Hi,
My name is Noah and I've been working with
somatics for a couple years now. Somatics
is simply the study of mind-body health -
specifically, the relationship between the
mind, the breath, and the body - i.e.,
muscle tone, posture, etc. This technique
is very useful in treating emotional
problems and somatic illnesses, so I've
written a short book on it to try to make
it easier for people to learn about it and
practice it themselves. It's too long to
read here, so feel free to just copy/paste
and save it somewhere or even print it out
to read later. I hope you benefit from
reading the book and (if you wish)
practicing the technique...so here it is:
Intentional Healing – How To Heal
Yourself
I. Introduction
Most people find that they cannot deal
with negative emotions effectively.
Negative emotions are usually vented,
suppressed, rationalized, analyzed, but
usually never dealt with. Likewise, most
people find that they cannot cultivate
positive emotions that they desire, such
as love, warmth, kindness, and so on.
However, I have observed that all people
perform several universal actions that can
be performed not only physically, but
mentally as well. In fact, it is possible
and more beneficial to perform these
actions mentally and physically at the
same time. Intentions on the mental level
directly produce mental and emotional
effects, and physical effects are not very
strong; intentions on the physical level
produce physical effects, and mental
effects are not very strong; intentions on
both levels are more effective, and as the
mind and body effect each other, such
intentions will work much more effectively
that intentions on the mind or body
alone.
Additionally, these actions are not
limited to what people usually use them
for. For example, one of the universal
actions is the intent to refuse. Usually,
this action is performed to refuse gifts,
offers, or suggestions. However, any
negative emotion or physical posture or
ailment can be refused. Refusal of fear,
for instance, makes one highly resistant
to fear. Refusal of anger makes one
resistant to anger. You will notice that
the refusal of different negative emotions
and different negative postures and
diseases produces different physical and
mental effects. Another example of this is
that the intent to embrace, or to hug, is
universally used among all people.
Usually, this intention is used to express
love. However, any positive emotion,
posture or even positive physical
attribute, such as a healthy heart,
healthy lungs, etc., can be embraced. For
example, we have all heard the phrase that
it is good to "embrace positive change."
Well, it IS possible, literally, to
embrace positive change, or any desired
emotion. Kindness, love, calmness, and any
other positive emotion can be embraced.
Perhaps most importantly, it is possible
to perform many different intentions at
the same time. For instance, it is
possible to refuse fear and embrace
courage at the same time, and that
combination of intentions is an excellent
way to make one courageous, because fear
is the opposite of courage, and resistance
to fear will act as a catalyst to the
cultivation of courage. However, multiple
intentions do not have to be used in this
way. For example, someone may want to
embrace love and calmness at the same
time. Although they do not directly act as
catalysts to one another, they
nevertheless may both be required by an
individual.
Additionally, this document is only a
guide. If you experience any problems with
these intentions, then certainly it is
better not to do them. Also, you can use
the intentions listed below not only in
the ways that are described in this
document, but in any other way you like
(except negatively; this is described
below). You can, and should, experiment
with these intentions until you find
intentions that are useful and effective
for you.
Lastly, it is important not to misuse
intentions. For example, it is never
beneficial to refuse love, embrace hate,
receive anger, and so on. Intentions are
powerful tools, and should never be
misused to harm oneself or others.
I have discovered several universal
intentions that all people do. Although
there are certainly more, I have found
that these specific intentions can be
performed by anybody, are familiar to
everyone, and are easy to learn.
II. How Intentions Affect Our Lives
We all know what it’s like to be happy,
and we all know what it’s like to be
angry. We all know someone who usually
harbors good intentions and tries to help
people, and we all know someone who
habitually hurts others, and perhaps even
enjoys it. However, what most people
haven’t realized is that intentions
manifest everywhere in our lives – our
relationships, our hobbies, and even our
dreams. There exists no moment in life,
no thought or emotion that is devoid of
intention. Intentions are at the basis of
all actions.
For example, we all know that homicide is
a horrible crime, and that those affected
by it are traumatized beyond words.
However, when somebody does something
evil, it manifests directly in their body.
Here’s an experiment: pretend you’re
about to go into the kitchen, grab hold of
a kitchen knife, and pretend you’re
about to kill someone with it. Visualize
plunging that knife into the person,
pretend you’re actually killing him.
What happens to your body and mind? Your
posture becomes hunched and twisted, hard
and constricted, and your mind also
becomes hardened, cut off, constricted,
and malevolent. In particular, you’ll
notice that as you pretend to be about to
kill someone, you lose all sense of
connectedness and empathy with the
environment and all sense of love and
kindness. So you can see that negative
intentions always precede negative
actions.
Here’s a second exercise: pretend
you’re about to see the person you love
the most. Pretend you’re about to give
that person a huge hug, and that you’re
about to do something with that friend
that you both enjoy very much. What
happens to your body and mind this time?
Your posture becomes more expanded, soft,
relaxed and yet energetic in an effortless
way, and your mental state becomes kinder,
calmer, and more expansive. Also, you
have a greater sense of connectedness with
the environment as well as a feeling of
love in your heart. Here too you can see
that friendship isn’t simply a mental
construct or some kind of figure of
speech; it is totally rooted in how we
feel and think and is reflected in our
posture and muscle tone as well.
When you learn to consciously control
your intentions, you learn to consciously
decide how you’d like to live your life.
Although psychologists and psychiatrists
may tell us that we have no control over
our emotions, that we’re as helpless as
dust blown about by hurricane-force winds,
this is simply untrue. However, those
self-help authors that claim to subscribe
to this view, like Dr. Phil for example,
give people no method by which they can
actually work with their emotions; too
often, they simply harshly criticize
people or give them “advice” lacking
both in sincerity and substance, like
“Be patient! A little patience never
hurt anyone!.” But as you have probably
experienced, such “advice” is cruel,
because it leaves you with no way to go
about changing your life, and is also
usually given with anger, bitterness, or
hypocrisy. This, in turn, makes people
bitter and jaded about healing, probably
the worst outcome of all.
This guide aims to change all of this.
The healing methods in this guide do not
tell you that you have to be a better
person, or that you need to change who you
are, or that you need to realize something
that you haven’t already realized. The
truth is that you don’t need to be
better, and never did; you were simply
never instructed on what you can actually
do to improve the quality of your life.
There is no requirement that you adhere to
a particular philosophy, nor a demand that
you have accomplished certain things.
This guide is about the practical
applications of intentions and how they
can be used to heal people and strengthen
them. It is a step out of the realm of
ideas and into the realm of practical
action.
