Hey kido, im 19(and male) and i just found out I got HPV as well. My heart goes out to from the way you contracted it, your boyfriend sounds like a dickhead. I also went though that depressive denial stage it sucks but im over it now.
I think what we have to keep in mind that HPV is actually very common. Its actually a little crazy that so many people have it. Its far from the end of the world and as far as STDs are concerned its one of the better ones in that there's no pain and its not life threatening.
I have to check with my doctor but a lot of sources have told me that your immune system eradicate the virus in 1-2 years i do hope that is the case anyway.
Hopefully you find this helpful, sorry i don't have more info about how to deal with it. I've only had this for 3 months and im not to sure who gave it to me either. I feel that dealing with it yourself first is important so that you sound positive and factual when telling your partner(s)