Hey Courtie
If you're abstaining from sex in hopes of having more successful relationships I'd be hesitant. One is not necesarilly to do with the other. Good reasons to seek addiction help for sex are a pattern of harming yourself or others or ignoring dangerous or unpleasant consequences in order to obtain sex. If the only consequence that plagues you because of your addiciton to sex is that your relationships aren't long lasting you should probably take a closer look at what's failing in those relationships. Generally men form very strong bonds with women that become intimate with them quickly and they tend to work harder to support those relationships in the beginning.

Phone sex is fine. It's non-viral, can't get you pregnant and doesn't invite possible harm or drama into your life. It may not be the best way to meet people. you may want to separate your phone sex from your search for a relationship.

If sending love letters makes you happy and it doesn't annoy your partner there's nobody complaining. If your partner feels uncomfortable with that level of attention just write the letters and store them in a box. If they're for your happiness no need to send them.

It's not only ok to talk about your needs but it is the only way in this life that you will ever have your needs met. People aren't psychic, you have to communicate what you want in life, especially in relationships where the demands we put on one another are so much intense. Yes, tell your boyfriend what you need and yes ask him what he needs!.

you need to just take things a little slower and not come off of it right away. everybody needs alone time. how long have you and your boyfriend been together?

You sound so young...I question if you are addicted or if it is the only way that you can show both your power and self worth?...I believe that somewhere along the line you have put sex first, instead of being the end result to a wonderful relationship....

Every ad, movie and even books, portray sexual love as the most wonderful pleasure in the world...This is true, but only with age in back of you and finding the right person who puts you before himself...The one who does not want your sexual body, but loves the woman inside of you that is trying to grow...Sex is the end result of this love, not a pop in bed with the girl thinking she is a sex toy and the guilty party as you do...

Find yourself...Stop selling yourself short...You are not addicted...Life has just messed you up...

Love,
Caroline

I don't think this young woman is addicted to sex in any way...I believe she just has her priorities in life turned around...Like so many younger people she has grown up with the sexual part of herself being made a main focus of her virtues in life...She is being used by men as this is the thing that she thinks makes her special...Her problem will be understanding and forgiving herself for this and moving on...She is young and beautiful and can do anything that she wants...She is looking for acceptance...She needs to be loved and this is the only way that she knows how to show it and feel secure...The worst part is that she isn't even enjoying it.....
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Caroline

I would like to have known how old she was?...Not that I have any more comments, but for curiosity after going through this refresher course in life...If I knew then what I know now, I still wonder if I could have straightened her out...So goes life...

Good luck Courtie....The ball is in your court...

Caroline

she thinks sex is what keeps a man around..she is apparently wrong..

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