III. Universal Intentions
I first began to experiment with
intentions because I found that, although
I wanted to, I simply could not do my
uncle’s intentional techniques. I
desperately wanted to be able to do them,
but I always got tense and failed utterly
when I tried to do them. I talked to
other people who had similar experiences
when they tried to work with intentions,
and realized I was not alone; they to
found that although they knew exactly what
they had to do when working with
intentions, for some reason they just
couldn’t do what they wanted no matter
how hard they tried. After a couple years
of frustration due to the fact that I
could only work with intentions if I was
instructed by somebody else, I became
determined to find a way to do intentions
– despite the fact that I couldn’t do
them!
One day, I realized that there actually
was one intention that I habitually and
naturally did, that didn’t backfire on
me and make me feel tense: the intent to
embrace, or hug. I realized that I not
only used this intention physically, but
mentally as well – whenever I hugged
somebody, I also created a mental state of
love within myself mentally. I set about
working with the intent to embrace in a
number of ways, discovered that I could do
more than simply intend to embrace; I
could embrace love, compassion, my
mother’s love, calmness, or whatever I
chose to embrace! I could even go so far
as to embrace calmness rooted in my
father’s love, or embrace the ability to
be physically agile and quick. The intent
to embrace thus turned out to have
literally an infinite number of potential
uses! However, I was far from satisfied,
because the intent to embrace is
fundamentally a “soft” intention, and
didn’t allow me to fully feel like I
could resist negative emotions and nip
them in the bud when they bubbled up in
me.
I was therefore determined to find as
many intentions that anyone could do. I
thought of a few more intentions that I
naturally did: the intent to refuse, the
intent to request, and a few more. I then
worked with these intentions for a few
more months, and discovered that, like the
intent to embrace, they too had a
potentially infinite number of uses as
well! I remembered that I had once taken
an acting class in which I was taught that
there were nine “universal actions”:
the intent to embrace, refuse, give,
receive, request, eat, eliminate (I’ll
describe exactly what this intention is
later), bow, and sleep. Lo and behold,
these “universal actions” matched my
“universal intentions” exactly.
I experimented with many people with
these nine intentions, and found that
every single person I instructed could do
them naturally. On the other hand, only a
very few people, such as my uncle and my
aunt, were able to effectively use other
intentions besides the nine universal
intentions; most people, myself included,
experienced strain and tension whenever we
attempted to work with other intentions,
and simply weren’t able to use them
effectively. I estimate, from my
research, that perhaps 1-2% of the
population are able to naturally do
intentions other than the nine universal
intentions; while this is certainly sad
and unfortunate, I have found that the
nine universal intentions are more than
adequate to deal with any emotional
problem or situation. Here are the nine
universal intentions which everybody, even
people like me, can do:
Refusal: This intention is easily
recognized. Have you ever refused a gift,
an offer, or a suggestion? You can refuse
whatever you want. Intend to refuse fear
both mentally and physically. What happens
when you refuse fear? Your shoulders go
back, your chest goes forward, and your
head becomes poised, and you feel, and
are, highly resistant to fear. Now, refuse
anger. What happens when you refuse anger?
You feel your body pleasantly drop and
relax, and you feel highly resistant to
anger. Any negative emotion, posture, or
even physical ailment can be refused.
Physical ailments probably won't go away
if refused, but refusal of physical
ailments does help mobilize the body to
fight the ailment more effectively.
Remember that refusal gives you the power
to say no to whatever troubles you, and is
therefore the most important intention in
your arsenal.
The Intent To Embrace: Have you ever
hugged someone? It need not be a person;
it could be an animal, a teddy bear, or
even a tree! If you have, then you know
what this intention is already. Any
positive emotion, posture, or physical
quality, like a healthy heart, can be
embraced. Intend to embrace courage
mentally and physically. What happens?
Your hips powerfully roll forward, the
back of your neck straightens, and your
head rolls forward, and you feel powerful
and unstoppable! Now, embrace calmness
mentally and physically. Your face will
become stable and unshakeable, your whole
body will relax, and you will breathe more
slowly and smoothly. The power to embrace
allows you to cultivate any positive
emotion, posture or physical quality you
wish, which gives you the power to feel
whatever you want to feel, whenever you
want to feel it. If you always wanted to
feel more love, more calmness, more
energy, then you can feel those wonderful
sensations with this intention.
The Intent To Receive: Have you ever
received a gift, a letter, or even a
household object from somebody else? If
so, then you have experienced the intent
to receive. You can receive whatever you
want with intention. What happens when you
mentally and physically intend to receive
warm sympathy from all your loved ones,
relatives and friends? You feel taken care
of. What happens when you receive
compassion both mentally and physically?
You feel softer inside, more in touch with
your emotions, and you feel free to feel
those emotions without any shame. This
intention is a powerful tool to heal one's
troubled past, as you can intend to
receive any positive emotion from anybody,
and you will then literally receive that
emotional nourishment that you have wanted
for so long! This intention is not only to
heal emotion wounds, however, and can be
used to fortify and strengthen one's mind
and body. You can receive more joy, more
compassion, more of any positive emotion,
physical posture, or positive physical
quality that you want.
The Intent To Give: Have you ever given a
gift or a tip at a restaurant? If so, then
you have already performed this intention.
When you give, your awareness expands to
include the person that receives your
gift. What happens when you intend to give
love to somebody, both mentally and
physically? You feel more maternal, you
feel that you care for the person you give
love to like a mother. What happens when
you give warm sympathy to somebody, both
mentally and physically? You pay full and
undivided attention to the person you give
warm sympathy to. The intention to give
expands one's heart and mind to include
others, and therefore makes one feel more
connected, less isolated, and more part of
life. One needs to both give and receive
to feel fully connected, however, and it
is good to use both intentions at once, as
they balance one another.
The Intent To Request: Have you ever
ordered a meal at a restaurant, or asked
somebody for directions or money? If so,
then you have already performed this
intention. The intention to request does
not directly yield that which is request,
but is useful in that it makes us more
comfortable in asking for what we need and
in speaking our mind. What happens when
you request compassion, both mentally and
physically? You feel like you can tell
people that you deserve what is good, that
you can convince them, through ethical
persuasion, that you deserve what is good.
Experiment with this intention, because
although I have discovered this particular
use, I'm sure there are many others.
The Intent To Eat: Yes, the intent to eat.
