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where do the things we love go after death?

September 27th, 2010 by MissBert
My beloved Pathfinder is going to the junkyard this week.  I've had it since Memorial Day weekend of 1994 and driven it a hair under 150,000 miles.  (It saddens me to think it will never reach that milestone.)  I am sure, in my heart, that we see those we loved again on the other side.   Everyone with pets knows about the rainbow bridge (look it up, bring tissues).   A while back, I talked about the Elsewhere Bar, where those with dementia and Alzheimer's go to find themselves again after death.  I'm sure my dad's the greeter, slapping them on the back and helping them find a seat.  Outside in the field, of course, are all our pets, and other loved ones wander about doing whatever it is one does in whatever form of heaven one believes in.
But where's my car?  I love my car almost as much as I love my pets.  I can't bear to think that it's being cubed/crushed (after being an organ donor--they're taking everything worth anything off it first) and that's it, just like I can't bear to think that death is just a candle going out and there's nothing on the other side.  (Belief in heaven is the only thing stopping me from being an atheist.)   So I've added a new territory, of sorts, to my concept of heaven, and now the Elsewhere Bar has a parking lot.  My dad's old Corvette can hang out with my Pathfinder, and any other cars that were much beloved when they were on the road. 
As I kept going in Meriden Hyundai trying out cars and talking to various sales people, it got easier not to see my dad there.  Easier to say "I'm Bob's daughter" and realize the person I'm talking to didn't know him.  But oftentimes in the process (which still isn't over) I got frustrated.  I wanted my father, just so he could EXPLAIN things to me.  So I'd know no one was ripping me off. Not that they would, but I am paranoid when I'm spending that much money.
(Today is also a sad milestone. It's been a year since I had a bird.  Maybe that's why I'm sitting around thinking about death.)
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Nanala, I'm so sorry for your loss, my mother passed away in February 2011 with Lewy bodies dementia,a Parkinsons related illness.
she was on morphine for the last stages when she opened her eyes she said she couldn't see then later tried to speak but couldn't, then for fourteen days she went without food or drink, the nurses said they couldn't believe how long she fought for, mum just loved us so much she tried her hardest to stay with us, I'm sure she could hear and feel how much we ad
on 03-03-2012 05:21am by Ramsden
I too lost my Dad , May 2008, to Alz. at the age of 87. He also, had Parkinsonism He knew me until the end. I saw him 6 weeks prior and said , Dad , open your eyes,(He kept them closed the last 7 months of life) he opened them, looked directly at me and said my name. I, along, with my grandchildren 4 & 9 held his hand and he smiled. He is at a more relaxed place and I know he looks after me. Unfortunately, my 44 year old son has Gaucher, Parkinsons and early Alz. He comes in and out of k
on 10-13-2010 19:49pm by nanala
I too lost my Dad , May 2008, to Alz. at the age of 87. He also, had Parkinsonism He knew me until the end. I saw him 6 weeks prior and said , Dad , open your eyes,(He kept them closed the last 7 months of life) he opened them, looked directly at me and said my name. I, along, with my grandchildren 4 & 9 held his hand and he smiled. He is at a more relaxed place and I know he looks after me. Unfortunately, my 44 year old son has Gaucher, Parkinsons and early Alz. He comes in and out of k
on 10-13-2010 19:47pm by nanala
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