From the individual perspective, it is the wise person, who connects with those that he resonates and harmonizes with, recognizing what he gains by contributing to the group, while at the same time setting and maintaining his individual integrity to protect himself. It is important to consider that group relationships should be flexible, dynamic and unselfish, that there must be a balance between the actions and agendas of each individual, while appreciating the beneficial strength and integrity of the "group". But again, there must remain the opening for healing through forgiveness and atonement when mistakes are made by human error, poor judgement, or even ignorance. Ironically, it is the decision to not allowing for the possibility of forgiveness or atonement, that brings one to the "safety" of isolation, but is that really a desirable goal? Again, will the resulting probable consequences not be misery, depression, and illness? . Alfred Lord Tennyson put it well, when he said, " Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."