I am 23 years old and in every relationship -- my guy says I am "too focused on sex." I want to scream and call them cold and frigid! I would like to have sex once a day with my partner -- perhaps more if I'm really feeling passionate. Isn't this how most people think?? Am I realy that into sex? I guess I just don't understand how in the hell my partners can reject me and shut off completely from sex. Isn't it important and natural? I feel that there is nothing wrong with me.
Does anyone else feel this way? Don't people want to have sex everyday with their significant other?
I am in the exact same situation! I am almost twenty and I only had one partner so far, but he used to call me a sex addict because I wanted it all the time. The reason why he didnt want that much sex (as I figured out later) is because he was tired. He was working more than I did, and because I was not as experienced with sex as he was, he had to do most of the satisfying. I loved the sex, but I did not know how to make him feel good how he made me feel good, so it was only him satisfying me all the time. He was having sex to make me feel good - and people get tired of always satisfying others - everybody wants something back, eventually. When I learned how to satisfy him, by constantly asking him what he likes, he fell inlove with me all over again. Now we have amazing sex, as often as time allows us to have it. He gets pleasure and that way wants to give me pleasure back, and the other way around.
Hi there. Thanks for your posting. Getting the balance right is the secret of every relationship. Having sex is a wonderful thing but if your guy is tired, or he feels that you are only taking from him and not giving anything back, and he is not communicating this to you, calling you a sex addict might be a way of him trying to set boundaries for himself because he struggles to say 'no' which is also really important for him if he does not want to have sex as often as you do. If a relationship is only about sex, then it will not last, and it is important you are both clear about this, and also know what the other persons needs are, so you can establish good intimacy with each other, sex and intimact are two different thngs. Once this is done, it will make the relationship more balanced, loving and wholesome, but you will need to expect 'no' to sex, and understand that it is the sex he is rejecting and not you as a person. Good luck, and learn to talk to each other, and do fun things together, this will help you to get coser to each other...
you may have a strong sex drive while your boyfriend has a low sex drive. if you love him, you have to come to a comparison.
with my ex i had the same problem, but at the end of the relationship he wanted to have sex more and i didnt.