Hi, I'm a 21 year old woman and I would really really appreciate some advice about coping with HPV. For the past nine months I've been with the same partner, who I trusted very much. Last week I discovered I had contracted HPV from him. Unfortunately I also discovered he had been seeing numerous other women throughout our relationship, so he couldn't tell me exactly when he picked it up and gave it to me. I am thankful that I didn't get anything worse. But I just feel terrible. I feel so helpless and I'm really struggling. I am a strong person, and I think I have gotten over feeling like my life is over part (though I didn't think I would) but now I'm concerned about my future. I cant stop thinking "Who's going to want me now" and "I'm going to be alone forever". After telling my now ex my thoughts while crying over the phone, his advise was 'to not to tell anyone'. Of course I would never do that. The idea of putting someone else through this makes me feel awful, I will be honest with my future partners (but I am afraid of rejection). Obviously I am in no position to be sleeping with new people (and far from it) I need to sort my self out, get healthy and deal with my broken heart. But could someone tell me how they coped with it? How do you live with HPV? Is there a way to protect my future partners from contracting it from me? Obviously condoms, but will that really work? ANY advice will do. I've been leaning on my mum and friends for support, and they are great, but I'd like to hear from people who are going or have gone through the process of dealing with HPV.
Oh dear , my heart went out to you , bless you love .
I don't know much about this , but I'm sure someone on this forum will come along and help you , all i can do is give you some support and hope one day you find happiness and love and trust again .....
Hey kido, im 19(and male) and i just found out I got HPV as well. My heart goes out to from the way you contracted it, your boyfriend sounds like a dickhead. I also went though that depressive denial stage it sucks but im over it now.
I think what we have to keep in mind that HPV is actually very common. Its actually a little crazy that so many people have it. Its far from the end of the world and as far as STDs are concerned its one of the better ones in that there's no pain and its not life threatening.
I have to check with my doctor but a lot of sources have told me that your immune system eradicate the virus in 1-2 years i do hope that is the case anyway.
Hopefully you find this helpful, sorry i don't have more info about how to deal with it. I've only had this for 3 months and im not to sure who gave it to me either. I feel that dealing with it yourself first is important so that you sound positive and factual when telling your partner(s)
Thanks a lot for that, it's nice hearing from people going through the same thing. And yes, my ex boyfriend is most definatly a dickhead. The depression part has thankfully passed. I'm glad to hear you're staying positive! I'm trying to myself. I'm sure being sad about it isn't going to do my health any good. At least it wasn't anything worse!
I have HPV too, from a guy I trusted. It is heartbreaking and I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I'm feeling everything you're feeling. Sometimes I feel like never having sex again. I know there are guys out there who will love you anyway. You're still the same person you were before you got hpv. I just live day by day one at a time. And pray, keep your head up Hun. And remember you're not alone