1. Make time for more than a quickie.
Most guys first learn to masturbate in secret and furtive ways. They do it quickly and need to figure out what to do with the evidence afterward. This can create a powerful pattern of masturbating quickly, without paying attention to where your sexual arousal can take you. To start exploring something different, make sure you have some extended time and privacy for yourself, where you arenât trying to finish quick before someone interrupts.
2. Turn off the porn (just for a while) and tune into your body.
Not everyone likes porn, but a lot of guys do, and while porn can be great, it also takes you out of your body a bit with the fantasy. This can distract you from whatâs actually happening in your body. You donât need to throw the porn away, but for a few times, masturbate without porn, and objectify yourself for a change!
3. Do aâ¦dryâ¦run through.
Bad pun aside, itâs a good idea to try the above suggestions, and then just masturbate as you normally would. As you do this pay attention:
* Changes in your breathing: Does it become shallow and quick, slower and deeper?
* Changes in your body: is there tension in some places, and relaxation in others? Is this the same every time you masturbate?
* How does it feel just before you have an orgasm?
* How does it feel as you orgasm, and immediately post-orgasm?
4. Time to switch it up.
Men learn early in their lives the most effective way to get themselves off. And most never waver from the utilitarian approach to self love. But sex is less like a well oiled machine, and more like a chaotic food fair, where there is an endless selection of ways to satisfy your appetites. So itâs time to throw a wrench in the works and shake up your routine. Try any combination of the following suggestions:
5. Does your left hand know what your right hand is doing?
Do you always use the same one hand to masturbate? Most guys do. If youâre among them, start with the simple tip of switching hands. It can feel strange at first, the rhythm might be off, itâs almost like sex with someone new for the first time. Enjoy the newness, and see if a new hand can teach an old hand some tricks.
6. Experiment with positions.
If you arenât an experimental type, itâs time to start. If youâre used to masturbating lying down on your back, try sitting up. If you normally sit in a chair, try standing, or kneeling. As with all these changes, this might feel ridiculous at first, and youâll probably go back to old faithful, but see what masturbation feels like in different positions, and notice if it brings with it any new sensations.
7. Get your hips moving.
The way your body moves when you masturbate is probably very different from the way it moves when youâre having sex with someone else. Many men donât move at all when they masturbate. Try to move your hips when you masturbate, simulating the thrusting of intercourse. Notice how moving your hips in different ways can bring you closer to, and at times take you farther away from, the point of orgasm.
8. Use different hand strokes.
Most men learn early on that a vigorous stroke does the trick. This intense up and down stimulation usually ends in a good orgasm. But there are dozens of other strokes that each bring with them different sensations, and different orgasms. Roll your penis in between your hands, moving your hands up and down your shaft. Try using long twisting strokes instead of just up and down. Experiment with different movements, pressures, and speeds.
9. Explore your shaft.
While most of the nerve endings on the penis are at the head, and specifically the frenulum, many men will have spots on their shaft that are unusually sensitive. Try putting one hand at the base of your penis and press it towards your body while experimenting with different hand strokes along the shaft of your penis. Treat this like a treasure hunt, and try to feel the difference between one side and the other, between stimulation near the base and up near the tip.
10. Reach around, yourself.
For many men the balls (testicles) are a very sensitive area that responds well to feelings of touch and pressure. Take your forefinger and thumb and make them in a circle at the top of your scrotum. Gently tug on your scrotum as your masturbating. This is both a way to prevent you from ejaculating and a way to extend sexual feelings in your body. Experiment with other kinds of touch including tickling, scratching, and rubbing.
11. Check out the neighborhood.
While the penis and scrotum tend to be the epicenter of masturbatory attention, if youâre looking to open things up a bit, be sure to take a tour of some other nearby areas. The perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, is very sensitive to pressure and massage, and rubbing it provides external prostate stimulation. Speaking of which, donât be afraid to explore the anus, both externally and by using a finger for penetration.
12. Bring it all together.
Not everything you try is going to do it for you, but the idea behind the above tips is to try lots of different things, and then incorporate whatever you like into the ways you regularly masturbate. Maybe itâs a different stroke, or position, or breathing technique. Obviously there is no one, correct way to masturbate, and even if youâve got something that works for you, consider the fact that there could be more out there if you experiment with it.
1. Another myth about male masturbation is that you shouldnât use anything other than you hand. While your hand might be doing the trick, adding some accessories can make the stimulation even more intense, and inspire more creativity with yourself, and with partners.
