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Q: Abortion - Think about it carefully
asked by: TrishS93 on October 22nd, 2009
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Im 16 and recently found out i was 7 weeks pregnant, when me and my boyfriend found out we were in total shock i broke down and cried for hours, we even done 3 more tests just to be 100% certain.

We were really worried about what to do but i didnt want to think about how my parents were gunna react as i knew my dad would kill my boyfriend and throw me out.
As i was still in shock i refused to talk about it for days as i had just started college and some of my friends were pregnant but i never thought it would happen to me.

We plucked up the courage to tell my mum who straight away said "abortion, thats your only choice", i was devestated, i thought she would understand.
She shouted at me for even thinking about keeping the baby.

All she could say was that it was nothing just a blood clot there was nothing to see, she booked me in at a clinic for women and booked me for the medical (pill) abortion
which causes you to miss-carry.

I had my scan done but i couldnt see anything so i wasnt in too much pain and there was no heartbeat so i took my first pill to stop the pregnany from carrying on, the next day i went back to take the other four pills to proceed with the miss carriage.

Not even an hour after that, i had began to miss carry i was in so much pain the amount of blood was horrifying. I went to the toilet and couldnt move it was so painful i couldnt even go to the toilet. All i could see was clots of blood.

I later spoke to a friend who is pregnant and she told me that my baby had a brain and its organs were growing, my mum said nothing all she told me was that it was a blood clot. She made me kill my baby and i will never forgive her for lying to me! I hate her now and she knows that.

so make sure if your gunna have an abortion you do it for yourself no one else you will regret it i have and plently of other girls have. dont make the same mistake i did. Be proud to want to have a baby.
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W0LF
replied on October 25th, 2009
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Hon in your first trimester there isn't any complex organ development. Your mother was right. What was inside of you didn't have thoughts or feel pain. I know you're devastated about this but at 16, when that child was born it would feel pain. It would have known poverty and felt your frustrations and disappointment in the life you were forced to live. It would have an elevated chance of birth defects and childhood illness. At 16 there is a strong chance you would have miscarried without abortion.

You should absolutely be proud to want to have a baby but that decision is a huge responsibility and you must be prepared for it. When the money is under you and you're educated and able to make a stable home, when you have a husband to father a child, then you can plan and have the child you want and give it the life every child deserves.
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motherofhighspiritedones
replied on October 25th, 2009
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Admin: Is this more appropriate for the abortion debate forum? I see how it is relevant to teens early on in their pregnancy, but am having trouble discerning if this is the appropriate place for such a post, as other posts pertaining to abortion in this forum have been moved.
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im13teengirl
replied on October 30th, 2009
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hi.we are in the same boat ,im yani 13 years old and got pregnant with my boyfriend we also decided to have an abortion and i did it. now no one knows that i already got pregnant.first i regretted for killing the baby inside me because im 5 weeks pregnant. i dont know if we made a right decision for not having the baby because we are both scared and not ready for the things might happen. now everytime i saw babies carried by their mother i felt jealous and angry to myself for not pursuing my pregnancy.
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W0LF
replied on October 31st, 2009
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im13teengirl
There will come a time in your life when you become aware of some of the risks you and your child would have faced being born to a very young girl, and only some of the risks will be enough to horrify you that you ever considered birthing a child at that age. If you ever understood the possible outcomes you and your unborn child avoided through abortion you'd be overwhelmed with relief. Healthy happy children that lead innocent and blessed lives are a myth. Children are expensive, distressing, and a responsibility unlike any other you can take on in life.
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im13teengirl
replied on October 31st, 2009
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thank WOLF i appreciate it

:] if i ask you did i made the right decision?
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W0LF
replied on October 31st, 2009
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im13teengirl
When you're fully developed, when you're married to a man who will be a good father and you have the security of a good income and the skills to be a parent then you can worry about whether it's a good decision to have a child. Until then you're just working at getting life right and lucky that the consequences of a poor decision haven't destroyed your life.
Think of motherhood as the greatest challenge and achievement you can take on in your life. If it's something you think you may want start working towards being that mother now so that when you're in your 20's you can have the things you need to raise a child into a great person.
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