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Q: All Out There. From the Start...
asked by: Hailynn88 on August 24th, 2009
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I was born in White Water, California. When I was 2, we moved to Bakersfeild, Cali, and then Palm Springs. When I was 4 we moved to Bremerton, Washington. From the time I was born, my family was never religous. My Grandfather always encouraged us to read our Bibles, but me and my 3 older siblings were still too young to care. Who likes 'reading' anyway? (Well you* should, this is long...lol)

Two years before I was born - my dad was diagnosed with Melanoma. He was surfing and got a really bad sunburn, which lead to cancer. When I was 5 he'd been put in the hospital - he'd started reading the Bible then - and exactly a week after my 6th Birthday- he died.
I can't remember anything at all after that. Until I was 7.

My mother remarried, his name was Steve. She was lonely and He was a con artist - he stole the money that our dad put away for us for college. Half a year married to him and my mother decided we needed to leave. We went to stay with my Aunt Rocky( Our dads Sister), who still lived in White Water, Cali. Only a couple weeks there until we moved back to Bremerton, WA.

My mom got us a small, run-down dirty apartment. She had 3 jobs at the time - and it wasn't long before we were on wellfare. That's when she discovered she was pregnant, with our little sister Jordan. Her father wanted nothing to do with her.

I was 8 when my mom started dating Kevin. Lived in Canada, they met in a Bible Chat Room... He sounded alright from what she told us -but we hated every new guy from the instant we saw them. No one could replace our real dad.

He'd come down from Canada to visit a few times, and the last time they announced to us they were engaged. They got married a month later - and we all moved to Canada with him. Leaving all our family behind to start a new life? We hated it.

Jordan had been born before we moved - and we met all of Kevin's weird relatives - his sister, Kim (a hardcore rocker chick, obsessed with her two little Chihuahuas) and his divorced parents. His mom - who was also* obsessed with her dog. & His dad -who was remarried & infact a millionare - him and his wife lived in Florida.

It started out okay - my sisters and I were growing up. Getting used to the fact that we were pretty sure, Kevin, wasn't going anywhere. We all went to new schools...made new friends, and new neighbors...again. Then, my mom announces she's pregnant! Again? So, 9 months later - Rachel! Her and Jordan were bestfriends from the start.

We all called him 'Papa', because it was too strange to call him dad. As long as we didn't call him 'Kevin', he was fine with that. Despite him being my 2nd step dad - everyone knew that I was 'step-daddys little girl'.

He insisted we all start going to church with him and his friends, Tom & Sandy. He also worked with Tom - and they were both huge baptists. Some might call them 'Bible Thumpers'. My mom seemed okay with it, & so did my older sisters. I, ofcourse, being 8, didn't have a choice!

Things were good. We hardly had any problems and God was the center of our lives. Then we moved - again. The whole process started over & then we come home from school and found out we're moving, AGAIN!! This time - an hour away, to the country. Middle of nowhere. Then, to top it all off - They decide to Homeschool!

First, they move us to the middle of nowhere. Second, we switch churches so we don't know anybody. THIRD, No new school, so that means: No Friends. To a 13 year old girl- it was pure hell. I was bored out of my mind.

That's where this ends - and the next chapter of my stressfull, chaotic life begins... gosign
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kdlee
replied on August 25th, 2009
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Morning honey..Your life has had alot of changes that's for sure..I hope with the foundation of church that you are doing well in that respect..

Being pulled out of school for home schooling has advantages and disadvantages..Mostly it is not seeing another person or making new friends as easily..This is where you definetly needed after school things, like a part time job, skating, bowling, movies, hicking, biking etc..Even girlscouts of america..ANything to get you involved iwth others your own age..

Coming from a military life background I defiently understand about all your moves..Then you had so many parents in and out of your life..

You said the next chapter continues your chaotic life..I certainly will read it..PM if you want to talk..k
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Hailynn88
replied on August 25th, 2009
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Hey, thanks for the reply Smile

Being pulled out of school when I was 10 was really unplanned. My dad used to be an amazing artist - I'd watch him all the time. So the teachers would complain to my mom that I wouldn't pay attention to my school work and all I ever did was draw during classes.
So they took me out.

My parents have never been rich - between my sisters and I, it was always hand-me-down clothes and books. So when it came to putting me in sports, it was sort of out of the question. I did have a soccer season one year - but my social skills from homeshcooling had been shot. I was just too quiet to make friends.

I have had some part time jobs - I love to work. I did make some friends from that - but the wrong kind! Lead me down a really bad road.

I'm glad you understand all my moving around, alot of people dont get how that can be difficult on someone young. Especially the parents in and out of my life. That was the hardest.

