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Q: 24 , alone, pregnant and depressed
asked by: Jenaiko01 on July 13th, 2009
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The father of my child left me for someone else. When we were together he told me that he was seperated and on his way to getting a divorce from him wife. I believed him and felt funny about dating someone who was in the divorce stage but they were no longer loving together and I must say I fell hard for him. They have two daughters together right now. While we were together sometimes we would hit rough patches where he would distance himself from me. Then there would be times when it would be all about me. He would call me many upon many times during the day telling me he missed me, it was wierd. When he found out I was pregnant he didn't say much, especailly when he found out it was a boy. He's more of a daughter kind of father.
I found that he started distancing himself recently. The only thing he ever wanted to do was have sex with me, which caused me to lose my self respect. So I decided to look in his phone and found out he was still talking to his wife (who I thought was his soon to be ex-wife) through text and phone calls saying that they love each other. When I comfronted him about it he said " how do you know I told her I loved her back." Then talked about how he couldnt afford a divorce, I wish he would have said that in the beginning instead of dragging me along and using me. He played me so bad. Now he's back with his wife, which I guess many of you would think is great. I'm just so sad.He lied to me. I feel worthless, unworthy, I feel like dying. I really loved him. I cant stop crying, I cant eat. I just wondered what did I do wrong? What should I do? I'm so depressed.
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breck08
replied on July 14th, 2009
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Have you had your son yet? Does she know about you and your child together? I felt no joy from reading your post on him returning to his wife. First, you are not worthless! You made a mistake getting involved with a married man and like most mistress' you fell in love with the side of him he allowed you to see. Second, stop the sex period! You do not want to be the one he escapes from his wife to. I am eager to her back from you.
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ServiceU
replied on July 14th, 2009
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i m sorry that you are hurt, and i understand how you feel.
when you got together with your b/f, he got out of a relationship with his wife, usually guys want sex and not jump back into another relationship with another person. it is possible that he just needed some space away from his wife for awhile.

and being with a guy who has kids, you have to know that they will always have contact with each other.
i m a single mother, and my son's father dumped me 13 years ago.
you have to eat, you have to take care of yourself, for your baby. you probably cant see it right now, but everything is going to be okay, even if your ex isnt in your life. you can make it, and you will be fine.
forget about him and concentrate on that baby.
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LegalGal
replied on July 19th, 2009
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Wow. I am basically in the same situation. I have been staying with my bf, who left his wife four months ago. He assured me that it was over when I made comments about not wanting to be the 'other woman' or the 'home wrecker'. He, too, called me every day, several times a day to tell me how happy he was to have me in his life. Well, long story short, I found out I was pregnant, and although he seemed happy at first, he decided to dump me 2 weeks ago and has since returned to his wife (their divorce was supposed to be final on July 23rd!). I also feel so depressed. He justified his breaking up with me by saying that he can't leave his 3-year-old son. So, in essence, he is picking one child over another. What a great dad! Anyways, I guess in some way, it is good to know that I am not the only one. It is difficult for me to not blame myself and I miss him constantly. But I am trying to focus on the baby....
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janye123
replied on July 26th, 2009
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me and my ex had a place together under my name bt he paid the bills we were together off and on for 8 yrs since i was 13 he was my first love he went to jail about 5 years ago and i got pregnant and had a baby when he got out he wanted to be with me again and he was great with my daughter and always said i want a baby with u so i ended up getting pregnant i am now 34 wks along i didnt want to keep the baby i am only 21 and we argue to much plus i was living at my dads with no a.c so he got us a place and told me to quite my job then 2wks ago he didnt come up for 3 nights i called him back to back he said i was stressing him and driving him crazy that he was sleeping at his friends well come to find out he was sleeping by some girls house and has been talking to the girl for a while she told me they were just friends and then i called him at 1am and she picked up and told me they were watching a movie i packed all my stuff and took the rent money and left the house was also under his mom name so he has that girl over there i was in love with him now im back at my dads with no a.c why this girl has my man and house i am severly depressed i had to go on anti-depressants i lost 10 pounds in less then 2wks and get this the jerk want to be in the hospital room when the baby is born and he wants me to give him the baby so trust me you are not the only one who is in pain if i didnt have my daughter i may have died
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ServiceU
replied on July 26th, 2009
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You have to be strong Janye123,
most women have experience some kind of heartbreak. you did the right thing in moving out, this let's him know that your not going to put up with his crap.
and i am sorry that you had to go through that.
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hope12
replied on August 6th, 2009
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I am going through the same identical thing. I am 19 wks, dumped by my fiance (verbally professed only). He has 2 daughters with wife. Said he was in the process of divorce, but they have been separated for three years. she lives oversees now. anyway, he later stated that he didn't have enough for divorce, then he didn't have enough for engagement ring. he did the same thing your guy did, one minute he was all over me, the next he distanced himself. i spent alot of money on him and his daughters, i believed him when he said we were a family. he later confessed that he had another daughter (which he is not claiming). he put me out at one point (long story)anyway he said he wanted to have kids with me, but since i've been pregnant he hasn't done a thing. i wound up leaving the city i was in and a good job, almost miscarried. he was talking to wife innapropriately, and i found in his phone various women that he had been talking to, one who even answered him phone once. i feel for you,and obviously your guy and mine was cut from the same cloth. i hope they are literally the same person. anyway, i'm praying for him, and i hope the Lord fogives me as i did not intend for my child to be born into a broken home. he says we will be together, but he's not even taking my calls.
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