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my boyfriend and i were having sex today, and as is our preferred position i was bent over the bed and he was penetrating me vaginally. however, his penis came out, and when he penetrated again, it was in my anus. weirdly, this didnt hurt at the time, but we had both agreed that we never wanted to do this so i pushed him away and turned around and told him where he had actually penetrated me.. we were both mortified.

this was about 7 hours ago, and now my anus is really sore and things such as walking and sitting hurt. i've had a warm bath, but the pain is still there. would this suggest any long term damage or will it heal quite quickly?

im only 15 so this is a bit of a mortifying situation! any help would be greatly appreciated.
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replied October 25th, 2008
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i don't think that this will damage you long-term. i do have a big problem with what you are doing at your age however. you should not be doing anything at your age.

it's very difficult for young girls. i know because i have been in your shoes...but i have to say, and i think you know that you really don't need to be doing any of this at 15.

why don't you take this experience as a lesson and just stop doing what you're doing for a few years until you are really old enough to handle the things that come with living an adult life.

i honestly wish someone would have told me just that when i was your age. it may have prevented me a lot of heartache. please let me know if i can help you resist the temptation to grow up too early. i'd like to help you.

if you don't take my advice...be careful.
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replied October 25th, 2008
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It's gonna hurt. Especially since it was quick and hardly lubed up. As long as you are not bleeding, you should be fine. If the pain doesn't go away in a few days, or if you start to bleed, or if your BMs are hurting you, call the doctor. Don't be embarrassed about anything, they are made to help.
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replied October 27th, 2008
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I really doubt that it was an accident, in my personal experience it's very hard to get in there with the lube. Another thing, pain is not going to go away really really fast. If you are going to get some blood when you are going to go to the bathroom, don't panic that much, it will heal eventually but it takes some time because it's a gentle spot.
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replied February 2nd, 2012
Most likely it is on purpose. It is hard to insert there. Many couple tried many times. It is not easy to get in.

See the DR if you are still experience pain.
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replied April 5th, 2009
Haha thats actually terribly funny because the same thing happened to me about.. 5 hours ago. He was penetrating me from behind vaginally, and might i add quite fast and hard, when he slipped out. Of course, continuing with his strokes he went right back in at the exact speed and pressure as before, except into the wrong region. It was pretty darn painful, he didn't notice until i yelped and moved away immediately. Although, it was quite a good laugh afterwards. Don't worry, I'm still sore too
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replied February 4th, 2010
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It happened to us too! It was pretty scary to see my woman in such pain!!! She cried a little and sat on the toilet. Afterwards I inspected her butthole and saw some cuts that looked that they were due to the rapid stretching. This happened before about 2 years ago. I don't like it. Maybe if we practice having anal sex, the next time this happens it will be like "oh how nice...quick anal sex."
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replied July 28th, 2010
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Me too! My boyfriend is quite large, a little more than 10 inches long. I am a little thing, only 4' 11", and slender. He was also going quite fast and all the way in and out of my vaginal area. We used lubrication, so things were hot and heavy. He pulled out and then went back in quickly..in the wrong place. Since we were lubed, he actually went ALL the way into my anus!!! I just about passed out! I am also only 15. I am not sure if I want to do that again.
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replied August 1st, 2011
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Hm..Im 16..Yeah..Dats what Happened to me too Except that I was Riding Him and he had Lub on..and I was going to fast and his penis slipped out and into my anal area.It hurt like hell and its been hurting for like afterwards too.It made it difficult to have my bowel movement.What iSuggest to you is dont have anal sex until your an adult!!It would be best on you because your not ready as a teenager.Youre too young.I know iAm.
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replied August 6th, 2011
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why are little kids having anal sex!? Wait, why are LITTLE KIDS HAVING SEX IN THE FIRST PLACE!!??! PERIOD! WHY! What is so appealing to you at that age to a BOY who's balls have probably never even dropped!? I don't understand it. Someone please explain this to me! PLEASE!
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replied October 24th, 2011
Who cares how old she is? I'm glad she's asking a question to become sexually aware and educated. Her sex life is her business. Instead of shaming her for sex with her boyfriend, make a productive comment.

Anyway, this has happened to me too. Don't worry too much. My husband and I laughed about it.

Also, to the person who said guys do this on purpose. That's an awfully big assumption to make. My husband felt very bad that he hurt me. Blanket statements aren't cool.
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replied January 1st, 2012
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This happened to me couple of hours ago, It hurts really really, oh did i mention really? BAD!

Yea i sat on the toilet and had my Boyfriend check this out, he went like half way in thank god.

Just need time, and maybe a hot bath, and if it gets soo bad like dripping blood then go to the doctors, mine was only a little.

