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Q: afraid of oral ?

asked by: melancholydaye on June 5th, 2008

Experienced User

Maybe this is weird I don't really know. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. I don't love him anymore, I don't call him at all. I don't hate him or anything, I just need "space" right now. Anyways, we had really good sex, we really left no stone unturned. Well, I was with someone else last night, someone new and different, and everytime he would try to go down on me, (he tried about 3 times) I [gently] pulled him by his hair back up to my face. I was really trying to avoid it. I dont have any problems down there, and i am squeaky clean, but for some reason i didn't want him to do that to me. for some reason i'm afraid guys going down on me. (my ex loved it) but.....why wont i let anyone else go down? this has happened before.

Replies(5)

Rosie H

replied on June 5th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

Maybe its an intamacy issue? You may have to feel close to someone before you share something so personal??? I did not give oral sex until I was with my hubby. And it took about a year and a half for me to get comfortable with him. I had to be with someone that I loved and that loved me.

Maybe you are the same way. Did you let your ex? Did you enjoy it? Are you scared of something....like odor or how you look?

Maddie34

replied on June 5th, 2008

Moderator

You say you recently broke up with a guy after two years?

Give yourself some time. If you're not comfortable now then don't worry about it, I would think its normal considering you were with one guy for so long. Just try and take things a little slower for now.

worrywart01

replied on June 5th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

agreed..maybe you're just not comfortable like that yet and feel like you're going too fast..slow things down for a while until you're ready

melancholydaye

replied on June 6th, 2008

Experienced User

agreed...i'm having problems with relationships right now, i do need to take it slower, the guy asked me out, i said no...not because i don't like him, just because i am enjoying single life, but i'm not sleeping around at all, i just enjoy the freedom to flirt or whatever if I wish, ....as for vaginal odor, that isn't an issue for me. and i love my vagina lol, but, theres something else there that just tells me to say no. yeah i let both of my exs do it...69 position was done a lot, and just really enjoyed it......i think it may have something to do with the guy that i'm with idk

Maddie34

replied on June 6th, 2008

Moderator

Well being single and without a guy for awhile sounds like the best thing for you. Or at least just taking things slow. If it doesn't feel right, then don't do it right now.

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