It might sound farfetched that such a
basic, earthy intention can be used in so
many different ways, but it is actually
possible to use this intention to generate
any desired emotional state. The intent to
eat is not only physical, but mental as
well. It is the intent to consume, to take
in that which we need. To see this for
yourself, intend to eat love, both
physically and mentally. You will fell
your chest muscles soften and your heart
expand, and you will feel tenderness in
your face, and you will feel like you are
almost drinking emotional nourishment from
an infinite bottle. Just as the intent to
request results in being comfortable
speaking one's mind and asking for
whatever you want, the intent to eat
produces a general emotion of being cared
for and nourished. And that is neither
surprising nor a coincidence - after all,
it is the intention to eat.
The Intent To Eliminate: This intention is
the intention that we use to go to the
bathroom. I am well aware that this
intention calls forth repulsive imagery in
the mind, but if you explore this
intention, it is not necessarily about
bathroom functions. Elimination, in a
positive sense, also happens emotionally
and psychosomatically; for instance, when
you dream, you eliminate stress from your
body and mind. Now, physically and
mentally, intend to eliminate sadness,
just like you wanted to mentally “go use
the restroom” and discharge all that
mental sadness. You will feel any residual
sadness drain from your emotional body
(your mind), and you will feel protected.
More specifically, you will feel purified
after this intention, and it is no
coincidence that bodily elimination has
exactly the same purpose.
The Intent To Bow: Have you ever gone
onstage and taken a bow? Have you ever
bowed your head to somebody out of
respect? If so, then you have already
done this intention! Bowing is basically
the intent to revere something, to
acknowledge it’s greatness, so let’s
call it the intent to revere for the time
being (due to the limitations of the
English language). Now, close your eyes
and physically and mentally intend to
revere love. What happens to your body
and mind? You feel a kind of loving poise
in your hands, arms, stomach and throat,
and feel lovingly humble and speechless
with awe of the greatness of others; there
shouldn’t be any discomfort or
self-hate, just a feeling that you see the
goodness and greatness in others.
When we bow or revere positive qualities,
we allow ourselves to see those qualities
in others, which in turn uplifts our minds
and hearts. Additionally, bowing before
someone is in many cultures considered an
effective way to apologize to others; for
instance, if somebody had seriously
wronged you but then humbly bowed before
you in apology, wouldn’t that soften
your heart or heal your anger at least a
little? In Eastern cultures, it is also
customary to bow to people as a way to
show respect, so you can see that the
intention to bow has many uses indeed!
The Intent To Sleep: This intention is
obvious, but it is good to acknowledge it
as a conscious intention that everybody
does. It is the basis of all of these
intentions, because sleep gives us the
rejuvenation and energy necessary to
ensure maximum effect from our intentions,
and also allows us to do them for longer
periods of time. A healthy diet, regular
exercise, avoidance of alcohol, tobacco or
drugs are of course necessary to ensure
that these intentions have their desired
effects. It is obvious that a person high
on LSD can't possibly benefit from these
mental exercises; his mind is far too
agitated.
These intentions can be used for many
different purposes. When under pressure,
these intentions can be used to create
mental clarity, fearlessness, and focus.
These intentions can be used to go deeply
into positive emotional and physical
states in order to promote healing, and
can be done for many minutes, even hours.
These intentions can be used for
experimental purposes as well, to answer
questions one may have, like "What effect
does it have to receive groundedness?" You
can use these intentions to find out.
IV. Common Misconceptions
Most people, due to images fed to them by
the media, my television and movies, and
by the upbringing, harbor misconceptions
about the nature of certain positive and
negative intentions. We are, for example,
constantly bombarded with images that
depict anger and brutality as strength in
television shows and movies where there is
violence or combat, and that true power
cannot be felt at the same time as love;
we are told that altruism, the positive
intent to focus on helping another even if
it brings danger to ourselves, must carry
the denial of genuine, positive concern
for ourselves. Likewise, we are shown
that forgiveness is merely the repression
of our own unhealed pain, a kind of
abandonment of awareness and a denial of
our true feelings, like when somebody
says, in a depressed and lethargic voice
“Yeah, it’s okay, don’t worry about
it”. The number of misconceptions we
have been raised with is far too numerous
to cover in a single book, or even in
several books, but I will clear up some of
the most important and fundamental
misconceptions most of us have in this
chapter. Here are some of the major
misconceptions in the world today:
Power: This is, by far, the most
widespread and deeply rooted misconception
in the world today. Just for a moment,
close your eyes and embrace the kind of
“power” shown on television and in the
movies, and let your body really get into
it. What happens to your mind and mind
when you do this? Your chest and jaw
harden and become rigid and you feel
angry, aggressive and belligerent. Now,
keeping that intent to be “powerful”,
try to stretch out your arms and legs;
you’ll probably find that you’re a lot
less flexible in this state of
“power”. Now, keeping that intent to
be “powerful”, think of the person,
place or thing that you love the most.
You’ll probably notice that your
“power” melted away quite a bit, and
was replaced by love. But how powerful is
“power” that doesn’t let you move
properly, doesn’t let you love, and
doesn’t let you connect with the world
around you? The answer is that such
“power” is actually just brutality and
tension, only destructiveness and
rigidity. So what is real power?
To begin to understand what real power is,
think of real power not as something that
inhibits love, but something that makes
you invincible, something that simply
gives you the ability to withstand
negativity and remain unharmed without
being tense, brutal, or angry. Close your
eyes and intend to embrace invincibility
and invulnerability, and hold that
intention for a couple minutes. What
happens? You feel firmness in your belly
and in your arms, and your posture will
become naturally more erect and firm
without any added tension, and you feel
truly invincible! Now, at the same time
you intend to embrace invincibility,
embrace unconditional love, and hold those
intentions for a couple minutes with your
eyes closed. You’ll experience both
invincibility and love at the same time,
and not lose either of them! For most
people, this is a truly unique experience,
something they have never experienced in
their whole life, but this experience can
give you faith and understanding that it
is possible to be powerful and loving at
the same time, despite what television and
movies may tell us.
Righteousness: This is another major
misconception in modern society today, as
we are never shown true righteousness, but
the “righteousness” of judges
condemning people to death, of people
killing and butchering one another in the
name of some cause, and of people
arrogantly trying to force their way of
life upon others.
For a moment, close your eyes and embrace
the kind of “righteousness” depicted
on television and in the movies, and let
your body and mind really get into it.
What happens to your body and mind when
you do this? Your shoulders and neck
become very tense, and you lose all sense
of compassion and empathy as well. Now,
as you continue to embrace this kind of
“righteousness”, intend to embrace
compassion and freedom from judgment;
you’ll find that both of these
intentions cancel one another out and
interfere with one another. The kind of
“righteousness” you just embraced is
clearly in opposition to love, compassion
and empathy, and is incredibly
destructive, so what constitutes true
righteousness?
