around xmas time so we cant go off of that. If i remember right she had a period early about the last week of nov before she moved out. she also changed birth control in november and was taking lexapro for depression. i am concerned that it could be a new years mistake other then from the time she was with me but it points more towards being mine. I dont know its all very confusing.
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replied February 14th, 2010
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I dont want to lead u in the wrong dirction but i look at the maney diffant ways and all point that it is urs
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replied February 14th, 2010
thats a good thing and what im hoping for but im still concerned ya know.
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replied February 14th, 2010
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Calculating ovulation is only so reliable. Espcially if her cycle in December was atypical. What we can tell you is that it's certainly possible that the baby is yours. You had unprotected sex close to the time she should have been ovulating. The way to determine if the child is yours is through a paternity test. She was wasn't in a relationship with you during the time she became pregnant, she was sexually active with someone else, it's perfectly reasonable for you to request proof of paternity.
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replied February 14th, 2010
I know that everything is a guessing game and nothing is exact I am more looking for opinions and thoughts. I love this girl and really want the baby to be mine. I had a gut feeling at the time that this would happen and my gut tells me its mine but my head says look at the facts dummy there is a chance its not.
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replied February 14th, 2010
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If you find that you're looking for facts then you should find them. Get the paternaty test when she's able. If you find out the child isn't yours you can still choose to raise it with her if you want. If you find out the child is yours you'll have the piece of mind of knowing the paternity for sure. Either way you're making serious life decisions based on facts.
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replied February 22nd, 2010
So i did some reading on implantation bleeding and from what I read this happens 6-14 days after intercourse. We slept together on or around the 14th and she discribed her period around christmas as light and pinkish in color. This happened before then new years thing happened so that pretty much means it mine. Does this make sense to the rest of you or is it still wishfull thinking? Please let me know what you all think.
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replied March 23rd, 2011
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I am looking for some advice, my girlfriend of 4 months told me she was pregnant at the beginning of feb. We had agreed on a termination and the consultation was yesterday. At the consultation my girlfriend was told that she was actually 22 weeks along and too far along for the termination. She is confused as this puts the date of conception in mid October, she stopped seeing her previous boyfriend late September and we didn't start seeing each other until mid November and there was no sexual activity until late November early December and no intercourse until January. My queries are how accurate are the dates determined by an Ultrasound? Also my girlfriend does not eat very much, usually just one meal a day, could this affect the size of the foetus and throw of the scan date?
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replied March 23rd, 2011
the scans are only as accurate as the machine and the tech doing the scan. They say they can be off as much as 2 weeks either way. So if the tech said shes 22 weeks she could be 20-24. How much she eats has no bearing on the size of the fetus. Conception is normally 2 weeks after the sexual act and may even be longer as seamen can live in the vagina for up to a week or more. So if she slept with the other guy in sept and not with you till jan i would bet money and alot of it that its her ex's. I say that because if you count 3 weeks back from conception date it puts her still with him. A word of advise is if you choice to stick it out till the end DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING at the hospital. If you sign you are accepting responsibility for the baby. Do a paternity test to prove who the father is and go from there. Like I said though given what I went through Im almost 99.9% certain the baby isnt yours and any doc will tell you the same if you question them during the ultrasounds. Im sorry if im a lil harsh with my words but I went through the whole thing with my g/f only to find out my daughter is not mine. If I can be of anymore help please let me know.
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replied March 24th, 2011
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That was helpful thank you. She should be hearing from the midwife soon and I assume they'll arrange another scan to check everythings ok. I am planning to go with her to this and will ask the Doctor then.
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replied March 25th, 2011
Im glad i was able to help, good luck and let me know how it turns out.
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replied May 6th, 2011
Am i the Father.. Please advised ASAP
Am I the Father???

My girlfriend's last period started on 27 Dec 2010. We had sex on 02 Jan 2011. I was out of town for a month after that. When we went to Fetal medicine Doctor for an ultrasound on 17 Feb 11, she told us that the fetus is only 6 weeks maximum and was abt 6-7mm. After a week we had an ultrasound done again and the fetus grew normally for a 7 week baby.
Now i'm a bit worried whether it's my baby or not??
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replied May 9th, 2011
there is a good chance the baby is yours if the doc says she is 7 weeks its really 9. you have to add time for the sperm to reach the egg and for the egg to drop and attach to the wall of the uterus. they start counting after it attaches. its messed up and confusing but it is what it is. her last period may have been implantation bleeding. if i counted right she became pregnant late december id guess around the 23rd. also remember the doc can be 1-2 weeks off depending on how good their equipment is and if they clicked the right spots on the fetus during measurement. if you still have concerns wait it out and do a DNA test. a word of advice if you think the baby isnt yours do NOT sign anything at the hospital. If you do you are claiming the baby as your own and if it is not yours you will have a fight to get out of paying child support. You can always add yourself to the birth cert. later once fatherhood is proven. If i can be of anymore help let me know.
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replied May 9th, 2011
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Headspin, NO, NO, NO, it is normally 5. Gestational age is fetal age + 2 weeks. The doctors normally gives gestational age, not fetal age.

That is why a woman is 40 weeks pregnant when she is due, even though the baby is only 38 weeks old.

So if the doctor said the age is 7 weeks, the baby was conceived 5 weeks earlier from sex between about 5 days before that date to a day after.
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