hi thr, maybe thr wont be anyone seing my post but anyway i want to express my feelings . i am 18 and i have no friends at all well i have facebook and have alot of fb friends but when i on facebook no people will even bother if i am online ,if u know what i mean .many people who have fb juz will accept any friend request so i have alot of friend becoz i request alot in fb but they are juz 'friend' not real friend and thr is like 99%ppl i dun even chat with in fb, when i on fb thr is about 50+ppl online but no one i can chat with .in school i have only few friends ,this holiday is my worst holiday i call up my friends to go out but they kept find reasons to say that they are busy and the whole holiday is so boring and i am always at home but my younger brother who have many friends who give a damn about him goes out often .i envy him so much.but i love my brother he is like my friend but it is not the same .i am lost now no ppl call me for christmas party or new year countdown and i am always with my best friend the laptop =( .well my new year wish is i wish i can have 3 kinds of love ,couple love ,family love and friendship love and i have none of it now and i also wish that thr is only me who suffer this kind of pain coz it really hurts i wish everyone in the world have friends .
Heys =] I know exactly how you feel, i had this going on for years. Then i went to uni, got some confidence and realised that i simply wasn't talking or getting involved enough! I would avoid talking to people if i could and i always avoided events or clubs. You need to get involved in everything you can find like clubs for anything (football, drama, art, anything at all) =], take up every invite you get too if you can, branch out. And the biggest thing of all, speak your mind, people get bored easily, so you need to talk loads, you don't need specific topics! Just be spontaneous or even "goofy", be the person who is random and fun to be with. For example, if you go do find a club u want to join and you go, circulate, talk to everyone who looks remotely nice. Smile first, then say something relatable to the place your in like: Woah, lots of chairs in here, you could say its particularly chairy, in a very chairy way!
Ok thats an odd example, but don't be afraid to be silly in front of people, it makes them feel less uncomfortable and before you know it your chatting! Good luck dude! ^^
Keep in mind that it doesn't take long to develop habits. If its your habit to be alone and get on the laptop, make a snack, maybe a big yummy snack, and mull over your lack of social life, well, then that's probably what you are going to do the next day. And the next day. You can get super used to it, so much that if you did something else you might almost miss it. Weird isn't it? Like, the thought of doing something totally random, something fun and positive you've never done, can seem like its just not an option - even though it totally IS an option. Anything, talk to a stranger at lunch, maybe they will like you or maybe not. Just getting a response will teach you something.
When you are in a time of your life when lots of people are calling, when you can't even make it to all the parties you have available, do you think you are really thinking about whether someone is going to call you or not? No, you are just living with a totally different set of mental habits and ways of interacting with people.
Feeling down really is a habit. The truth is no one will make it go away but you, because if its someone else's job to make it go away, then you won't do it on your own, and they will have to do it forever. Think about it if you had to cheer someone else up every single day. Or, instead, what if you could use that energy instead to have fun with someone who was already up?
Its how everyone feels. Everyone gets down but some people don't know how to pull themselves out of it. Sometimes its as easy as healthy habits and exercise. Once you do pull out of it, even its by chance, don't expect magic to keep you happy, you have to work a little to keep the momentum going! Even when things don't work out socially, try something new and different, watch, feel and listen to the feedback you get from the world. If you don't know what to say, just listen and take interest, ask questions, people love to talk about themselves and how great they are.