I agree that you can't live with regret. It's not as if you can undo it or anything. I haven't been married but I know people would be shocked to know about my wild past (promiscuity, swinging, threesomes...) But that's just what it is. My past. It has helped to make me the person that I am today so I can't really regret it. When I think about some of the unsafe situations I put myself in, I get a little chill and thank God that, even in my worst moments, He protected me. But I don't beat myself up about it.
Hey, I was so naive that I didn't even realize how badly things could have ended and I enjoyed myself! lol
Any man I marry will be wed to all of me and all that has made me the woman I am: my past , present and future. Just as I will marry all of him, who he is and who he has been. So, there is no guilt, shame or regret for me.
Thanks for opening up a dioalogue on the subject, Caroline. I'm sure a lot of women would like to get some things off their chests.