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Q: adoption vs. keeping it
asked by: 2garetta on August 29th, 2008
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I'll be 18 when the baby's born, but I'm still in high school. I'm due May 1st and I can't decide if I want to keep the baby or give it up for adoption. I'm working full time, but I don't know if that's enough. The father wants nothing to do with me or the child if I decide to keep it, however if I end up giving it up for adoption he does want his name on the birth certificate. If I do pick adoption I want an open adoption. But I still can't make up my mind.
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Zanny
replied on August 29th, 2008
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Nobody can make this decision for you. Do you have a supportive family? If you kept the baby it's important to have support, especially as the father wouldn't be providing it. I had my first at 17 & it's not easy, but being a mother is the most rewarding thing in the world to me.

Giving a child up for adoption is a very brave & honourable decision; there are lots of people out there who would make wonderful parents if given the chance.. but it's such a hard thing to do.

Only you can decide what would be best for both you & the baby.. you need to really think about this.
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Amethyst_Butterfly
replied on August 29th, 2008
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He can't force his name on the birth certificate, all you have to do is now put him down when you fill out the paperwork. My baby's daddy is fully aware that since he couldn't be here for me while I was pregnant that he doesn't go on the birth certificate.
Adoption, is also another good choice, because there are so many families that would do anything for a baby but can't have one themselves. In the end its a tough decision to make.
But remember in the end its up to you. And he doesn't have to go on the birth certificate, remember that.
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Mabel
replied on August 29th, 2008
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Amethyst_Butterfly wrote:
He can't force his name on the birth certificate, all you have to do is now put him down when you fill out the paperwork. My baby's daddy is fully aware that since he couldn't be here for me while I was pregnant that he doesn't go on the birth certificate.
Adoption, is also another good choice, because there are so many families that would do anything for a baby but can't have one themselves. In the end its a tough decision to make.
But remember in the end its up to you. And he doesn't have to go on the birth certificate, remember that.


I'm going to address this birth certificate thing because it seems there isn't a lot of fact going on here.

The fact is, you can not put his name on the birth certificate. Period. The only way the father's name automatically goes on the birth certificate is if you are married. Your spouses name goes on the birth certificate.

The father of your babies, if unmarried, needs to fill out forms to be included on the birth certificate. He needs to sign legal documents stating he is the father, etc.

If the father denies paternity, all this won't happen until after there has been a paternity test and a court proceeding.
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christa964
replied on November 4th, 2008
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Adoption is a selfless act and a responsible choice. Lots of studies have shown that unmarried mothers are less likely to finish school, less likely to marry and more likely to live in poverty and suffer depression.
I encourage you to contact an adoption agency, one who can offer you advice, support and counseling - all of this would be free to you.
If you need any advice or want to talk, contact me.
Best of luck to you.
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gabby734
replied on November 4th, 2008
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who cares what studies say, I had my first child at 18, I finished school... currently a junior in college, and married to a firefighter.... do whats best for you
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