Hi and thank you everyone for your replies, of course you are right about the hubby thing, and oops I apologise for the 2 topics, see what you mean. Its just since I met the other guy I have been masturbating more so the 2 kinda went into another. Anyways I have told my hubby that I think we are at the end of the road and there are a number of reasons why, nothing to do with this other guy (who I may add is probably just a bit of fun). Hubby has listened and oddly enough the talk has brought us closer so I shall see what happens. Hubby did have a one nighter with a friend of mine years ago, this is not why I did what I did but it does answer the question of 'would I like it done to me', well no, but I knew about it, he doesn't know what I have done. I shall be speaking to a Counsellor for my part before ending the marriage.
As regards the topic name, I am glad I am not the only one out there who is excessive, it is not a question you ask just anyone, so thanks again for your replies and take care.
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