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Q: am i just being emotional??
asked by: trijos21 on May 20th, 2008
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Sorry to rant like this but i need to know if im being to emotional or out of line. So Dh has been on my back for about a week. Im only working now 2 or 3 days a week b/c ive been sick. Well used to even when i worked full time i would come home and clean house spottless. Well dh is still used to that and is furious that the house doesnt stay clean like it used to. I still clean...i just get sooooo tired and feel sick that i will not do a whole lot in one day and if im feeling better the next day i do it then. Well he throws it in my face that all i do is sleep and im always sick. (i have no idea what his prob is b/c he NEVER has acted like this before). Well when we went to dr .today he asked her about me being so tired and sick and she said he needs to help me out more and that i will probly be this way for another couple weeks and that he needs to understand. Today when i got home i did the dishes and he started complaining about the way i was washing something, so i yelled back at him that if he wants it done his way he can do the damn dishes! He told me hes sick of my attitude and ive been a B**** all week. (That really hurt my feelings, honestly ive been a little snappy, but i try really hard not to be). Im sooo tired of him telling me all i do is sleep and thats it. I still do the same stuff i did before, just not everyday. Do you girls think im just being to emotional?? Sorry for the book, i couldnt sleep and hoping for some input! Thank you!
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Mabel
replied on May 20th, 2008
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Pregnancy, impending parenthood, is such a drastic change in a relationship. Your husband isn't first and only anymore and this can cause some weird emotions. You both might be a little emotional. His life is turning upside down too - although not in the same way yours is. Make sure he knows he is important.

How far along are you now? Did you get your iron levels checked at the doctors? You may want to ask about that, low iron can cause you to be very tired and run down. The second trimester is the golden time of pregnancy, when you'll feel more full of energy and be less tired.

Be sure to eat right. Take your vitamins. Take short naps and try to continue your life as normally as you can. I know its hard when you don't feel like yourself - but this pregnancy stuff only lasts a short time. Wink

Good luck.
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Amethyst_Butterfly
replied on May 20th, 2008
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Wow, you sound like me. Smile I don't think there is much, he just needs to learn to be more sympathetic
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trijos21
replied on May 20th, 2008
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Thanks! Im 10 wks 2 days. No i havent asked about iron...i didnt think about that. When we went today (yesterday now), the dr. said its normal the way im feeling and i should be fine in couple weeks. She didnt suggest any kind of testing. I try to eat healthy, i eat a lot of fruits and veggies. And as far as the pregnancy goes, it was planned. We are both excited. I constantly ask him if we can do things...go out or whatever since this past week has not been great, and all he does is play his stupid xbox. Hes been glued to it for about a month now! I dont mind that, but i dont want him yelling at me when hes not exactly doing much. What exactly does the iron do??
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trijos21
replied on May 20th, 2008
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lol...thanks amythest!! I know ppl say pregnant women are weird emotionally so thats what was bothering me soo much. I just didnt know if i was thinking that since im married to him. Thanks!
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_tanya_
replied on May 21st, 2008
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While I think it's normal for him to be a bit emotional about all of this I think he's going about it the wrong way (when it comes to discussing it with you) and being pretty insensitive.

My work has been great about my pregnancy (even when I took a couple days off when I w as in the hospital) so they know if im running to the bathroom during work hours that its because im getting sick and not because I don't want to work. Would your work be this accomodating too? I know today alone I went to throw up at least 6 times in under 3 hours!

Other then that just do your best, thats all he can ask for. Maybe sit down with him and tell him how your feeling and that you definitely want to keep the house clean and all that but that your feeling extremely ill and don't have the energy to do it. Maybe he could help you out more too.

Don't worry about feeling overly emotional haha Sometimes I think i'm going absolutely crazy. I go from super b*tchy, to happy, to crying all within an hour. I feel like such a drag sometimes because he always wants me to go out with him and I just don't feel well enough to do it.

Hang in there! In week 10 the placenta takes over the majority of the hormone production so your morning sickness and mood swings should start to calm down a bit Smile (I'm in week 10 now and still waiting for this to kick in though haha. And sorry about the book I just wrote but I also can't sleep right now!)
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krystineM
replied on May 21st, 2008
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try sitting down with him and talk things out calmly.
explain that your sleeping "all the time" because your exausted, your sick "all the time" because its morning sickness and will last another couple of weeks.
which is all due to the pregnancy.
let him know you do the things you used to do before, just at a slower pace, but it all still gets done.
and he has to understand that maybe once in a while you need an extra hand to get things done a little faster.
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Mabel
replied on May 21st, 2008
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Your body is building it's blood volume to support your pregnancy. That is why you may hear your heart beat in your ears and your gums may bleed some when you floss or brush your teeth. Building up your blood supply takes IRON. Iron is needed for red blood cells.
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trijos21
replied on May 21st, 2008
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Thanks soooo much girls!
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Xalleah08
replied on June 1st, 2008
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You're right, if he want's it done his way, he should do the dishes! And he should stop complaining about you not getting all the housework done in a day. he needs to get used to there being a bit of a mess because kids are messy and the house is not goign to get cleaned spotless with kids around either. Tell him that your energy is goign towards making this kid and that you stressing out too much is bad for the baby abd that he needs to lay off a lot! You're not superwoman and he can't expect you to be. hang in there!
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