no trust me everyone has hair down there!!
1- i have tried waxing it is AWESOME! hurts a lot but it is sooo worth it and its a bit expensive! but looks/feels great! =) do NOT try to do it ur self btw does not work out very well!!
2- shaving is fine honestly try to exfoliate more down there and make sure the hair is soft before u shave it.. use a shaving cream or conditioner .... takes a lot of practice though to get the right shave down there also
3- you could try a hair removal cream not expensive and works well on ur bikini area ifu want =)
u dont have crappy luck we all have the same thing.... u dont really make 'more' hair grow back its just that it is more coarse over time ..again just like everyone else
good luck =) even though its a bit late