After a while I just rather would've kept to myself. But that never helps either! I've learned talking about my problems is more usefull.
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kdlee
replied on August 25th, 2009
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Like i said honey for all your troubles you are a smart young lady..THe thing about moving you do have to be strong to some degree even though you may not feel like it..It takes alot to pick up and go..On kids it is devastating having to say good bye once again..After awhile the what difference does it make attitude kicks in..Talking is good and believe it or not I need it just as much..Thanks for letting me hear about your life and sharing it with me..k
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Hailynn88
replied on August 25th, 2009
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Thankyou.
Oh, the 'What difference does it make' attitude kicked in big time lol
I really needed someome to talk to and your awesome for that, so again, thankyou.
If you'd like to talk aswell, I'm a stay-at-home mom so I certaintly have nothing to do lol and I would love to talk some more. I needed someone to convince me that I wasn't crazy and there IS hope.
I also posted two more short stories.
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kdlee
replied on August 25th, 2009
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Ha ha..I can imagine your pain..I saw it often..I will be able to read more once leave work today..I also look forward to talking with you more..Please PM it will be easier for me to keel track of you..talk soon..k
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deteragram
replied on August 26th, 2009
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Hi, Hailynn88. Welcome to ehealth. Sounds like you have had a pretty hectic life for someone your age. I'm glad to see that you've already met and hit it off with someone here. kdlee is a sweetheart and a very talented writer, herself.
Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help you navigate the site. And once again, welcome to ehealth forum!
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breck08
replied on August 26th, 2009
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Hailynn88, welcome! I am here anytime you want to vent or need to just talk! I read your post and yes, you have had a hectic life as deteragram stated. I see you were greeted by kdlee. I consider her the Nanny of the site. Smile Deteragram another good one! I am confused because you stated you were a stay at home mom? I reread your post and I didn't see that chapter Smile
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wendyrs
replied on August 27th, 2009
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Hi Hailynn88, Welcome to the site. You've already met some wonderful people here, especially kdlee. Anyone is lucky to have her as a friend. I can understand the moving around thing being really tough. My dad worked for the airlines and my parents enjoyed picking up and moving every three years when I was growing up. I hated it so they always blamed it on me and said they moved beccause I was never happy. Well, I was just a kid and suffering from depression. It really hurt me when they said that and I know it wasn't the truth. They were the ones who were never happy and always looking for happiness somewhere else and they blamed it on me. Anyway, you will have to fill us in on the rest of your story.

Wendy
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youngsoul
replied on August 27th, 2009
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good luck. God never gives us anything we can't handle. U are strong.
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iloca2
replied on September 29th, 2009
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I just discovered, and joined this site today. When my children were young, we seemed to move around quite a bit, same area, different houses. (I would tend to get bored with a house) My son, then 14, was working as a bus boy at our local small town grocery store. A friend was buying groceries, having just returned from vacation. She and the checker were discussing different places they had been on vacations.
My friend, after she finished shopping, came to my house to tell me the following: She said my son spoke up and said "We don't go on vacations very much, but we move every year!" She said she and the checker were laughing and my son couldn't figure out what he'd said that was so funny.
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iloca2
replied on September 29th, 2009
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RE; previous post- Should read Box boy, not bus boy-sorry
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tigang69
replied on September 30th, 2009
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Hi to all i am Martin, great to be a part of this community.
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deteragram
replied on September 30th, 2009
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Hello iloca2 and tigang69/ Martin. Welcome to ehealth forum. I am a Moderator on this site- a fancy word for greeter and all around helper- so if either of you have any questions or need help getting around the site, please do not hesitate to contact me.
Once again, welcome to ehealth!
* iloca, if you ever notice an error that you would like to correct, you can always click on EDIT below your original post and make a correction. But make sure you add a note that an edit has been made to the post.
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henryturner
replied on October 9th, 2009
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Hi
I am new on this site. I want to share my view about Health insurance.
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deteragram
replied on October 9th, 2009
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Hello, henryturner. Welcome to ehealth forum!
We have a lively forum on debate and discussion where you can share your views. If you click on Health Forums at the top left, then scroll down, Debate Forums will be the last category. In that group of topics is General Debate. I believe there is a current discussion on health care and health care reform.
Let me give you a bit of advise for future reference, instead of adding your post to an ongoing discussion- as you did in your introduction- start your own thread. You will get more responses and you won't have to sort through the posts that are addressed to other people like Hailyn88 and iloca2.
Please let me know if there is anything I can do to assist you or improve your visit here.
Once again, welcome to ehealth forum!
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