To begin to understand what true
righteousness is, think of righteousness
not as something that causes us to hate,
or condemn, or judge, or lose compassion
for others or ourselves, but simply as the
will to do the right thing in each
situation, whether that be comfort a
person in pain, or perform CPR on somebody
who has had a heart attack, or fight
somebody to protect others if necessary,
or give money or other aid to somebody
desperately in need. Now, close your eyes
and intend to embrace the will to do
whatever is right in all circumstances.
What happens in your body and mind when
you do that? Your posture becomes
naturally erect and upright, particularly
your spine, and your whole body lengthens
and becomes taller, and you now feel
naturally inclined to do what is right!
Righteousness is therefore intimately tied
in with natural and tension-free
lengthening and uprightness of the spine
and the whole body.
Now, close your eyes and intend to embrace
true righteousness, the will to do what is
right in all circumstances, and compassion
at the same time. How do you feel? You
feel both upright and compassionate at the
same time, a novel experience for most
people. So you can see that righteousness
does not stamp out compassion or love, but
complements and enhances them instead.
Righteousness is also basically the same
thing as morality, justice, honor, and
uprightness, so whenever you want to be
honorable, or moral, or just, or anything
that is similar to righteousness, you can
embrace true righteousness, as described
in this chapter, to cultivate these
positive qualities in your mind.
Respectfulness: Oftentimes, when we were
young, we were angrily and sternly told to
“respect our elders” or “be polite
to the guests”, or told to “have good
manners”. However, we usually felt
fearful and hurt when we were told to do
these things, and felt as though we had to
walk on eggshells whenever we were around
the people we were supposed to
“respect” or be “polite” towards.
These painful experiences were not
accidental – we truly were made to be
afraid in order to be “respectful” and
“polite”.
Now, close your eyes and embrace the kind
of “politeness” you were told to have
as a child for a few moments; let your
body and mind really get into it. What
happens to your body and mind when you do
this? Your breathing becomes shallow and
constricted, and you hold tension in your
chest and shoulders. These physical
symptoms are indicative of fear,
specifically fear of punishment, so you
can see that the kind of “politeness”
you were told to have is actually very
destructive, a powerful form of fear and
tension.
So what constitutes genuine
respectfulness? Respectfulness is the
acknowledgment of boundaries, the
validation of their feelings and
experiences, and the acknowledgment of
ourselves and others as inherently good
and worthy beings. Logically, if you see
yourself and others as good and worthy
beings, and acknowledge your own
boundaries as well as the boundaries of
others, you will naturally be inclined to
be respectful towards yourself and others.
Now, close your eyes and intend to embrace
the acknowledgment of personal boundaries,
not boundaries that separate people from
one another, but simply the fact that
people are individuals and that their
experiences are both valid and important,
and also embrace the concept that we as
well as others are inherently good and
worthwhile beings. What happens in your
body and mind when you do this? You
become aware of your own boundaries as
well as the boundaries of others in a
genuinely respectful manner, and become
reverent of both yourself and others. So
you can see that genuine respectfulness
stems from awareness of personal
boundaries in a sensitive and tension-free
manner, as well as the awareness of the
inherent goodness and worth of all beings
and all life, and can never stem from fear
of punishment or other negative
consequences.
Discipline: This is another huge
misconception in the world today.
Usually, we think of discipline as
something to be dreaded, as something so
horribly unpleasant and painful that
we’d rather simply avoid thinking about
it at all. Both at school and at home,
discipline is seen as a harsh,
nose-to-the-grindstone mentality devoid of
joy, spontaneity, happiness and
lightheartedness, something that, when you
have too much of it, destroys your
capacity for sensitivity, creativity and
openness. However, what is truly
disciplined about an attitude that
destroys joy, or happiness, or creativity?
Obviously, when you think about it, true
discipline must be able to enhance rather
than destroy these qualities, because true
discipline should be able to function in a
manner that can enhance and strengthen any
positive quality; when you think about it,
that is the whole point of discipline: to
be able to do anything, no matter what,
and channel your energy into any positive
quality you desire.
For a moment, close your eyes and intend
to embrace the kind of “discipline”
you were taught as a child – the
nose-to-the-grindstone kind of discipline.
What happens to your body and mind when
you do that? Your body, particularly the
muscles in your arms and solar plexus,
contract and become tense, your awareness
shrinks and becomes more rigid, and you
feel trapped, tense, impinged upon and
stressed. You can easily see now that
such a mind-body state is destructive, and
is counterproductive to all activities as
well.
So what is genuine discipline? If you
consider that discipline is supposed to
make you capable of effective action even
in difficult or painful circumstances,
then that is exactly what true discipline
must be. Now, close your eyes and embrace
the ability to maintain awareness and act
effectively despite pain, distraction, or
difficult circumstances. What happens in
your body and mind when you do that? The
muscles in your lower abdomen and
sphincter become firm and resistant to
negativity, and your whole body and mind
becomes firm and focused, a completely
different mind-body state than the
stressful, rigid, contracted mind-body
state you were told was discipline when
you were young.
Apology: Most of us think of apology as
something that is inherently painful,
difficult, and stressful, a kind of
self-punishment that we would much rather
not have to do. We think of it as a
humiliating admission of our own
awfulness, as if we were to say
“Something is inherently wrong with me
and I deserve to be hated and rejected.”
But if you think about it, how does
self-hatred heal either ourselves or those
we wish to apologize to? What does
self-punishment do to solve the problems
that caused us to want to apologize in the
first place? Obviously, something is very
wrong with our conception of true
apology.
To discover what true apology is, we need
to first think of what apology is supposed
to do. Apology, ideally, is supposed to
be a kind of sensitivity to the suffering
of others and heartfelt remorse at our
negative actions, not because we hate
ourselves, but because we feel compassion
and empathy for those we have harmed. It
is a similar feeling to what happens when
one has been emotionally numb and regains
one’s emotional sensitivity and
awareness and experiences emotional pain,
not because one is creating further pain
within oneself, but because the pain was
already there and one has simply become
aware of it, just as if one had shut
one’s eyes while a fire was burning all
around them and then opened them and seen
the fire which already had been burning.
