maybe he cums too?

no he doesnt...its before he cums....n i asked him if it was me n he said no it turns me on wen u cum....so idk wat it is...

Maybe he doesn't know how to relax ? Are you his first maybe? Does he use blood pressure meds? Sorry trying to help

So.. did you ask why he gets soft then?

yea i asked him n he said he doesnt know...that it jus happens...n no im not his first...n he doesnt take any medications but thanx for tha help...i still dont know wat it might be...

Men feel a lot of pressure to please women and it can cause all sorts of weird penis issues. The anxieties they feel can cause erectile dysfunctions where they don't get hard, they come too fast, they can't come at all, etc.

Does he get off at all then? Or is it only you then you stop?

yea we finish...he stops then wen he gets hard again we finish...then he cums...

Is it making either of you feel bad? This doesn't sound like it is completely interfering with your sex life - just a little speed bump.

Not even a speed bump...you get twice the amount of sex. Awesome!

I'm having the same problem as your fiance. I can tell it frustrates my girlfriend like it does you, but I can tell you it's not that bad for me. I get to do it with her multiple times and she gets to climax multiple times or at least seems to. She wants me to cum and so do I but sometimes it just doesn't happen. It was the same with my (now ex) wife when she and I were together, though the times we did it were so far apart it didn't seem like as big a deal as it does to me now. But again it's only a big deal to me because it is to her. I feel great either way and know that it'll happen about 1/3 to 1/2 of the time but dang it still feels awesome every time we do it (5 times a week at age 46). Hopefully your guy feels the same and you both can relax about it and figure it'll improve with more exercise, better diet, and other good suggestions people are making.

If you are a girl, help him out...Keep him hard...Introduce some hot dirty talking into it...You know, I came baby, but make me do it again...I want you to **** me good...Do you want to suck my ***** again?..Or shall I suck on your ****?...Do all the things that are in the back of your mind to help a man be all that he can be....Believe me, what you get for this bold act of being a hot and horny woman, is worth it's weight in gold....Either that or I will roast in hell...

Now you all know why an older woman hides behind a "fake" name on a computer...My neighbor's would all stroke out...But, oh what a time in life that this man and I have had....May you all be as blessed....

Caroline