I couldnt imagine even going through something like that. I had a miscarriage before I got pregnant with my now 2 year old daughter, and that for me was the most horrible thing I could have ever gone through. My mom had an abortion when she was really young, and it haunts her to this day and this was way back in the early 70's, and she said things were so much different then they are now. To me kids are a blessing and I am fortunate I can have kids because there are many people out there who want children so badly and cant have them.

when I was 19 (in 1985) i was terrified! I had an abortion...and have regretted it everyday since. I had "friends" who said I'd be better off to get an abortion. I wish I had had supportive/ Christian friends to guide me through the whole thing.
I know God forgave me for what I did...but I couln"t forgive myself for a VERY long time.. I just know that my baby is in heaven with my momma! And I see him/her someday!
Sheila
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i was raped at 13 (by my father),got pregnant..didnt find out till 23weeks,had abortion.. i never felt bad..
the reason i dnt feel guilty is because i strongly believed i wouldnt ov loved my aborted child..

i was wrong! although i do not regret it now that dnt mean im heartless,i just chose not to let it affect my life now..yes i think about it sometimes...like after a misscariage i had. all i though was its karma

like now,im trying to concieve,had 2neg tests, get results ov blood test on monday,have all the symptoms of pregnancy and am 2weeks late.... i am not against anyone having abortions i believe its there right...its a very hard decision to make...the only thing that gets me is ppl who go on to have multiple abortions from one night stand... y not go on birth controll!! would save u poss future heartache

I had an abortion wen i was 20wks pregnant! i regret it everyday was my ex bf who made me do it, just cause i loved him so much i really belived that we were not ready and he made me belive that he wouldnt stay with me. i took it really bad, and wen i look at my 1yr old now my son with my new bf, i regret it i had to have councelling after.

What kind of an abortion did you have at 22 wks? Is that too early for a late term abortion?

im 16 weeks and have an appointment for the procedure. im terrified of pain. do you have any advice you could give me?!

i had one about the same time, and i dont feel bad... i did for a while but i feel it was what was best for me and my daughter that i already had. now i am pregnant with number 2 and feel i am ready and not freaking out. its okay to feel bad, but its also okay to remember you made the choice for a reason, and whatever that reason may be you cant change it. everyone had different oponions on the topic, and i dont think you need to look at the beautiful children you now have and feel bad. embrace those 2 children and love them as much as possible. thats what the kids you have deserve

Please, to the above two posters, keep your personal opinions out of the medical abortion forum. This is a forum where one can go to get positive advice and SUPPORT for the difficult decision they have to or have made, not a forum for bashing those who made the decision, regardless of why. If you have an opinion you want to share on the subject, post it in the abortion debate forum, not here. Or go to your prospective "Side" forum, meaning post in the prolife forum if you are prolife, or prochoice forum if you are prochoice. Opinions on abortion do NOT belong here.

This is an old thread but just in case you come back and read it- I had an abortion at 22 weeks back in 1992. I was newly 18 and had no experience with children, and not a maternal bone in my body. I didn't recognize the symptoms of pregnancy and actually went into the doctor to tell her I thought I was dying of some disease because I was throwing up every hour and feeling awful. Turns out I wasn't dying. Anyway I had an older boyfriend (27) who I loved and even though he was shocked he wanted to go through with the pregnancy and spent several weeks trying to convince me we could. I felt like an alien was inside me that I needed to get out, was terrified of even the thought of being pregnant or heaven forbid a mother. I felt so trapped and so alone and so angry at myself. I had to find a place that would do a termination at that stage and got a lot of judgment. I never looked at the scan, I was in total denial and ignorance of what was taking place inside me- I just knew I couldn't do it. I felt desperate and had the procedure done- it was awful I won't lie to you, but nothing pregnancy related is a breeze. There were some parts of it that still traumatize me. But on the whole, I felt immense relief when it was all over.

What I wasn't prepared for was the severe depression I went into afterward, or that my body was going to produce milk and grieve this pregnancy hard. I realized I felt like it was a baby too late, and I just wanted it back for years. I was surprised to find out that I didn't feel like I did before everything started- I felt like a mother with no baby and it was weird and terribly sad, I felt lost. There is no way I could have known I was going to feel like this after. I felt so desperate, and the pregnancy felt so wrong deep down that there was nothing anyone else could have said that would have changed my mind. STILL, though, I was glad I made that choice- the boyfriend ended up being an abuser and I now look at the whole thing as a very sad, very stupid near miss. I have not regretted my decision, but have regretted all the time that I let it all happen and get to that point, and didn't take responsibility for myself.

I chose to live my life after to the full, taking every opportunity my choice afforded me.

I hope you have a much easier time, and wish you strength, happiness and peace.