For a moment, close your eyes and intend
to embrace compassion for someone you have
hurt, not rooted to self-hatred but rooted
in self-love, in the recognition that
compassion for the suffering of those we
have hurt actually heals us and is
something that is good for us. Embrace
the feeling that you see this person not
as someone else, but as yourself, and wish
to alleviate their suffering out of
compassion for both yourself and the
person you have hurt. What happens to
your body and mind when you do this? Your
awareness, particularly in your heart,
expands compassionately to include this
person, and you have a desire to heal
their pain. Moreover, you feel closer are
more connected to this person, and really
begin to sense your very own self within
him, and thus find it much easier to truly
wish to heal his or her pain. Note,
however, that there is no
self-flagellation or self-hatred in this
feeling, only an authentic desire to heal
the suffering of the person you have
harmed. So you can see that apology is
about healing ourselves and others, not
about feeling awful about ourselves or
dwelling on our past mistakes.
There are literally hundreds of these
types of misconceptions in the world
today, enough to write a very large book
about, and the number of misconceptions in
modern society currently seems to be on
the increase. So how do you go about
identifying and freeing yourself from all
the misconceptions you are bombarded with
on a daily basis? The first way to
identify whether a certain concept, or
intention, is negative, is to ask yourself
these question: does this intention or
emotion produce emotional and physical
tension, constriction, contraction,
agitation, collapse, or confusion? Or
does it produce expansiveness,
flexibility, softness, firmness, clarity,
or calmness? Experiment with the
intention you want to know more about
until you can determine whether it is
positive or negative. Once you have
determined whether the intention is
positive or negative, you can either
practice the intention if it happens to be
positive, or refuse that same emotion the
intention creates if it intention turns
out to be negative. As you experiment
with intentions, it also helps to
simultaneous embrace both intuitiveness,
positive sensitivity, and clarity to help
you clearly perceive whether an intention
is positive or negative. A calm, quiet
environment is also conducive to such
experimentation as well, as freedom from
distractions will allow you to
effortlessly focus on perceiving the
nature of the intentions you’re
experimenting with.
IV. Aspects Of Intention
I've discovered that there's a lot more
to intentions than I previously thought. I
experimented with intentions for a few
months until I was certain that there are
actually several separate aspects to each
intention, just like there are many
different sides of a cube or a prism. All
of these aspects are unified in that they
all go together in every intention, but it
is a good idea to go over these specific
aspects anyway, because if we understand
all the aspects to intention, we have much
more control over our intentions and can
use them more precisely and more
efficiently. Here are the aspects of
intention (that I have discovered so far):
1.) Intentional "Form": This concept is
very difficult to understand, but I
somewhat covered it in my previous post.
Intentional form is the base intention -
for instance, the intent to give, or
receive, or refuse, or embrace. For
instance, consider the fact that you could
give somebody anything - a bird, a shoe, a
coin, whatever you want to give them - but
all of these actions use the same
intentional form or base intention - the
intent to give. Now, let's translate this
into mental intentions - you could choose
to give somebody love, warm sympathy,
calmness, or whatever you wish. Despite
the fact that these are all different
emotions you can give, the intentional
form is the same: to give. It has a
distinct feel of offering, regardless of
what you choose to offer. It is not too
difficult to see how this principle
applies to the intent to give, but it is
more difficult to understand how it
applies to many intentions. Take, for
instance, the intent to refuse. Most
people think of refusal as necessarily
angry and rigid, but this is absolutely
not the case. Imagine this: somebody
chooses to refuse anger that is in his
mind in order to quell it and get rid of
it; effectively, his intention could be
said to be an antidote to anger. Now,
intend to refuse anger, not angrily, but
to simply refuse anger with the
understanding that this will make you
coolheaded, the opposite of hostile and
angry. Intend to refuse anger both
physically and mentally. What happens?
Your shoulders drop and you experience a
pleasant sinking sensation, and truly feel
coolheaded! Now, to see how the same
intent, the intent to refuse, can be used
in a different way, intend to refuse fear,
both mentally and physically. What
happens? Your spine lengthens and becomes
taller, your head becomes poised and
slightly tilted upwards with firmness, and
your whole body and mind feel firm and
fearless. Now you can see that those two
different intentions, despite having the
same base intent (to refuse), have very
different effects indeed!
2.) Intentional "Essence": To begin to
understand this principle, think back to
the fact that you can give somebody
whatever you wish - a coin, a dog, a
peanut, whatever. Despite the fact that
the action of giving somebody a coin, a
dog or a peanut uses the same basic
intent, the intent to give, the actions
themselves are completely different
because of WHAT you decided to give them.
Mental intentions work the same way; for
instance, the intent to give yourself love
and the intent to give yourself compassion
are completely different, and have
different effects. The same is true of
other intentions, although in many cases
it is harder to visualize how this
principle works with them. Take, for
instance, the intent to embrace. Normally,
we think of the intent to embrace as only
an expression of love, but this is
actually not the case. Have you ever read
somewhere that society needs to "embrace
the spirit of kindness" or "embrace
positive change"? From these examples it
is clear that the intent to embrace can be
used to embrace ANY kind of emotion and
draw it nearer and dearer to us - in other
words the intend to embrace makes us more
like what we choose to embrace. Now,
intend to embrace compassion, mentally and
physically. How do you feel? You feel a
kind of pure gentleness wash over you -
that's the best description I can come up
with. Now, intend to embrace groundedness.
What happens? You feel much more solid,
and immovable in a positive sense. So as
you can see, the intent to embrace has
completely different effects depending on
what you choose to embrace. The same is
true for all other intentions.
3.) Object: This aspect of intention is
also somewhat difficult to understand.
Imagine for a moment that you had a weapon
from the distant future that could target
any object in the universe - not by
shooting, but by mere intention. Imagine
that you could have the weapon, say, blow
up a planet a trillion light years from
your location, or cause a supernova on the
other side of the universe. Intentions
function exactly like this. For instance,
an example of this principle that is easy
to understand is the intention to give.
You can give, for instance, a present to
somebody in Japan or even to yourself! So
too, you can give love to yourself, to
your mother who is 2000 miles away, or to
any person, place or object whose
existance you are aware of. This principle
applies to all other intentions as well.
For instance, if you wanted to refuse
fear, you could refuse fear in your self,
or you could refuse fear in another person
in Japan. If you were aware of a person's
existance on the other side of the
universe, you could refuse fear in that
person as well! I absolutely know
intentions work this way because my uncle
as well as my mom's friend have done
intentional healing on me from great
distances, even as far as Ohio (where my
uncle lives) to New Jersey (where I live).
Intentions, in other words, can have any
target whatsoever; they are nonlocal, and
can be used anywhere.
4.) Origin: This concept is very easy to
understand when applied to the physical
body. For instance, you could use your
right hand to give a flower to anyone or
anything – the origin of that action is
your right hand in all cases, regardless
of the object of that intention.
