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Hi...

I always alone for mostly many times.
I have no friend that could share with me.
I got some but they're really different from me, i don't really like what they do and habit.
Where ever i'm, i always alone, even in school.
I don't like this situation, i want have some friends dan fun.
Please help me, i'm too shy to making friend.


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replied January 5th, 2010
Depression Answer A8928
Hello.

If you know you are shy, make efforts and speak to people. There are people around you who would like to be your friends. You just have to give your time and attention to them and you will get the same from them. This is the rule in relationships. Before you can expect someone to be your friend, you have to initiate and talk to them.

One of the reasons you are shy could be that you are afraid of rejection. You might be feeling "what if that person doesn't like me?" or "it will be too embarrassing if I talk to them and they don't like me"....

Find out if you have similar thoughts. It is essential that you modify these thoughts and think something like this "it's ok if they don’t like me, but I know I am good." .. "it is possible that I do not have friends as I don't talk to people much".

Start loving yourself unconditionally. Do not put conditions to your self-worth. What it means is that ... you are not good or bad if people like you or don't like you. So your self-worth and self-esteem should not depend upon people's opinions. Once you can be comfortable with this thinking, you will be more comfortable talking to new people and make new friends.

The world is full of good people. You just need to open yourself up for them!

Warm Regards

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