I am about 17 almost 18 and it happens, My boyfriend was almost in tears cuz like i was in tears. We are very very close, (he is the one close) and ya know accidents happen, and i bet he felt soo bad, cuz i bet he doesnt want to hurt you.

So don't worry right now, just take it easy and stay off the horse till you got things under control. But i kinda agree that you should wait till like Senior age, like me. Life gets really confusing till your about 18 and then it get REALLY confusing. Plus not all high school relationships lasts. So just be careful. Wink
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replied January 3rd, 2012
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This Happened to me 10 months ago...Most painful, Horrifying, embarrassing thing that my partner and I have been through sexually...EVER! (and for those who worry about age, I am 20) The reason I am on this blog in the first place see if I could find out some more about the healing process. After 10 months my anus has not quite gone back to normal size...Will it ever? Should I worry?
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replied April 25th, 2012
After 10 days your bottom should be back to normal,, after 10 months i have to wonder if your problem is in your perception. Plenty of people have anal sex regularily and look quite normal down there. Maybe you just have hemorroids.
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replied January 29th, 2012
you are all nuts its something normal....not by the way penetrating in the anal.but when and if you get penetrated by the anal....there is no any problem!!!why?because the anal....is a muscle and the muscles when they get stretched by any means they have the ability to get buck to the normal size they were before they are flexible and they have memory...that's why when you get penetrated by the anal....again it wont hurt like the first time because your body remembers...and it needs 9 days to get back to its normal shape with out any sexual experience.no 10 months no 2 months no nothing just 9 days i hope i was helpful and make you feel better.
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replied March 29th, 2012
there is a difference between being sexually aware and sexually active. No child at 15 or 16 years of age should be having sex. They are not adult enough to deal with the potential situations that can arise from being sexually active at that age, or mature enough mentally or physically to be doing so. The original poster was correct in answering the question and also constructively mentioning abstinence for a few years until these children are more prepared to deal with the consequences of an adult relationship.
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replied March 29th, 2012
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On balance I agree. 15 is too young for an active sex life and over here in the uk is also illegal.

It must be remembered though that this is all relatively recent and at other times and other places girls of 15 have been married already for several years and likely to have a brood of kids to look after...

Our laws have given our present day girls and boys the chance to be kids and avoid those responsibilities for a few years longer which is a huge privilege!

At 15 a girl should be just discovering sexual things and still have a few illusions of romance...
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replied April 13th, 2012
first off if girls wernt supposed to be having sex why do girls have periods at 15? why do they respond to stimulation?? just because some person makes a law doesnt make it atomicaly wronge. lets get real people. were feeding out youth spoonfuls of sex with music and tv and clothing. you dont like it stand up and fight to have laws and regulations set in place. its not these young adults fault. they feel what they feel because they are shown and suggested so. its just our society. and its not ok but making youth feel bad about something that is comming naturally to them is wrong.
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replied August 9th, 2012
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I am 21 years of age. And the same thing hppened to me abwt 8 hours ago.
Me n my bf were havin sex in doggy style position. With such force he accidently pushed in the wrong hole. I screamed n pushed him away. My ass is in pain. I cant even sit dwn properly. My bum is soo tender n sore. Had a spot of blood come out. Im actually scared. Do i jus let it heal naturally? Someone help me plz
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replied March 11th, 2013
I'm 26. This happened to me a few days ago. I'm still a little sore, but the physical part is not what's bothering me. I don't know what to say to the guy. We've known each other for over 2 years and have a steady (yet not serious) thing going. After it happened, I almost immediately left. I haven't seen him or talked to him since (although he's tried to contact me and ask me about it.) I'm very open when it comes to talking about anything - including sex - but this is the first time in my life that I've been embarrassed by something that's happened in the bedroom. I lost control down there and ended up shitting a bit, plus I bled a little and was crying (I'm so NOT a crier). I really enjoy his company but I don't know how to start talking to him again, whether it about sex or not. =/
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replied March 12th, 2013
If you think it was an accident and you like the guy, don't loose the friendship just because of that. You're OK...So? If you are close enough for sex, you are close enough to talk about it! Otherwise, why the sex?!
But if you doubt the accident...reconsider further sex or relationship. I am a guy, and I can tell you that there are those of us who like that very much, heterosexual only!!! So if he knew what he was doing, he will definitely do it again.... So unless you are ready for adventure, make a U turn!
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replied March 12th, 2013
If you think it was an accident and you like the guy, don't loose the friendship just because of that. You're OK...So? If you are close enough for sex, you are close enough to talk about it! Otherwise, why the sex?!
But if you doubt the accident...reconsider further sex or relationship. I am a guy, and I can tell you that there are those of us who like that very much, heterosexual only!!! So if he knew what he was doing, he will definitely do it again.... So unless you are ready for adventure, make a U turn!
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