I am a 36 yr old single adult, self employed, and mostly work from home. Alone. I live with family temporarily until I plan to purchase a home sometime later this year, but am afraid once I am living all alone again I will fall back into a depression. Lately I have no energy or motivation to do anything and think it's already here. I am about an hour and a half from friends where I was living before and plan to move back to that area, but have not been able to be very social since moving about a year ago.
I also suffer from social anxiety. I have a couple of friends who are great but in larger social settings I am a wall flower. I actually avoid going to parties, etc. in general because I stress out about what will happen. I always feel awkward and overly worry that people are judging me when they probably aren't. Since I started my freelance career I have gained a significant amount of weight and that is what I worry about the most.
These are things I have dealt with on and off my whole life but have only seen a therapist for once. That was about 8-10 years ago. I didn't feel like she was helping or listening to my true concerns so I stopped going.
I am motivated to make my business succeed but not much else in life and want to start focusing on my happiness too. I have good days but lately can barely get out of bed.
My main question is where do I start with finding a good dr. or therapist (or both) to deal with social anxiety and depression?