Similarly, you could give your friend that
same flower with your right hand, left
hand, or any part of your body you can
move, and in this case, despite the fact
that the object of your intention remains
the same in each case, the origin of your
intention is different in each case. Now,
intend to embrace compassion with your
heart, and make the object of your
intention your belly. You should feel
compassion flow to your belly, and also
feel that you used your heart to generate
this intention. Now, intend to give
compassion to your heart using your belly.
How do you feel? Your heart feels more
compassionate in this case, despite the
fact that you used your belly to generate
this intention.
Practically speaking, it is good to use
various parts of your mental, emotional
and physical bodies to generate, or be the
origin, of your intentions, because doing
so trains those parts of you to not merely
receive positive energy, but to also
actively generate positive energy as well.
It’s just like weightlifting: you train
your mental and emotional “muscle” to
be stronger and conditioned in positive
ways. For example, if you feel that you
habitually hold your neck tense, it is
good to use your intentions to relax your
neck using your neck itself; this way, you
not only relax your neck, but actively
train your neck to act in a relaxed manner
itself.
5.) Level: Intentions can work on many
different levels, either alone or
simultaneously. For example, we can intend
to give ourselves love on the mental
level, on the physical level, or on both
simultaneously. We can also more
specifically intend on different levels of
the body and/or mind: you can work with
intentions on the level of the ego, the
level of emotional perception, the level
of sensory perception, the deep muscles in
the body, the energy channels in the body,
etc. This aspect of intention is extremely
important when one wants to use intentions
to heal, because, just like a doctor that
treats a specific part of the body, it
allows us to heal more efficiently and
rapidly and not waste our energy on
different levels or locations in the body
and mind that aren't as critical as
others.
6.) Strength: This factor is very easy to
understand when you think of lifting
weights. For example, somebody may be
able to carry a light weight for a very
long period of time, whereas they would be
able to carry a much heavier weight for a
much shorter duration. Similarly, with
intentions, you can comfortably do an
intention at moderate strength for an
extended period of time, or you can give
it your all and generate a much more
powerful intention for perhaps a few
seconds, if you really strain. Unless
it’s a pressure situation and you need
to generate an extremely powerful emotion
right away, it’s best to do intentions
at a moderate and gentle strength and not
to push too hard. Like all things, if you
push too hard in your intentions, you will
burn yourself out and perhaps even stress
yourself out. Use only so much strength
in your intentions that you will still be
able to do your intentions for at least a
few minutes at a time. Just take it easy
and don’t push too hard.
7.) Purpose: This factor isn't actually
associated with actual intentions or
actions, but constitutes why we intend and
act. For example, the intent to be
creative and mentally flexible when you
design nuclear weapons really isn't the
intention to be creative and flexible:
underneath it all, the intent is to
destroy. So this factor consitutes the
ethical basis for intentions, and keeps us
grounded with the knowledge that not only
intentions but what we use our intentions
FOR is equally important. You have to get
both aspects right to be positive and
effective.
8.) Time: This factor is fairly obvious,
but it should be included anyway. You can
do your intentions any time you want for
however long you want.
V. The Levels At Which Intentions Work
Intentions, as I have stated before,
operate at every level of the personality,
mind and body. Just as the body’s many
different systems, i.e., the limbic
system, circulatory system, central
nervous system and so forth always operate
at the same time, yet can operate in
vastly different ways at the same time,
the same is true of intentions. Our ego
(self-sense), mind, senses and body all
are constantly under the influence of
intentions. Though there are probably
more, here are the levels which I have
discovered so far:
1.) The Ego. Most people nowadays
associate ego with many negative
characteristics: selfishness,
monstrousness, callousness, narcissism,
and so forth. But the ego is actually the
core of who we are: it is, to put it
bluntly, what makes us us. All
intentions, perceptions and emotions begin
at the level of the ego; we say “I am
angry,” “I am sad,” and so forth.
The sense of ego always precedes all other
emotions and perceptions we may have.
Therefore, the ego is by far the most
important aspect of ourselves to work
with, because it is our core and our
foundation.
In truth, it is not an expansive or
strong ego that is the basis for negative
behavior, but a weak ego. A person that
needs to bully and abuse others to have a
sense of power and control in his life,
logically, does not have a strong sense of
self; the dependence on brutality and
abusiveness and the kind of twisted
feedback that one is “strong” is
actually indicative of a very weak ego. A
person who is secure in himself does not
require feedback from others to determine
how he feels about himself; a person with
a less strong sense of self might require
positive feedback from the outside in
order to feel at ease with himself; most
of us fall into this category. The
weakest type of person needs others to be
terrified or harmed by him in order to
feel “secure” and “powerful”,
though the kind of “self-sense” gained
from such action is actually just a rigid,
childish form of weakness – in other
words, these negative behaviors cannot
possibly enrich those who engage in them,
because they are, fundamentally, negative
intentions – they affect those who
harbor them first before they can be used
to harm anyone else.
So you can see it is of the greatest
importance to work with the ego with our
intentions. Now, close your eyes and
intend to give your ego love and firmness;
do this intention for about five minutes,
and let yourself just experience it
without a break. How do you feel? You
should feel much stronger, much firmer,
much less vulnerable to criticism or other
negative external influences, and above
all, you should feel more secure and
peaceful. If your ego is happy (in other
words, if your inner core is happy), your
mind and even your body are far more
likely to be happy as well.
2.) The Mind. The mind is an aspect of
ourselves most people in modern society
tend to have heard much about. It is seen
like a kind of organ which is very
delicate and impressionable, subject to
all kinds of negative external influences
and, ultimately, impossible to control.
However, as I have stated in the first
chapter “Universal Intentions” you can
see that you do indeed have control over
your mind in terms of the kind of
intentions you choose to use, and also in
terms of other health-related factors,
like proper sleep, diet, and so forth. It
is true that our minds can indeed be
damaged by negative experiences, but
fortunately we are also able to
consciously, intentionally influence our
minds as well. What is very sad is that
most people are unaware they have such
power, but if you have read this article,
then you are one of those who know that
you can consciously influence your mind.
Just as the ego is our core, the mind is
the next layer in the progression from our
core to the environment. We use it to
feel, think, and generally experience life
emotionally; it is literally our emotional
eyes and ears which we use to experience
life. As the ego is the author or
initiator of actions, as well as our sense
of self, the mind is one of the
receptacles that stores and digests
impressions and experiences. However, we
can consciously use intentions that
influence how the mind develops and
changes, and how it digests experiences.
