Hi everyone,
Here is my story: I have been together with my fianc of two months for 2 1/2 years. Over this time period we have had lots of ups and downs. He is over 10 yrs older than me, introverted, likes to be in control, and has a bad temper. We both live in a foreign country together and have done extensive traveling all over the world. He is hard working and comes from a wealthy family where the father is the essential bread winner.
During heated arguements, my fianc has thrown things directly in my face on two separate occassions, thrown things in my direction or just throwing things in general many times. Every time is see m like this, it reminds me of a little boy throwing major temper tantrum. He has shoved me on the bed and grabbed me in order to " talk sense into me", and has raised his fist at me (no hitting). After the first time he threw something in my face, of course he promised to never do it again (he did) and also that I would leave him again if he ever did (I never left). It's so much my fault as it is his, as I have never kept my word to myself and continue to put up with this behavior.
We have our good times, although they are few and far between. He's so independent and rather be by himself. We are barely having any intimate moments (only if I beg), I'm always to initiate and get turned down quite often, and I get yelled at when I complain that I'm not getting enough affection.
In order for me to stay in the same country as him, we will have to get married soon...just the paperwork. So, I can begin to work or go back to school. After I graduated college, it has always been my dream to go back to school again, however, in this foreign country I would have to be fluent in the language in order to enroll. I could take a mediocre job instead, but I really wonder to myself if it is worth doing all this for a person that I have this kind of relationship with. I honestly fear him, and I have told him this. It's really all about him and I feel like a piece of furniture in the house that upkeeps with cleaning, cooking, etc. I have told him exactly how I feel and he says he will change, but I highly doubt this.....and quite frankly, I can't keep wasting away my life like this. In one sense live is good with him, as we live in a beautiful home just by the beach and travel around the world....
Please give me advice on what I should do, and how I should approach it if I were to leave, or leave but still keep the engagement..... He says that he wouldn't do long distance. I know my story is scattered all over the place, so ask me for any details if needed.
Thanks.
Saving 