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Q: Am I dealing with this the wrong way?
asked by: HypoKira on June 29th, 2009
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Am I dealing the wrong way?

I am 15
I don't like being 15- I don't want to grow up- which is why everyone thinks I am dealing with my problems the wrong way. I am like a normal teen, I have issues that when I look back on them when I'm older, I will think I was stupid- but at the moment they are my reality.

I love my best friend, and he likes me as well...the only problem is I am already dating and I don't have the courage to end it because he has been wanting to kill himself for the last 3 weeks, and the only thing stopping him is me.

I try to hide my feelings, but the only person who doesn't see them is my bf. My friends all think hiding the feelings and not telling him the truth is the wrong thing to do, I know it is, I just don't have the courage to tell him that my love isn't the same any more. My friends all say there is someone else in his life that is stopping him from killing himself- I know there are others that like him as well, and he knows there are others, he just wont let them try to make him happy.

Can someone tell me if I am dealing with this the wrong way. If I am, please tell me what I should do.
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susan101
replied on June 29th, 2009
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I am the same way, but i always hear that keeping things bottled up inside is not a good thing. I think you should talk to this person about this a bit more. i can't really answer ur question i myself is only 14.
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rightside
replied on June 29th, 2009
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I don't know one teenager who likes their life. None of us did when we were that age. There are alot of changes at that time of life, hurts, frustrations, you name it. The best advice I can give you is to never let a man control you with manipulation, sex, or any other way. Your boyfriend telling you he will kill himself is his way of holding you. If you no longer have feelings for him, then you need to tell him. and move on. Tell him that you will not be made to feel guilty for his threats. If he persists, he needs to see someone, because he is mentally unstable. It's not your problem to be his everything. Give it to him gently, but straight, and MEAN IT. You can't keep giving mixed signals by coming and going. Make the decision and stick to it. If he bothers you for awhile, ignore him. This kind of relationship scares me for kids because there are alot of unstable ones out there, and can erupt in violence. So make the cut honey, try to be gentle but firm. Teen years are pretty easy to get through in one piece IF you make the right decisions. And you will be glad you did, because you don't stay a teenager for long, and once you are an adult, the sins of the past can come back and haunt you.
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