Intend for a few minutes to give your mind
invincibility, the ability to be
absolutely impervious to negative
experiences. How do you feel? You should
feel much more invulnerable and firm. So
you can see that despite the fact that the
mind is impressionable, we can work to
make it so strong that external influences
no longer have sway over us.
3.) The Senses. The senses are
responsible for physical perception –
our physical senses, like smell, taste and
touch. The senses are not specifically
designed to generate emotion, but they too
play a part in the intentional process –
they are instrumental in the psychosomatic
process. For instance, if you have a
nervous tick or a sensation of
psychosomatic discomfort, like restless
legs, or, in particular, oversensitivity
or dullness of the senses, as in the case
with many people who are on the autistic
spectrum (like me), then working with the
senses can be extremely beneficial. Keep
your eyes open and intend to give your
sense of vision love for a minute; don’t
think too much, just do it and see what
happens. You should feel much more at
ease, and should also experience visual
sensations as non-threatening and even
nurturing. So you can see that the
physical sense organs, and the ease or
lack thereof of how they function,
contributes greatly to your overall
feeling of comfort or lack thereof.
4.) The Body. This is the most obvious
aspect of ourselves, and is just as
crucial to our well being as scientists
would have us believe. If you read the
first chapter “Universal Intentions”
you have already experienced how
intentions can be used to shape the body,
but it’s good to do it again to see once
more how this happens. Close your eyes
and intent to physically refuse fear; your
posture should grow tall, your head
slightly tilted back with fearlessness,
and you should physically feel more firm
and fearless. In extremely pressured
situations or in situations that demand
quick action, it’s best to work with the
body, because unlike the ego, mind or
senses, it is very solid, easy to observe,
and can be used to ground yourself in
stressful situations.
VI. Qualities Of Intentions
Although the second chapter of this
article explained “Intentional
Essence” as the key to what kind of
emotion we intend, this concept needs
further explanation. There are many
different qualities of energy – some are
very destructive and low-quality, which
are the weakest forms of energy, and some
are extremely nurturing or resilient –
higher forms of energy. You can actually
divide intentions and emotions into four
different categories in this way.
1.) Negative Intentions: Everybody is all
too familiar with these; anger, envy,
fear, sadness, and all other negative
emotions belong here. Negative intentions
and emotions fundamentally share one
quality: they destroy the mind and body.
For example, sadness makes the mind and
body weak; anxiety makes the mind and body
tense, constricted and agitated; dullness
shuts down the body and mind. Negative
intentions thus manifest as tension,
weakness, imbalance, hardness, smallness,
and dullness. These sensations are not
merely mental – they can be observed in
the body when they are occurring as well.
Think back to the exercise when you picked
up a kitchen knife and pretended you were
about to kill someone with it, and
remember how your body became tense,
twisted and hard. Whenever you experience
a negative emotion, simply intend to
refuse the negative emotion you are
experiencing and intend to embrace or
receive the opposite positive emotion. In
this way, you can effectively work with
negative emotions and sensations as they
arise in your body and mind.
2.) Positive Intentions: Most of us have
experienced at least some variety of
positive emotions, like love, joy,
calmness, satisfaction, fulfillment, and
so on. Like negative intentions, positive
intentions all share one fundamental
trait: they heal, strengthen and nourish
the mind and body. For example, love
makes us soft and nurturing; firmness
makes us impervious to negativity, both
from within and from the environment; joy
enlivens us and opens up our minds and
bodies. Positive intentions may manifest
as openness, clarity, liveliness,
softness, firmness, calmness, balance,
expansiveness, and connectedness, and as
with negative intentions, positive
intentions are not merely mental, but
physical as well. Think back to the
exercise in which you thought of the
person you love the most, and how your
whole body expanded and relaxed when you
thought of him or her. To consciously
cultivate a positive emotion, simply
intend to embrace or receive that positive
emotion and intend to refuse the opposite
negative emotion. In this way, you can
consciously control your mind and body and
choose to experience any positive emotion
you desire.
3.) Perfect Intentions: This concept is
initially very difficult to understand.
To begin to understand what perfect
intentions are, imagine an emotion so pure
that it is both impervious to negative
influences and is completely satisfying
and not lacking in any way. Well, it is
possible to work with such perfect
emotions! Perfect emotions manifest in
the body as all positive qualities rolled
into one – a sense of sublime
satisfaction, calmness and contentment
where you no longer feel you are lacking
anything. Close your eyes and intend to
give yourself perfect love – love that
is everlasting, invincible, and could
satisfy you forever. Your posture should
become tall yet utterly relaxed, expansive
yet totally self-controlled – the
combination of all the positive qualities
you can imagine. However, you should also
feel a sense of sublime love that is
rooted in this perfect state. Now, close
your eyes and intend to embrace perfect
calmness. How do you feel? You feel the
same absolute satisfaction as you felt
when you gave yourself perfect love, yet
at the same time you feel a kind of
calmness that is rooted in that same
perfection. However, when working with
intentions like the intent to refuse or
eliminate, instead of working with
perfectly positive emotions, work instead
with absolutely negative emotions. For
instance, if you wanted to refuse anger,
instead of refusing ordinary anger, you
would refuse anger that is absolute in its
negativity, [anger that could not be
uplifted no matter how much positive
emotional energy it was exposed to] I’m
not sure what it would mean to uplift
anger. The logic behind this is the same
logic used in math: negative times
negative equals positive, and in this
case, one of those negative numbers is
absolute negativity. Now, close your eyes
and intend to refuse absolute fear. How
do you feel? You should feel a positive
resistance to fear that brings you to a
state of complete satisfaction, just as
embracing perfect love did. So you can
see that perfect intentions are all alike
in that they all yield a perfected state
of being, and yet different nonetheless,
just as if you had a perfect diamond that
changed color depending upon the angle you
looked at it. Working with perfect
intentions is far superior to ordinary
positive intentions, for perfect
intentions leave nothing to be desired,
and produce much stronger results.
4.) Infinite Intentions: This is perhaps
the most difficult concept to understand
in this entire book, but when you
understand how to work with infinite
intentions, you will never want to work
with any other type of intention. Imagine
a kind of emotion that isn’t simply
perfect and absolutely satisfying, but
infinite in its quality, intensity and
quantity – absolutely infinite in every
way possible. Infinite intentions yield a
mind-body state that can only be described
as infinite being – that is, infinite
calmness, infinite connectedness with
everything, and in particular, the
expansion of your sense of self to include
literally everything. Have you ever
experienced such an intention? Though
this doesn’t mean you will become aware
of everything out there, it does mean you
will feel connected to everything you can
see or think of. Above all, in the
deepest and most powerful way possible,
infinite intentions yield the feeling that
one is “ok,” not as in neutrality or
even perfect satisfaction, but more like
one is infinitely at peace. Now, close
your eyes, and intend to embrace infinite
love – a love of infinite quality,
quantity and intensity. Do this for a few
minutes and really let the intention
deeply affect your mind and body. How do
you feel? You should feel a kind of
profound love so sublime it couldn’t
possibly be any better, as well as
infinite peace and connectedness to
everything you can see, hear, smell, think
of, or otherwise experience. You should
feel, above all, at home. So you can see
that working with infinite intentions is
the best of all, and generates emotions
and experiences that are so profound that
everything else we have experienced simply
pales in comparison to them.
