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Q: A broken heart even though theres still a chance..
asked by: kimlaws on March 14th, 2009
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My boyfriend...the one man that has actually ever been good to me..is leaving me after tomorrow. He says hes not ready to settle down (We're 16 and 17..me being 17..and I never said I ever wanted that serious of a relationship. If we were to get that far, great, if not, then...), he doesnt want as serious of a relationship as he thinks I want (and we lost our virginity to eachother...how can he expect that not to be serious?), and hes scared that with all the crap going on lately his stress will build up too much and he'll take it out on me...
He says that hes still in love with me...and that theres a good chance that we could get together again after everything clears up...
Which Im happy about..but..Im also going through a lot...and I cant handle this much more emotional stress...
There are so many more things that play into this...

Im just scared that...even if he does love me..that there will never be a chance for us again...
Even if he does say theres a chance...

I want to be with him so badly...but Im scared that now I wont be able to be friends with him over this...weve always acted like a couple...weve pretty much always been a couple...

I feel like I wont be able to tell him I love him anymore even though he says I still can...
I feel like Im losing the person i love the most..Im head over heels for him...and I dont want to lose him..
I dont know how to deal with this...
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jlai54
replied on March 15th, 2009
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Hey,
You are still young, and there are more guys out there. If he needs time to clear up, there is a chance he may or may not want to stay together with you as a couple. If he says he doesn't want a serious relationship with you as you want it with him, there is really nothing you can do. In the end, you will have to move on eventually and he may not be the one for you. Focus on other things in your life like university/college, friends, etc. It will help you deal with what you are going through.
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kimlaws
replied on March 16th, 2009
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Actually...
I went over to his house to talk to him about it yesterday...
And he told me that he sat up and thought all night..and that he wants to stay together.
So..since this is spring break, we're going to take the week off from seeing eachother so that he can get his stress levels down a bit more. Then next week I guess it will almost be as if we're starting over new =)
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ServiceU
replied on May 1st, 2009
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it's hard to answer your question b/c you are very young.
i was going through something in my life and i was in love with my boyfriend& he was there for me (i wanted him to be) and it made our relationship stronger and me love him even more for being there.
this is the reason why adults tell young people to wait...because of the feelings that comes with a relationship and the hurt afterward.
is he really going through something?
do you think hes trying to breakup with you in a nice way?
if it was meant for you two to be together, then things will fall into place.
guys are usually young immature, confused at that age. give him some space and dont get upset over it b/c you dont know what he's going through.
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