LOL oop...Abstinence works to a degree. But I see you did not get my point, NA. IF the Duggar girls HAD a change of view, and wanted to have sex, I am pretty sure that Mom or Dad Duggar would do their best to protect their daughters. So, you did not get my point. The Duggars are not Abstinence only...abstinence only, true abstinence only education only teaches about saving yourself for marriage. Abstinence preferred education teaches about all options (the one exception is abortion, especially in a deeply religious family such as the Duggar family)but emphasis is put on abstaining. Because they do not push their beliefs on their children, it leads me to believe that if their childre DID want to choose another path, they would fully support that child. That is probably where you and the Duggar family would split on differences. Because I cannot see you supporting your daughter no matter what. You said so yourself that the Duggar family does not push their beliefs on their kids. If their kids choose to live like their parents, good for them. But they are more likely to WANT to live like their parents, knowing that no choice they make is FORCED on them and knowing they will be supported even if they choose to live differently. It is like my girlfriend, who got pregnant at 16 once said, "My parents talked to me about sex, yes. They said, 'Keep your legs closed until marriage'. They told me that no man wanted an unpure bride. They told me they would never support me if I was unwed and pregnant or having sex. Now I am, and they want nothing to do with me. If they had told me instead that I was loved and would be supported and accepted no matter my choice or if my views were different from theirs, I may have stayed pure. Just to know that my options, no matter what are my options, and I am loved no matter what, would have given me the self-assurance and self-esteem to preserve my virginity." In other words, if her parents had been like the Duggars, saying they would prefer abstinence but support their kids and love them no matter what, then yes, she may have, just like the Duggar kids, remained pure. But she never got that support, she never felt she had any bit of control or say over herself. You give a kid a bit of support and love along with your abstinence/birth control/prophylactic education, and tell them that you love them no matter what, but that you would prefer they remain pure, but still would love them no matter what decision they make, that kid is more likely to remain pure. But if you tell a child that abstinence is how it is and how it will be, and that you will not support them in having sex, that opens the door for rebellion.