VII. Kime - A Martial Arts Concept Applied
To Intentions
There's a technique used in many
different martial arts called "kime" (a
word of Japanese origin) that allows
martial artists to attack much more
effectively and with much less risk of
injury. Here's how it works: normally,
people intend to simply punch at their
target, but with kime, you intend to punch
through your target; in other words, the
goal isn't to punch your target, but to
punch beyond your target, to aim with your
mind as far beyond your target as you can.
To see how this same principle is applied
in our daily lives, think of this: if you
have a homework assignment to complete,
and it has to be done in two hours, if you
pretend it has two be done in 15 minutes,
you'll get it done much quicker than if
you give yourself that mental luxury of
thinking that you have two hours to do the
assignment. As you have probably
experienced, convincing yourself that the
assignment has to be done in 15 minutes
rather than the two hours you actually
have makes you try harder and mobilizes
more of your mental energy. The same
applies to intentions. If you want to
intend to give yourself love, that is all
well and good, but it's not the most
effective way to use your intentions;
instead, intend to give yourself beyond
what you need, as far beyond as you can
intend. Note that this is not the intent
to go beyond (that would not be a
universal intention), but the
“Intentional Essence” of what you
intend – that is, you could give
yourself, for example, “beyond” love.
I've discovered that all variations of the
intent to go beyond fit into three basic
categories:
1.) Quality. Examples: Beyond purity,
beyond refinement, beyond compassion;
better, higher, greater.
2.) Intensity. Examples: Beyond strong,
beyond powerful. This would mean, for
instance, one would intend to go beyond
the strength of the intention you can do.
It wouldn't mean you would try to generate
an intention with a quality "beyond" the
quality of strength; that would fit into
category 1.
3.) Amount. Examples: Beyond alot, beyond
enough.
If you need a real life example to wrap
your mind around, think of pain: it has
three basic variables - type of pain
(quality), intensity of pain (intensity),
and amount of pain (size of the area of
your body affected, volume). Now, intend
to simply give yourself love. Note how
you feel. Now, intend to give yourself
“beyond” love in terms of beyond the
amount, beyond the quality, and beyond the
intensity your intentions would normally
be able to generate. You should feel a
much greater effect than you got when you
simply intended to give yourself love.
VIII. Getting The Most Out Of Your
Intentions
There are many ways to make your
intentions much more efficient and
effective. Just as it is possible to move
ten thousand pound boulders using only
wooden planks and small rocks as levers,
and possible to provide power to tens of
millions of people using just the force
created by falling water from a dam, it is
possible to use your intentions in many
ingenious and effective ways. Some of
these methods combine certain intentions
that work well together; some of these
methods use different ways of focusing
your mind on specific energy centers
within the body or on certain parts of the
body; some of these methods use the
body’s natural ability to heal itself;
and, finally, some of these methods use
even different kinds of means than these
to heal the body and mind. Here are just
some of the ways you can enhance your
intentions:
Use Intentions In Combinations. You’ve
already used the intent to embrace certain
positive emotions while refusing the
opposite negative emotion quite a few
times already if you’ve read this far.
However, there is much more to using
intentional combinations than just this.
Certain emotions act as catalysts for each
other; for example, calmness is greatly
enhanced by equanimity, the ability to
withstand negativity and remain unshaken,
as equanimity therefore makes calmness
invincible, as it prevents negative
emotions such as agitation from disturbing
calmness. Clarity and intelligence are
also catalysts for each other; mental
clarity is greatly enhanced by
intelligence, or the ability to organize
experience; additionally, it is enhanced
by alertness, the positive desire to know
the truth, and many more positive
emotions. Of course, just as you’ve
read already, the simultaneous intent to
refuse the negative opposites of these
emotions acts as yet a further catalyst to
the effectives of your intentions, as does
working with intentions that strengthen
your ego, its identification with itself,
and expanding its identity to include
others. Lastly, and most importantly, the
intent to embrace or give yourself
self-love and other positive emotions
toward yourself and the simultaneous
intent to refuse self-hate and other
negative emotions toward the self like
self-loathing, etc., enhance every other
positive intention you choose to do. You
can see that the possibilities for using
intentions in combinations with each other
for additional effectiveness is literally
infinite. Unfortunately, it would take
hundreds of thousands of pages to list all
the possible positive emotions and the
emotions that act as catalysts for them,
but here is a short list of important
emotions and their catalysts to help you
along in your practice of intentions:
Self-love is enhanced by: compassion for
oneself, goodwill toward oneself,
unconditional tolerance of oneself,
forgiveness of oneself, and refusal of the
opposite negative emotions.
Joy is enhanced by: inspiration, optimism,
the ability to see goodness in people and
situations, appreciativeness, gratitude,
playfulness, spontaneity, and refusal of
the opposite negative emotions.
Forgiveness is enhanced by: tenderness,
motherly love, compassion, letting go of
negativity, surrender, and refusal of the
opposite negative emotions.
Compassion is enhanced by: empathy, warm
sympathy, love, expanded ego identity to
include others and things we normally
consider “outside ourselves”, positive
concern for others’ well-being.
Centering Consciousness. Initially, this
concept is somewhat difficult to
understand. To begin to understand what
centering consciousness in a particular
place within our body, think back to when
you had something to eat so delicious that
you were so overcome with pleasure that
you literally stopped seeing and paying
attention to anything around you are were
totally engrossed in how good that food
tasted – even if this experience lasted
just for a few seconds, or even an
instant. Yet, thinking about these kind
of experiences in this way, we are driven
to inquire what, exactly, made us stop
being aware of everything around us except
the taste of that delicious food. Why did
we seem to lose the rest of our
perception, and yet not fall flat on our
face due to clumsiness as we enjoyed the
taste of that food? Why did the whole
world seem to disappear, except for that
delicious taste? The answer is focus.
However, we are usually taught from very
infancy that focus means narrowing our
attentio