2. Get a good quality personal lubricant . If itâs only for masturbation you can use something thatâs oil based without worrying about condom compatibility. Oil based products are better because they wonât dry up.
3. Add a sex toy into the mix. It might be a vibrator, a dildo, or a penis ring (if youâve never tried one I recommend trying one on your own before you use it with a partner). Sex toys can add a completely new kind of stimulation, and accentuate the manual stimulation your doing.
That is very good advice indeed, as a old hand, so to speak, actually I am 67 and apart from when I was married and having frequent sex with my late wife, I have been masturbating since I was 13, maybe 14. I did not masturbate when I was married, my best advice is not to do it when having sex with a woman, save it up for her. If you are alone, that is completely different. I 'learned' to masturbate from other boys at school. At first I just held my penis between two fingers, but gradually I did as described above, usually clasping my penis with one hand around it. Other guys pointed out that in fact as I had a large penis to try and clasp it around my two hands, grasping with both, I found out that I could masturbate with both hands round it and that is the way I usually do it, felt and feels great.
No matter how large or small your penis is, always experiment around for the best way and maximum pleasure. Even men with small penises, less than 4" can still enjoy it.
This is just an accurate a brief summation of my sexual relations. Not bragging, just the facts, no exaggerations..
I am 73 and have been at it since I was around 12. I was married for 12+ years and after that dated and involved in multiple, serial relationships until I was in my 60's. I have masturbated from age 12 until the present, unless my sexual activity was 3-5 times a week.
Check out Frank Reedstream's book on Amazon Kindle Books " Come and Come Again", and do a Google search for tantric masturbation.
Thanks once again for an extensive guidance.
Recently, I have tried with a glove, wrapped in sponge slabs, used vegetable oil,and penetrate it.With movement of hips, without use of hands, it gives great pleasure.
I like to shave my penis and balls and wrap a rubber band around all of the above like a penis ring. I tickle and tease my shaft with no head contact while gently touching my throbbing balls. Leads to a big explosion. Sometimes when I do this for a while or watch a guy sucking a penis, precum starts to leak and I will use this on the underside of my head.
I am only young but have found myself rather bi curious, I find personally that inserting hard objects into or rubbing my anus whilst masturbating helps me to reach orgasm. Also daring to try and do it sneakily in public gets it going almost like a fetish. Whatever sexuality you are try these different things and positions espicialy anything involving the anus. If this doesn't work for you using something to simulate giving a blowjob can help.
Good point. Straight men are usually afraid to try solo butt stuff (especially prostate massages) because of the belief that the act is connected to your sexual orientation. All men should at least try it (without injuring themselves). I've tried it and enjoyed it, and I'm completely straight.
Some things that work for me personally, just to help a brother out:
1) playing with nipples while masturbating adds to pleasure (for some reason),
2) favorite technique: pulling up underwear and moving hips while seated (or putting penis up the hole in front of normal briefs) for hands-free masturbation (may work better with scrotum hanging out of the leg opening, which lets you massage it too),
3) second favorite: same as before with penis against trimmed pubic hair, rub penis back and forth (gets more pleasurable when moistened with precum)
4) pressing firmly on skin between scrotum and butthole to stop premature ejaculation,
5) masturbating quickly without erection then stopping just before climax to partly ejaculate without orgasm (wait a minute then use as lube) [sort of like multiple orgasm but the opposite]
6) edging technique
7) at least try prostate stuff *with an object and lube* (I use the handle end of an unused toothbrush)
8 ) Drink more water to get more precum and bigger loads.
I would caution against using a toothbrush handle for anal fun. You run the risk of perforating the walls of the rectum or bruising the prostate. If you want a safer solution buy a Backnobber II from Amazon (it is a great non-erotic massage tool anyway) and use the end of it for gentle prostate massage or even prostate milking ( I use the end with the larger bulb). I smoothed the minor ridges on the plastic with 600 grit sandpaper and is very smooth - of course use lots of lubricant (Shea butter or coconut oil is safe and inexpensive) - somewhere on the internet is a video of someone using the backnobber
I am a dedicated 'edger', prolonging my masturbation for hours, if I can. About a year ago, I discovered the fun of c--k rings and b-ll bands. I got a selection of steel rings that fit around the base of my shaft. These really enhance the sensation and fun of edging. The increase in size is also a strong turn-on.
I enjoy neoprene rings and bands too. It's fun to wear one around when taking a walk or yard work.
There is a world of fun things that you can do if you let yourself enjoy a little fun.
There are online communities of men, straight, gay and in between, who share these pleasures and knowledge of new thngs. I can share the ones I have tried if you message me.